Met a guy at a friends party & went out with him on a few dates - a restaurant, a lunch cafe& even a nightclub where we danced all night. He was so much fun - sweet& a great personality. On the 4th date, he says he'll pick me up at my house. I  was all dressed up & couldn't wait to go out for another exciting night on the town. He rings my doorbell & in his hand SURPRISE SURPRISE is a bag of groceries - a chopped up chicken, some rice, soda & a couple other items.😐 He explained that he likes home-cooked food. All well & good, but it was only the fourth date & already this man's putting an apron on me & assuming that he can hangout in my home. Nope. Well anyway, I told him that I didn't want to waste a nice outfit 🙂 & we went to a nearby cafe.

Was out with my family & this male store clerk approached me & my sister as we were shopping for her husband's Christmas gift in a high end men's store. He was super handsome, tall, well dressed - looked like a model. Well he began laying the compliments on me & my sister gives him my number. He calls me the next day to meet him for a date 'in the city'- an area with many stores, bars& restaurants. I get off the train & he is right there. We begin walking & talking down a main street. After quite a bit of walking, I ask him how far the restaurant is or wherever we're going. He said he wasn't hungry & hoped we could just get to know each other while walking. 🤯Seriously? I told him, no we cannot & I went to a cafe & had a fine meal with a glass of wine. He had the audacity to be standing by the door when I came out of the restaurant looking to explain & kept calling me to apologize. For just a few dollars, he could have avoided such rejection. Blocked & deleted. 😒

Went out on a first date with a military guy who said he was family oriented. He pulls up in a minivan in front of the waterfront restaurant we're meeting at. He stood by the hood of the car nicely dressed smelling of a fine cologne.🥰 As I walked toward him hardly able to contain my feelings of romance & excitement, the side door of the van slides open and out pops his mother. 😑 TBH she was the best part of the date - too bad I wasn't interested in a relationship with her.

Fast forward to today, currently married to a financially stable responsible attentive man & glad I didn't lower my standards. Back then, I remember how disappointing those bad dates were, even though now I can laugh at them. Wish I'd found FDS sooner! Vetting men & setting standards for yourself is an important step in creating the future you desire.