My wife and I are going through the divorce process, living seperately for the last 3 months. Two kids, together 20 years. She dropped the D bomb on me a year ago, I felt blindsided. She's been pretty vicious, like she's lost her mind/having a mid life crisis.

Anyhow, I just recently discovered she's been having sex with her boss and a lot of dots connected from the past. I was prepared for her to be with other ppl, but this one stings.

She's known this guy for years. He got her a bartending job at a very high end place where he's the head manager. We've all hung out, plenty of handshakes. He's met my kids. Lives down the street from us. He's this not very attractive, quiet/awkward overly friendly guy. Years ago I told her, "you know he's trying to bang you right". She laughed it off, "omg he's just a friend, you're being insecure". I wrote it off, I never felt threatened, I thought we had a strong marriage and let it go. She would tell me he'll hire young girls and hook up with them, that he was kind of a "player".

Well flash forward, now he's banging my stbxw. Looking back, pre D bomb, she started going out to bars with him and other coworkers. They spend tons of time together at work. They started riding bikes together. He'd bring her food all the time. I thought it was inappropriate and would occasionally bring it up. Same response from her, "we're just friends".

Imo he's a predator that uses his position of power within the work place to hook up with girls (who he hired). He's been working on my wife for years and finally accomplished his goal. What I'm uncertain of is this just a recent rebound (I'd care much less)? Or has this been going on for over a year and the reason behind her suddenly wanting a divorce?

Regardless, I think I'd like to expose him (bad idea?). I considered writing reviews about his predator set up on Yelp/Google reviews for the restaurant they work at. Any other suggestions? Ty