How did yall split the money?

Sam_N_Emmy · 2025-04-17T20:44:36+00:00

We split everything in the bank 50/50. Any joint debt was 50/50. Where I won was individual debt. Any credit cards with only one name on the account went to that individual. She had just bought a new vehicle and I kept my name off the title and loan. I negotiated my share of her retirement for no child support. I got 100% custody and no spousal support owed. Any profits from sold properties had to be used to pay off joint debts before individual. When the dust settled I had about 25 thousand left in the bank and she had taken out a loan on her 401k.

DevinB12 · 2025-04-17T18:33:45+00:00

we are going through this too and trying to figure our way through. One thing that pisses me off is that she went back to school and got her doctorate while we were married, we are still paying the student loan for that yet she wants to go after part of my retirement because she took off work for 2 years while she was in school. I don't get any of the benefit of the doctorate going forward but she will and she is 7 years younger than me.

itoocouldbeanyone · 2025-04-17T18:18:37+00:00

We were amicable and wrote up our agreements. 50/50 on family savings. Our retirement and investments were kept to ourselves. House equity was 50/50. Custody was 50/50 with me paying a smidge of CS per state calculator.

Reflog1791 · 2025-04-17T17:08:20+00:00

She got the pie I got the crumbs. But getting her off my payroll opened up a giant cash flow and I’m back on top.

pk2at · 2025-04-17T16:32:53+00:00

Yes, you can pre-negotiate and ask them to sign off

Gattsama · 2025-04-17T15:32:16+00:00

In mediation, anything that both parties agree to and sign off is acceptable. The judge only cares that all the necessary pieces are in place. The question is, would she sign off, or why would she sign off on your offer?

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-04-17T10:41:56+00:00

Everything can be negotiated. Caught my wife in an affair and I live in at fault state. Normally she'd get 50% of my pension but it was reduced to 32%. She lost equity in the house, no child support or spousal support. All negotiated so I did pursue an at fault judgement.

Grouchy_Software963 · 2025-04-17T03:21:25+00:00

What ever you decide in the MSA is good with the mediator, they are not the ones trying to stop the deal... its the lawyers you have got to watch out for.

Title	How did yall split the money?
Author	Lonely_Panda4322
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Date	April 17, 2025 3:13 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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