My ex (42f) and I (43m) have been living separate for 2 years, going in front of the judge shortly for separation. We’ve always done the holidays at her families which was the plan again this year, until she told me over the last two weeks that she hates me so much and can’t control her emotions around me. So in order to ensure there’s no tension for our kids at the holidays I’m bowing out and not going to her parents. Now she’s upset with me because I’m not going and the kids should have both parents at the holidays. I’m not happy about it and I’m frustrated that she’s the only one that can control her emotions but is claiming she can’t so I’m the one staying home. First Thanksgiving alone my whole life. I know there’s nothing to do here, and I know I’m doing the right thing. I just had to vent. Thanks.