Will one ever see the tables turn?

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2024-06-14T23:49:12+00:00

If you’re watching your ex hoping she fails you’re setting yourself up to be disappointed. She will always project an image that everything is great since after all, you were the problem.

Rest assured she’s watching you too hoping you fail. So your best bet is to make sure she’s disappointed by being happy and successful. After all, she wasn’t that special anyway.

Independent_Owlz · 2024-06-14T22:33:15+00:00

Not sure why but I didn’t wake up thinking about her today.

AttemptScary4550 · 2024-06-14T13:05:14+00:00

Who cares! Push yourself to get to a point where this doesn't matter to you. She doesn't want to be with you and that's OK. Now move forward and earn what you want out of life. She's getting what she has earned. Be nice enough to let her enjoy the fruits of her labour without you.

Apprehensive-Cost496 · 2024-06-14T12:37:01+00:00

I used to have these same thoughts man and I finally just one day had enough and banished the exw from my mind. I get it though, the scales of justice are unbalanced and we want to see something happen.

I put it like this. My exw is still working a good job, kept the house (she bought me out) but it's realllly nice after all the work I put into it and on the surface, she seems like she has it made with Old Man Balls Gramps AP. But, this is a woman who just like her mom has everything and can't be happy. She is forced to be with AP to make things look like it's worth it but that's a dude that makes 1/3 of what I do, is capped on his future opportunities and will be geriatric in a decade. My career has been on a steady upward trajectory, saving like a motha and I'm still in good shape for my age. The tables turned when I filed and left that cheating liar and I can smile during the day.

0neMinute · 2024-06-14T11:59:51+00:00

Build the empire and dont care what the lands over yonder are doing. They might be building a village they might be building a castle it doesn’t matter. Grey rock and keep building your own.

mynameislolacortado · 2024-06-14T09:53:05+00:00

Most women continually question whether they've made the right decision, even though a few years have passed. Working hard, saving money, and having your "revenge life" in order will probably make you happier. However, it won't give you all the years you "wasted" in this marriage. Deep down, you probably still love her - but remember you love the IDEA of what she once was.

ExtensionAir9675 · 2024-06-14T09:26:54+00:00

You still care man thats why you hope this happens. Dont do it. Say to yourself that you dont care about her life or any shit anymore. If she is happy , good for her and if not, not your problem. Be happy with your life. Thats what we do.

Reflog1791 · 2024-06-14T05:56:45+00:00

Happened for me 4 years later when ex saw my fat golf course house with my hot new girlfriends car in the driveway. Would’ve been her life if she didn’t cheat. Oh well so sad go back to the starter home (a glorified double wide). What I felt wasn’t the tables turning. It was just like yeah this was how I’m supposed to be living. Now get out my driveway so we can go back to having a fun and joyful afternoon.

fixingmedaybyday · 2024-06-14T05:45:57+00:00

Being that I know her patterns and how hurt she can be if someone doesn’t like something she does, I know she’s not happier just because she can’t be happy. Sure she’ll have some fun wild times I’m sure, but she’s just using them to get her jollies and will discard them once she’s gotten what she wants.

In my case, she wanted me to be her kids dad. Guess there’s something to say for that but at least I can sleep at night knowing I haven’t destroyed every friendship and relationship I ever had.

usedbc · 2024-06-14T04:21:44+00:00

Find myself asking the same question, though end up trying to turn the thoughts away and focusing on myself and my life.

Will it happen, I don't know. Though thinking about it, doesn't help my own mental health so I focus and think about things I can control.

stupididiot78 · 2024-06-14T03:26:35+00:00

I'm almost 2 years past separation and almost a year for divorce. I'm about to buy her out of our house and she really needs the money so she blow it in an atte.ot to get of the mobile home she's been living in. I have no clue whatever happened with the guy she cheated on me with. I doubt it would be much because they met at the crappy part time temp job my ex was working and he lived with his parents despite being in his 40s. I'm pulling in around $100k a year now.

HoneydewLeading7337 · 2024-06-14T03:10:57+00:00

will the tables ever turn ?

Eh, I doubt it.

The universe is at best indifferent. We do not live in a just world. If anything terrible people tend to get what they want. In a zero-sum game there is no incentive to play fair.

The reason not to be awful is because we have to live with ourselves.

domo_roboto · 2024-06-14T02:32:09+00:00

it sounds to me to that you are not indifferent. It doesn't matter whether the tables will turn or not, karma will catch up to her and she will get her comeuppance. Try to get to a state of don't care and don't give a fu - too busy rebuilding and becoming the best man and dad.

Title	Will one ever see the tables turn?
Author	Smooth-Sheepherder86
Upvotes	13
Comments	19
Date	June 14, 2024 2:20 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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