USA: 60% of male managers now say they're uncomfortable mentoring women

fgrsentinel · 2019-05-17T23:15:26+00:00

"women already weren't getting the same mentorship men were, particularly women of color." And in her experience, she says, "no one has ever gotten a promotion without getting a one-on-one meeting."

Though some have argued that the #MeToo and Time's Up movements have had a negative impact on relationships between men and women at work, Sandberg disagrees. She says the movements have had an "overwhelmingly positive" impact on the workplace, especially in spotlighting the problem of sexual harassment against women.

...Something doesn't add up here. How can movements where men are targeted by potentially false sexual harassment accusations provide an "overwhelmingly positive" impact on the workplace when most male managers are too scared to risk their jobs to help women anymore?

"We need more women in positions of leadership, more people of color and more LGBTQ people," she says. "We need to change what leadership looks like in our organizations because we know that will lead to more safer and stronger workplaces."

Being all-inclusive doesn't mean quality individuals are being selected. It just means whoever fits the requirements for that job to seem to be all-inclusive gets picked. It's like picking the lowest bidder to make a mile-long bridge, telling them to use only the cheapest materials, and then wondering why it collapses after just a day.

BraveNewNight · 2019-05-17T21:53:30+00:00

Surprised that the increase over last year.

Blutarg · 2019-05-17T22:40:03+00:00

And the other 40% don't read the news.

LionVenom10 · 2019-05-18T00:43:25+00:00

The issue is, this article also places women as the victim.

Also “women need more mentoring” isn’t that mansplaining?

vxd386 · 2019-05-17T22:59:06+00:00

But women don't need any mentoring at all, especially from men. Because, you know, they're better than men. That's what the media says for decades.

So the only outcome can be less mansplaing. And that brings us to the conclusion that every kind of mentoring for women has to stop. 60% is not enough, we need 100%!

tenchineuro · 2019-05-17T23:46:57+00:00

Both she and Sandberg point out that sexual harassment is twice as likely to occur in organizations where men dominate the C-suite. That's why, Thomas says, it's imperative that men speak up and take action. "My suspicion is that a lot of good guys don't realize that by not actively mentoring, sponsoring or creating full access, that they're inadvertently part of the problem," Thomas says.

Better to be part of the problem than a casualty of the gender war.

As a solution, Thomas and Sandberg say any man who doesn't want to have work dinners with a woman should also not have work dinners with a man. Instead, they should have group dinners so that everyone is included.

As if that's any protection.

Justathrowawayoh · 2019-05-18T08:11:10+00:00

After watching my mentor get falsely accused of inappropriate conduct after he criticized a fellow summer attorney's crap work, I have always implemented the Billy Graham Rule at work. I am almost never alone with a female coworker and I am never alone with a female subordinate.

Door remains open. My admin sits in or listens to any discussions. I am not rare, this phenomena is sweeping professional life and it will harm women. Men only mentor out of the kindness of their hearts. Women have radically increased the risk involved to the point where most men take steps to reduce or eliminate that risk.

wwwhistler · 2019-05-18T02:27:18+00:00

once again...men do not have a right to their own feelings.

Samisseyth · 2019-05-18T02:22:57+00:00

I’m uncomfortable with it. Thankfully, women don’t choose to go into construction too much. MeToo brought about a big change that spooked all the guys. No one wants to tell women how to do their jobs or be alone with them.

It’s unfortunate that all it takes is a morally inept woman to point a finger and someones life is ruined. Whether they’re found guilty or not.

2019-05-18T06:41:43+00:00

Why would men want to mentor women when women are told 24/7 that they know better than all men 💯 of the time? And that men should have no opinion because only women’s opinions matter.... Its all bs

lahavior · 2019-05-18T11:29:31+00:00

Feminism creates a problem, feminists have a problem, and feminists blame men for problem, why am i not surprised?

ThePigmanAgain · 2019-05-17T22:57:41+00:00

And the other 40% are preparing "I'm secretly gay" stories.

UltimateHan · 2019-05-18T05:50:03+00:00

“Don’t harass me by talking to me”

“If you come and talk to me and it’s one on one then we should believe the victim and I could get you years in prison for rape”

“Men need to stop ignoring me and giving me pay raises, and going to dinner with me”

“Why do men never want to mentor me one-on-one? It’s probably their sexism”

2019-05-18T06:42:44+00:00

They should be. All these false rape accusation cases

SiliconeGiant · 2019-05-18T11:49:02+00:00

If I'm ever managing women again, I will have so many cameras in my office you'd think it was a reality show.

