gave random girl at gym a card with my name and number

moneymakingmiguel · 2018-08-29T07:30:01+00:00

Her response? Irrelevant. You approaching? Relevant. Keep it up.

SteveStJohn · 2018-08-29T10:52:37+00:00

Her response is a request to join your orbit. Let her. Others will notice this girl approaching you at gym. Reward her for that every time and you'll create a mystique about yourself.

Females are more motivated by what other females do than anything else. It will create a success spiral of an increasing number of females being interested in you because other females are interested in you.

Who knows, she might get caught up in it herself in a few months.

Good luck!

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-08-29T11:13:35+00:00

You need to work on your approach technique, but other than that you did fine...better than most guys who wouldn't approach. "Take Your Shot" sometimes fucks fair lady; "The Moment Wasn't Right" rides the bus home and beats off.

NeedingAdvice86 · 2018-08-29T15:20:21+00:00

This post surely brought out the bitter, jaded cynics on the forum...bhahahhahahahahha, lots of butthurt floating around in the responses.

She sounds like she might be somewhat naïve\young but thoughtful girl who isn't use to PUA or having random guys approaching her as you did....she is letting you down nicely instead of just ghosting as most women will do which is usually a sign of a girl who hasn't much experience. I would not get in a texting contest with her at all...just simple "thanks" or something. And just follow the advice of a couple of the more sane responses, to be chill with her\friendly and see if you can use her for social proof at the gym. It never hurts at the gym to be seen as safe at the gym with other women......it is a place where women guards are on force 10 because of all the test and bravado floating around most of them.

This post though can serve as a good lesson that in this forum, women CAN NEVER WIN.....you can see in the comments that the responses range from anger that she didn't immediately take up you on your offer for a fucking to calling her a cheating whore to her BF for responding to you at all.....it should tell you to always consider the biases and cynicism of the advice being given to you here. In the eyes of the vast majority of the responders, this girl lost as soon as you gave her the card, there was nothing she could have done which would have gotten thru their bitterness at what ever girl sent them here.

Think about that when evaluating any advice on the forum....

CainPrice · 2018-08-29T12:49:39+00:00

Ignore. She's not interested, you don't have time to be pen-pals with her, and you were after sex, not verbal praise and validation.

But take her advice and keep approaching women.

Maybe you see her at the gym again, in which case, don't be weird and awkward. Be friendly. Even a little flirty. There's a chance, albeit a very slim one, that you might be able to fuck this one. Don't bank on it. Keep fucking other girls in the mean time. But vaguely keep her on your radar.

She's not a good girlfriend. A good girlfriend wouldn't get hit on by a guy at the gym, then send a long string of texts to the guy. She'd tell you, on the spot, that she's taken, or just thank you for your number and never text you. Do you think she told her boyfriend that some guy hit on her at the gym today? And that she was going to text him back to encourage him? Fuck no. She's pussying around behind her boyfriend's back sending texts to some guy who hit on her. Regardless of whether her intentions are good or not, that's not something good girlfriends do. And bad girlfriends are sometimes able to be fucked.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-08-29T17:59:25+00:00

Did you go up to her, give her the card without saying anything, and then walk away?

I wouldn't recommend using this tactic for future approaches. This is a weak way of trying to get a girls attention.

I fear that just because you were lucky and got a friendly (not flirty) response, you'll continue to repeat this approach.

Most girls are going to think you're afraid of them. Instead of giving them a card with your information, just give them your name and ask for their number. This way girls will think you're a confident attractive man and not a shy sweet guy.

spiceb0ss · 2018-09-14T19:10:14+00:00

Why the fuck are you handing out a business card to girls you want to fuck holy shit

GrimTRP · 2018-08-29T13:14:58+00:00

Ignore her text, talk to her at the gym still. Be a little flirty.

Good job on approaching, I'm proud of you son

trexgomez · 2018-08-29T09:23:44+00:00

The fuck she's in a long term relationship. If she was she wouldn't have reached out. It's just an antislut defence. At best she's cheating.

Casanova-Quinn · 2018-08-29T16:48:49+00:00

I'm curious about this situation. Did you just hand this girl a card without saying anything? Was it an actual business card with just your name and number? I want to hear more details.

