This shits hard

AdForward5729 · 2024-06-01T21:54:27+00:00

This can make anyone spiral if you allowed them to get a n this position. Im sorry and we are here for you. Get yourself together and stop being weak! If you need to get tested, paternity tested. Do it and she better comply. Lawyer up and start the divorce process.

Long-Review-1861 · 2024-06-01T21:25:38+00:00

Cheaters and abusive toxic women always say "i don't know what i want" . It's an abusive manipulative tactic where she gets to use you for her benefit. You should wake up to this shit asap

CrushedSoul79 · 2024-06-01T21:23:36+00:00

God man I feel and am rooting for you, 3 months in and the highs and lows are terrible. Just know she is not the woman today that you married and fell in love with before. You deserve better.

No-Marsupial1823 · 2024-06-01T21:04:28+00:00

I hear you man. I’ve been there with my ex wife. We was separated 9 months then we divorced. I came back around about 2 months after our divorce to see her and my son. I was hoping that we would still show that we atleast loved each other. Nah I see that she doesn’t love me anymore. I knew that when she first left me. I’m in your same boat. I guess we just gotta find a new woman that will love us the way we want to be loved. Then hopefully we can move on and let go of the women that we so desperately love. I feel like a simp. Honestly I don’t know what to do.

captainchippsixx · 2024-06-01T17:29:09+00:00

You need a smack in the face man. WTF? Where is your anger? Where is the defense of your heath? (Get std tested) There is time to turn it around. But you have to say goodbye to her, not the same woman anymore. She is ass from the past. Divorce. See an attorney right away. Get a plan. You keep driving this road it just gets worst. Time to eject. Call your family. You need support.

DaddyNoBux · 2024-06-01T16:22:50+00:00

Bro we’ve all simped. It’s the bargaining part of the process. A phase of the healing journey so to speak.

The fact you’ve recognised it is a positive.

Keep walking through the darkness brother. The light is slowly approaching.

You just need to keep walking

Expert-Raccoon6097 · 2024-06-01T16:16:45+00:00

Don't beat yourself up mate. We all simped for our ex's, that is a big part of the reason for why they leave.

By continuing to sleep with her and simp for her she lost ALL respect for you. Knowing you would put up with that after all the BS she put you through is not attractive to a woman. She views you as pathetic (and to be fair we are when we do this). Now you know what to do so you will never be in this situation again.

Now for the good news. You have 3 kids, you have 50/50, your ex sounds like she will make a good co-parent despite being a lousy romantic partner. You will learn from your mistakes. You are going to grow and rebuild an awesome life where you respect yourself, always put yourself first, and never ever put your purpose on the backburner. In short for the first time you are going to live as a man.

Be glad this shit destroyed you. You did not want to live the rest of your life as the person you were. How sad would that have been?

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-06-01T15:24:49+00:00

Look, yes, this shit is hard, and no one deserves to go through this, but remember, you have kids. Make them your life and be the best you can be. I'll give you some advice! Never lie to the kids ever. They are much smarter than you think and remember things that happen in their lives. Love them, and don't ever run their mother down in front of them or around them so they can hear. Make them the centre of your life as you will appreciate it if you're the man I think you are. How do I know all this you say? I was married to this really narcissistic woman, on the day of our wedding she made a past at my best man but was rejected as he was truly my best friend, then later that night she stated that we were not making love that often "As She Wanted to make it special," But I didn't realise it was on Avg six months, but it was a lot longer in some cases. It wasn't a real problem, although I missed it, and I made my sons the thing I concentrated on, But after a few years, she ran off with the friend I used to dive with. I didn't really mind as I had my sons, but no, he dumped me. her around six to eight months later; she came back and divorced me, getting the house and the boys, which hurt me the most. She turned the boys against me, but years later, they learnt who she really was. I didn't say a word against her, Anyway, around two years later, I met this wonderful lady, she was here on holiday, " I don't live in the USA" we spent. I think it was like four or five weeks as it was just a holiday thing as she had just been through a really bad divorce. Anyway, she went back home to the US, and to my utter surprise, she came back six months later! She was my soulmate, and the light that got me out of a very dark place I was in at that time, I had her for sixteen years when I lost her too early on set Alzheimer's. It was the hardest thing I had to go through, " I had been in the army and had seen combat," But we never had one argument in all that time. Don't get me wrong, we disagreed, but we talked about it, no raised voices, and in the end, we did not even disagree on anything. So you see, be the best that you can, and you will meet that special person who will love you and your kids for you. So good luck, and you have friends here as we have all been through what you're going through.

Regular-Bat-4449 · 2024-06-01T15:21:06+00:00

You do know that most jurisdictions will automatically consider you the father.

You need to lawyer up, get her served, and a court ordered paternity test. It's going to take 9 months for the divorce to go through. No court will divorce you while she's knocked up.

Get ahead of this man.

Odd-Yoghurt1869 · 2024-06-01T14:45:37+00:00

What all these guys are saying is true. She is unstable. You need to be the rock for your kids. Stay strong brother.

New_suite · 2024-06-01T14:43:32+00:00

Be wary of people who get into relationships so quickly; 9 months post and she'll already pregnant with another man' baby. On top of the fact that shes was still seeing you (a fact that her new guy probably wouldn't be ok with). So we got a cheating lady who's pregnant 16 months post separation. I wouldn't say shes winning in life but thats just my personal opinion

Classic_Dill · 2024-06-01T14:27:23+00:00

Hang in there, my man, May 15 was my two year anniversary of my divorce, things are much better than they were two or three years ago, but that’s still a scar there to deal with and you just have to take it slowly, and add to my stress, I was just let go from a 30 year career! And about 15 other people, mostly veterans, it’s insane! I’m selling my house moving to an apartment and I’m looking for a job currently. You march forward , that’s all you can do, I was suicidal in 2019 for about three months, but finally went away after I realize that I had to be here for my kids no matter how much it hurt, my kids were hurting too, and I was not gonna leave them like that, and have them deal with me being gone, you’ll be all right, but you gotta take it one day at a time.

I started TikTok channel about dating after my divorce, because I took two years out of my life to learn and to research and the kit on here and started discover patterns, divorces aren’t that complicated, there’s only a few reasons you really divorce everything else the side effect. I’ll drop my TikTok channel below. Check it out, hope it helps you guys!

Dating-For-Dummies I don’t do that red pill shit, I think you can be masculine and have masculine energy and boundaries and not flex on them and not have to have a label, I can’t handle! This is all about you being selfish, you getting back to who you are, you discovering what you want and what you need and knowing the type of person that can provide it for you.

Jonger1150 · 2024-06-01T14:18:56+00:00

She sounds like chaos

lyricbaritone2 · 2024-06-01T14:04:57+00:00

DNA test them all. She can not be trusted. Coach Greg adams will guide you.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-06-01T14:03:47+00:00

Hard to let her go.. She is still in your DNA. It is still raw. Time is your friend. Embrace the fact she is doing you a favor and letting you go. You will finally, one day, realize you are better without her. Embrace your new you.

_Formica_Dinette_ · 2024-06-01T13:45:55+00:00

Are you sure the baby is not yours if you’ve been seeing her as well?

Striking-Trainer8148 · 2024-06-01T13:33:44+00:00

Sounds like she’s intent on destroying her own life.

You don’t need to be a part of any of that

Title	This shits hard
Author	summitsummitsummit
Upvotes	17
Comments	38
Date	June 1, 2024 1:11 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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