ShelSilverstain · 2019-05-18T07:57:05+00:00

Anybody who thinks these men are overreacting is delusional. A woman can decide she's done working and can just point to a bunch of times she's cried in the office after a mentoring session and claim that's proof she's been a victim

ChaosOpen · 2019-05-18T01:58:24+00:00

Can we get this posted to an archive link? I really don't want to join yahoo's "Oath" so that they can collect my browsing data.

Wylanderuk · 2019-05-18T09:58:21+00:00

"60% of male managers willing to admit this"

Aviconus · 2019-05-18T01:40:20+00:00

metoo

Deckardisdead · 2019-05-18T01:13:41+00:00

And the other 40% are liars.

hakoonamatata9 · 2019-05-18T10:29:02+00:00

Delusional cunts. 😂

Spooms2010 · 2019-05-18T02:15:09+00:00

Then...why don’t you get professional training to overcome any perceived issues...no? When I was a teacher, I helped train both men and women in my subject area. I read up on ideas and issues and got myself a female mentor to help train me on training others. If you plan on being a mentor, then you absolutely need to have a drive to being mentored yourself. That’s the whole idea behind ‘professional development’.

icesurfer10 · 2019-05-18T13:55:44+00:00

I think ultimately we all agree that everybody regardless of gender deserves the same mentoring and help in a work place. They really should have gone into more detail on why these statistics are in this way. This is a statistic that isn't healthy for men or women.

DignifiedAlpaca · 2019-05-18T14:42:12+00:00

Both she and Sandberg point out that sexual harassment is twice as likely to occur in organizations where men dominate the C-suite.

How do they know which is the cause and which is the effect here? Wouldn't it be a lot harder for women to get into the C-suite at companies that are twice as likely to sexually harass them?

That's why, Thomas says, it's imperative that men speak up and take action. "My suspicion is that a lot of good guys don't realize that by not actively mentoring, sponsoring or creating full access, that they're inadvertently part of the problem," Thomas says.

Wait a minute... Am I just misreading this paragraph, or are they seriously implying that men who don't mentor women are responsible for sexual harassment?

Regardless of how a man may feel about working with a woman, Thomas says there is "no excuse for not being a good manager, not being a good leader and not offering equal access to the mentorship and sponsorship that we know all employees need to succeed."

I guess offering no mentorship to anyone would be the best solution. That way it is equal for everyone, but still prevents getting accidentally #MeTooed as well.

noelogoutlaw · 2019-05-18T15:47:11+00:00

Never been a manager, but have mentored/supervised younguns in a wirk environment. Of course it's uncomfortable. Some of us are able to work with women worrying about the very real possibility of being accused of bad behavior. I'm more worried about warrantless search and seizures from cops.

azmareld · 2019-05-19T12:41:20+00:00

whamen are given increase in salary because of their gender and wage gap whining. I have seen that they work less and get same appraisal. Good way to use your feminism whining card.

The-beat-man · 2019-05-17T23:20:26+00:00

adults don't need mentoring

INTERLOPER_ETERNAL · 2019-05-18T02:37:01+00:00

Imagine that

INTERLOPER_ETERNAL · 2019-05-18T02:37:08+00:00

Imagine that

eleventhfromheaven · 2019-05-18T02:38:49+00:00

Yep that's how it is :/

UTRuser74 · 2019-05-18T02:40:07+00:00

Interviewed a woman for an entry level position just two days ago. She was flirting with me towards the end of the interview, holding her gaze with me, softly blinking her eyes at me. One of the hobbies she listed on her resume was “sunbathing”, which was solely intended to make the interviewer subliminally think of her in a nonprofessional manner. She failed the interview.

UTRuser74 · 2019-05-18T02:40:20+00:00

Interviewed a woman for an entry level position just two days ago. She was flirting with me towards the end of the interview, holding her gaze with me, softly blinking her eyes at me. One of the hobbies she listed on her resume was “sunbathing”, which was solely intended to make the interviewer subliminally think of her in a nonprofessional manner. She failed the interview.

RacinRandy83x · 2019-05-18T02:40:41+00:00

Must be because of the patriarchy /s

RacinRandy83x · 2019-05-18T02:40:43+00:00

Must be because of the patriarchy /s

RacinRandy83x · 2019-05-18T02:41:26+00:00

Must be because of the patriarchy /s

Pake1000 · 2019-05-18T02:44:02+00:00

If you cannot do the job you're hired to do, then you need to quit that job at you have become unqualified.

Pake1000 · 2019-05-18T02:47:09+00:00