Dating hack for men

achyshaky · 2023-07-16T03:07:01+00:00

I don't know what the fuck happened to the rest of the comment section, it's very unbecoming of a subreddit like this, but yes, you're entirely correct.

To the many who apparently need a refresher: a "human being" means a regular person. An autonomous entity with their own desires and values, things which will not always align with your own, or with what you assume should be present based on how they look.

They're not mysteries to be unravelled, or trophies to be won, or toys to be used. There is no blueprint. There is no strategy. You talk to them as individuals and you work with them as individuals. Their thoughts and behaviors cannot be predicted based on their belonging to a certain arbitrary grouping of characteristics, i.e. them being women.

Again, I'm shocked I'm explaining this here, but there ya go.

Gmed66 · 2023-07-16T03:50:35+00:00

You should see everyone like that and be nice to everyone.

But that isn't going to make you appealing... it's just a basic requirement.

notaslaaneshicultist · 2023-07-16T05:11:39+00:00

Promise an encounter with a small fluffy animal at the end of the date?

Longjumping_Roll471 · 2023-07-16T09:04:53+00:00

Holy fuck, some of these comments are just unbelievably misogynist. The fuck is wrong with these kind of men? (Coming from a man btw)

awkwardautistic · 2023-07-16T13:16:18+00:00

I wish it was that easy

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-07-16T05:01:20+00:00

This advice won't help people who have mental health issues and struggle with social skills, which is most incels. This is a very good start for the bitter misogynistic incels, but its only the start.

frenchtard · 2023-07-16T16:53:11+00:00

I don't think their misogyny is the reason they're alone. Yes they should get over their misogyny, but that's not going to solve their problem. For most of them the reason they are incels is because they are socially inept, or have self esteem issues. They only get their misogyny when they try to find someone other than themselves to blame for their problems. They can get rid of their misogyny, but that wont change the fact that they don't even know how to initiate a conversation with someone.

xTakki27 · 2023-07-16T16:49:03+00:00

Do you really think, that any of this will actually get you in the Top 20%?

Please, don't delude yourself...while this might be a major green flag, this Single one green flag won't be enough to last in the dating market of guys.

Any guy with high status and high-end physical features and appearance, who carries this major red flag, will still be seen more desirable by women. So you need to apply some elements of PUA to actually get into the top 20%, even if you're not a billionaire and built like Henry Cavill...or you're slowly going to swallow the forbidden pill, which has the same color as an activated coal tablet. And I won't let that happen to me...

Disclaimer: Refrain from urging me to get therapy, I literally have heard that a dozen times in those kinds of conversations...

LearningInternet · 2023-07-16T00:07:30+00:00

This is the most useless dating advice for men, it trivilalizes our struggles and gaslights us. It's this lack of answers that pushes men to find actual (but wrong) answers in groups that at least validate our struggles like RP does.

What does "human being" mean?

Straight en are human beings and you can just ask them for sex or a date and they will say yes (even in the street, research on sexual offers from strangers proves it). Straight men are humans and are thrilled when a female friend wants to date or have sex with them. Men are human beings and love to have sexchats anonymously on the internet, it's risk-free and exicting.
Gay men are humans and like most people on dating apps, even ugly obese men can easily find hot men who are very sexually attracted to them (without being rich or paying!). Gay men are humns and dick pictures are more popular than face pictures on gay dating platforms, not only gay men are not offened by these pictures but they love these. Gay men are humans and have often FWBs with their gay male friends or date them.
What about women? Basically the complete opposite of gay men. Even in the context of friedships, just the other day there was a thread on this very sub where our female users complained that most male friends end up wanting to date or have sex with them (but weren't women supposed to be attracted to as many people as men when they feel safe around them?), meanwhile gay men love to date and have sex with theier male freinds and so do straight women with their female friends.

We are all humans yet there are strong individual AND group differences. Telling someone to treat others LIKE human not only is useless but it may also be dangerous (what if someone treats a woman like they would treat a gay man they want to date? It can be very offensive to the woman at worst or lead to many harsh rejections at best - unless you are a very hot straight man).

eefr · 2023-07-16T03:48:58+00:00

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siddsp · 2023-07-16T03:00:16+00:00

It's bizarre and hypocritical that this sub is unhappy with the sexism of the red pill but are ok with sexism when it's against men.

JonF1 · 2023-07-16T01:47:57+00:00

Yes everyone are humans. Would you view your boss, parents, friend, sibling, or as just humans or do you interact with them in much different ways?

If the answer is no, you're weird.

There's things to be said about not treating women as walking flehslings, but advice such as "just be yourself" or "just treat them as human" is worse than useless, its useless and trivializing.

johnnyblaze6398 · 2023-07-16T00:00:45+00:00

A lot of women seek out objectification though

2023-07-16T10:21:35+00:00

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FlyingOnABucket · 2023-07-16T22:20:03+00:00

Source?

creeperkitti · 2023-07-17T23:57:22+00:00

fuck yea totally agree some men literally see so blurry and dark its unexplainable

Title	Dating hack for men
Author	OkBison1627
Upvotes	38
Comments	86
Date	July 15, 2023 11:27 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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