A very serious question about second wives...

Protomize · 2021-10-26T20:31:53+00:00

You’re thinking about getting married again!?

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-10-27T01:34:48+00:00

Here are some stats:

First Marriages have 50% divorce rate.
2nd marriages have 60% divorce rate.
3rd marriages have 70% of divorce rate.
80% of ALL divorces are initiated by women.

Good luck!

pegleg_legal · 2021-10-27T01:17:06+00:00

A very serious answer: don't

Wewinky · 2021-10-27T00:32:41+00:00

A bad personality can turn a 10 into a 5, a good personality can turn a 5 into a 10.

Emma Watson is a good example of this she is hot until she starts talking (well for me anyways)

Plus looks don't last forever, personality generally does. So when your sitting I. The retirement home which one would you prefer to be sitting beside?

MartyMcFly7 · 2021-10-26T21:33:14+00:00

The older you get, the more important it is to have a partner who can recognize the signs of stroke and heart attack, lol. But ya, it's definitely not all about looks. Looks will always fade, so a good connection is a must.

One concern should be the statistical odds of success: there's a 60% chance of failure with second marriages.

Also, if it really is a priority for you to have all the things you mentioned, why get married? If things change, as they often do, you're stuck. If she decides she no longer enjoys sex, or hits menopause and becomes a nightmare to live with, or no longer appreciates you, or gains 300 lbs... you have to go through months/years of hassle and spend tons of money to end it. But when you're not married, you can just say, "Next!"

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-10-26T20:45:23+00:00

> Is there anything else I need to watch out for?

You need to understand female behavior, else you're going to be repeating the same mistakes you made with wife #1. Read The Rational Male.

BearSquatz · 2021-10-26T19:42:09+00:00

It boils down to what makes you happy. and, if you can make her happy.

RolandMT32 · 2021-10-26T22:51:48+00:00

I'm starting to feel in my older age that a good wife is obviously not just about looks.

So does that mean that to you, a good wife was just about looks when you were younger?

flowingwisdom13 · 2021-10-28T13:27:06+00:00

“I want to find a woman that loves me for me” . Good luck with that.

dadmacintosh · 2021-10-27T00:27:14+00:00

True. First, why do you think you want to be in a relationship? Thanks to feminism, you can order women off the online catalogues of bumble and tinder… I mean if sex is all you want. If you want companionship and support, western women are not it.

Prestigious-Fan3122 · 2026-01-29T05:42:30+00:00

OK, sir. Woman chiming in to congratulate you because it sounds like you're maturing!

My husband is not the best looking man I ever dated. The first guy I thought I was in TRUE LOVE with ended up marrying someone else (after I moved away) and using her name to do something hinky with investments in his company. I think it mounted to embezzlement. Don't think he served any time, but what a winner. Now that I think about it, he was sort of a spoiled, entitled, trust fund baby when I met him in college.

Looks are going to fade. Character, integrity, and usually, sense of humor, are not things that fade.

You, sir, probably aren't going to get better looking as you get older, either. It's true for everybody. Find somebody who likes you for your important qualities. The best looking guy I dated before I got married is now bald, and it's not his best luck!

im2old_4this · 2021-10-26T19:38:13+00:00

And just to say she is extremely cute. My last relationships were physically much more than that. C I'm almost 40 years old though.... do I even care about that?

phoenixreborn76 · 2022-02-11T17:26:55+00:00

As a woman, I would be so heartbroken if I was that woman, we were dating, and came across this post. I know the odds of that are very low but I would hate to think anyone I was dating thought of me that way

Title	A very serious question about second wives...
Author	im2old_4this
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Comments	31
Date	October 26, 2021 7:36 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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