Beware “The Harem” Effect

Same-Key-1086 · 2022-03-22T09:29:12+00:00

Lab science are becoming like this. More women than men graduate with degrees in biology today, but men have had a huge advantage for years and most of the powerful entrenched positions. So the field has become of elderly men bossing around peppy young women.

Toot--Sweet · 2022-03-22T13:02:50+00:00

Men love to 'mentor' inexperienced young women, but hate having to deal with accomplished older women as equals. I'm suspicious of any man who blathers on about how he supports female colleagues, because 90% of the time this 'support' manifests as patronising and creeping on twenty-somethings.

Watch men like this lose their shit when an attractive young women is promoted above him and his mediocre bros.

askmeabouttheforest · 2022-03-22T12:04:58+00:00

This is the mommy-maid dynamic, magnified. None of the women are ever going to be listened to unless they say exactly what the boss wants to hear, there are going to be huge problem that go unadressed because the bosses don't think they really matter, workers will be expected to do everything and baby the bosses, and - a raise? What's that?

millennialpink2000 · 2022-03-22T05:16:47+00:00

I recently left a contract that had this exact structure. Two male co-founders and allll the work was done by women. I told them the optics were horrible and they should promote more women. The dynamic was exactly what you'd expect: show them brilliant creative, they disembowel it then ask why everything is generic

MorthaP · 2022-03-22T09:08:18+00:00

Or they are particularly looking for a woman to 'mother' them. In my very first job, on my first day my new boss said to me that since the team is almost all men, it's good to have a woman because I can keep them in check.

QueenAlice3 · 2022-03-22T14:19:32+00:00

Lol. You’re just describing all of healthcare at this point. One of my clients told me today the difficulties they’re having while their family member is in hospital. She said everyone is so burned out and rude rate now. Except the doctors… wonder why…

throwaway-fds · 2022-03-22T11:58:04+00:00

Sometimes I think I know it all then you ladies throw a new red flag to look out for and I'm like, damn! Love it.

Ugh I'm going through this at work. Mostly women, some men. The new boss is a tall white guy who is conventionally attractive. I'm not under his spell so; I can't say anything about him because like you said, they're his pickmes. He's "cute" so they defend him. He brought in a lot of new changes that people don't like, and I mentioned this to one of the female lower managers..God..She said "oh well..it makes sense.." few weeks later they're going to starbucks together and disappearing for a long time.

For some reason he leaves me alone. Probably because I just keep to myself and do my job. It's still pathetic to see that behavior from other women. Another lady was gushing because he told her what to do. "Wasn't that hot??!" what? "There's just something about his strong voice telling me what to do!" girl....

thinktwiceorelse · 2022-03-22T14:02:34+00:00

Yes, this is my workplace right now. We have male owner and we are mostly female team. Luckily, he ignores me, because I'm not a pickme, but he's very weird towards the others.

Zomodee · 2022-03-22T17:29:44+00:00

Law firms and hospitals are so like this

t3ddi · 2022-03-22T16:53:25+00:00

Education. I am vetting all female and male admin.

keyome1990 · 2022-03-22T13:11:11+00:00

I work in Engineering, not really sure where you want me to work that isn’t mostly run by men. Most of the women I have worked with where HVW who have had to work hard against misogyny, we persevere because we love the job.

Title	Beware “The Harem” Effect
Author	FDS-GFY
Upvotes	618
Comments	32
Date	March 22, 2022 5:13 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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