ValorElite · 2018-08-30T01:00:58+00:00

Wholesome TRP

alvaro10101 · 2018-08-29T11:00:43+00:00

Not LTR material, but PLATE material. Go ahead. But beware of orbiting.

helaughsinhidden · 2018-08-29T16:07:42+00:00

Preselection still applies if you meet up with her and her group of friends. Where there's one, there's usually more.

UnluckyPenguin · 2018-08-29T16:37:42+00:00

One thing worth following through with would be to 'friendzone' girls, they could even be cute ones, but it will grant you access to their hot friends (and parties, and bros, etc).

That's how I met my wife. Our mututal friends kept secretly reminding her I was a player, which always seems to work in your favor. Girls want what other girls want.

4thAndLong · 2018-08-29T17:36:04+00:00

I would keep approaching her at the gym. Don't orbit though. Keep her on friendly terms. She seems like plate material.

SlappaDaBayssMon · 2018-08-29T18:02:34+00:00

Be friendly, take it all at face value. However she wouldn't have texted if but she didn't see you as a suitable man. If she ends up single one day, you may be on her mind. Otherwise just say hello when you see her and go about your business

Toxik6 · 2018-08-29T18:43:11+00:00

You didn’t talk to her at all? Just walked up handed your card and left?

Jace910 · 2018-08-29T19:02:56+00:00

I don't know how I feel about this sort of approach but goddamn you got balls and confidence. Hopefully the next one blows you.🐐

kabuto_mushi · 2018-08-29T20:49:38+00:00

How did you give it to her OP, I'm curious. Like did you introduce yourself?

vanillabeanface · 2018-08-30T03:50:46+00:00

I think this is sweet and should be taken humbly. It sucks that she’s taken but maybe her reaching out was something like a, “if I could, I would” mentality?

furcryingoutloud · 2018-08-29T13:05:02+00:00

figure that all the good ones are taken

No, all the good ones are busy with present turn. This one wrote to you probably for her own validation, or maybe she just wants to keep your number for another turn. It's never as sweet as it looks.

Good job on the approach. Better a lame approach than none at all. I would never give out a number with no conversation, it usually just doesn't work. Somebody said she may want you to orbit, for god's sake do not become an orbiter to her. Treat her civilly, but otherwise ignore her. She may yet come around goaded by her curiosity.

upononerp · 2018-08-29T15:05:48+00:00

Unless you turn this conversation around and can plate her quickly, this is a horrible text.

What would cause a woman you approach to feel the need to encourage you to keep working on your game?

She could smell your desperation and you’re so harmless she felt comfortable sharing these ‘words of encouragement’

I’m not trying to shit on the scenario, you should keep approaching, but this chick is total bullshit if she isn’t beating around the bush and wants to get it on. Why even text if she’s not?

BlackMarmoset · 2018-08-29T18:07:38+00:00

I like the approach, I don't like hitting girls at your gym.

APSTNDPhy · 2018-08-29T11:37:31+00:00

Weird she would reply if she's actually in a ltr

JerryLawlerPigFace · 2018-08-29T12:20:30+00:00

I’d invite her out somewhere anyway really heavily emphasizing that it’s casual, so it gives her some plausible deniability. Then escalate anyways, because she wouldn’t go out if she wasn’t interested. Nor would she text you either.

yamial · 2018-08-29T07:30:21+00:00

I don’t understand why she (and most of women) think approaching them needs some guts!! It’s not about having guts or balls but it’s all about deciding if it worth the consequences (specially if she acts like a cunt) or not. This daughter of a bitch really thinks she is such an important person that most of guys are supposed to naturally shiver when approaching her. Reply her “its not about gut, I just realized you very likely to be fkable easy”.

oytrp · 2018-08-29T13:36:49+00:00

You sound like a nice guy.

Why are you giving out your number? You're supposed to take their number.

calm_boy · 2018-08-29T14:34:30+00:00

Its good that you approached, but i would honestly advise you to try to limit approaches at gym. You should be concentrating on working out and your goals. Everything comes later. You don't want shit where you work out. Anyways everything is a learning experience.

blacwidonsfw · 2018-08-29T16:41:13+00:00

Probably the nicest way you will be let down. She is taking pitty on you which isn't a great sign

menial_optimist · 2018-08-29T08:38:50+00:00

Id prob just not respond then act indifferent toward her at the gym showing total not caring.

Title	gave random girl at gym a card with my name and number
Author	Rhalium
Upvotes	123
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Date	August 29, 2018 7:14 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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