Greetings ladies.

I wanted to add an addendum to why we shouldn't accept alcohoic drinks dates from any man.

In addition to it being low effort, it makes us incredibly vulnerable to sexual assault.

While on drink dates, my dates would offer me drink after drink. Back in my pick-me days, I mistook this for "generosity".

Like, "wow, he's not too cheap to buy us a whole bottle?! BALLER!"

In reality, my dates were only on a deliberate campaign to get me black-out drunk.

What's more insidious, is it happened everytime. Even when I had WILLINGLY GIVEN CONSENT.

Let me reiterate....

My dates wanted me black-out drunk, even though I had slept with them before and would very likely sleep with them that night.

So, why the excessive drinking? Why were they saying, "babe, you want another glass?"

Why were they so giddy and impatient to get the bartender/waiter's attention to bring us more drinks?

My dates weren't being "generous" or "ensuring I had a good time".

They were grooming me.

They wanted me unconscious.

They wanted to have their way with me.

This is a recent realization. So, I hope it helps some women who still struggle to understand, "what's the harm in drinks dates? At least it's better/more expensive /more effort than coffee!"

Think again. At least with coffee, you'd be sober!

This practice is quite like how Bill Cosby would drug his dates. Even though he already had them in his room. They may have conceeded consent. It wasn't about consent. He wanted them unconscious.

Consent still implies that the woman is in control.

These LVM/NVM can't stand that!

My background: I'm a newbie and have read the handbook. It's golden. I also follow another Level up Queen (Sheraseven1) on YouTube. So I 've been exposed to (and benefitted) from these ideologies for a few years now. But, alot of old traumas are resurfacing. Thanks to FDS I can acknowledge these traumas and address them appropriately.