6 years married. No kids. Shortly after we got married I always felt more alone when she was here than not. She left me 9 months ago on basis of being emotionally abusive and controlling. I’ve been supporting her while she’s going to school these last two years and I noticed she’s adopted this attitude when she started going to school. She’s refused to talk to me and or go on real dates. It was like prying teeth to get her to go to therapy. Now all of the sudden she’s forcing herself back into the house even though she’s stayed away for so long and claimed she was scared of me. I’ve self enrolled in an abuse intervention with life skills class and have been going to therapy for myself to become a better person but she doesn’t see any of it even though everyone else has. She told me recently she doesn’t love me and that she doesn’t believe the person she did love ever actually existed. She said she wanted to be roommates until we are both perfectly healed to then start working on the marriage… I’m on antidepressants now because she’s abandoned me, rejects me, ignores me, and recently told me that she doesn’t think I am even trying to work on myself… it’s either death or divorce at this point