As the title says. Back in my pre FDS days I thought I had pretty high standards but the truth is, I let men play me. I even once pursued a guy once because I really thought he was in to me 🤮 (he wasn’t, he just liked the attention)

When I was in my early thirties, I went through a very painful divorce ( he cheated and was lazy and selfish) I was panicking that I would be single forever and cried a lot. I did lower my standards and met/dated some right fuckn weirdos. Awful!

So anyway, since discovering FDS and having extremely high standards, surprise, surprise, no man I’ve met can reach them and you know what? That is okay.

I am truly set for life now. I live in a large old Victorian flat in a nice area which is clean and tidy at all times! I’m also mortgage-free, which feels amazing! I have a decent IT career and looking to specialise which means a bunch of studying and a big exam. Which I’m able to do as I don’t have to devote all of my spare time to a partner.

I am not telling you ladies not to get out there and try and date but if like me, you’ve just had back-to-back scumbags and users don’t feel too cast-down or disheartened if you choose to be alone! It’s absolutely liberating. It’s the first time in my life I’ve felt at peace and I have no intentions of dating again for the rest of my life! Ps I’m from the UK so I’m not shamed for being unmarried and childless thank god, although it would be good if this was normalised if not encouraged.