Is always skipping foreplay a red flag?

yoursultana · 2021-03-17T13:41:52+00:00

Yes. Major red flag. Dealbreaker, actually. A man who isn’t concerned with foreplay is a man you should leave immediately.

oceanstains · 2021-03-17T19:38:43+00:00

He’s using you as a masturbation bucket. I know that’s rude and gross but it is true. Stop tolerating it. It should be fun and take effort from both of you.

c_a_t_lady · 2021-03-17T13:51:07+00:00

Yes!

It's a huge, bright red flag.

I think most "foreplay" is just a part of sex, not a separate thing. I don't like the penetration focused idea of sex.

But skipping that part and having mainly penetration (even if the woman would want more), is a massive 🚩.

Br0ther-Finger · 2021-03-17T14:32:45+00:00

After we got married, my NVM would skip foreplay, then accuse me of not wanting him. I thought there was something wrong with me. I really wish I had FDS back then.

EveSerpent · 2021-03-17T19:08:33+00:00

No, it’s a dealbreaker. At his age he should know better and I’m sure he does. He’s being very selfish.

donttextme_k · 2021-03-17T14:23:44+00:00

We need foreplay for us to be wet enough. I imagine it being painful if you go straight to penetration

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-03-17T16:05:31+00:00

If you have to ask, you know it's a red flag. I personally feel like foreplay is more intimate than penetration. It's also shows they cater to your needs vs. getting only what they want. A lot of women need foreplay in order to get in the mood or even achieve orgasm. A man that skips foreplay is not a worthy partner and it can even mirror how he would be with you in a relationship, whether emotionally or forgiving. Because he is not a giving man.

highoncatnipbrownies · 2021-03-17T20:43:06+00:00

Foreplay is everything that happens before sex. Want me wet and ready? Clean the house, make dinner, pay the bills, put away laundry, change the oil in the car. Now I'm turned on!

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2021-03-17T18:05:12+00:00

It’s a red flag in that men should know that women need foreplay to enjoy sex. A man skipping it says either 1) this man has never researched or considered female pleasure or 2) this man had a former partner who didn’t like (or more likely, feel comfortable asking for) foreplay and now assumes all women are this way.

sassyheather · 2021-03-17T13:47:19+00:00

Only time I don’t consider it a red flag is when it’s my choice to skip it.

KateJ1982 · 2021-03-17T23:52:35+00:00

Man doesn't care about your pleasure - deal breaker. Age gap - deal breaker.

Vmwvi · 2021-03-18T07:07:10+00:00

Read the handbook. This isn't a red flag, it's many, a literal parade of red flags. He was most likely grooming you and he didn't care about your pleasure. How would that not be a red flag?

2021-03-17T16:40:09+00:00

It's not a redflag, it's an actual problem.

SayNad · 2021-03-17T17:25:55+00:00

Is always skipping foreplay a red flag?

YES.

LysistrataRises · 2021-03-17T14:49:23+00:00

That's not a red flag, that's the thing the red flags were about: a shitty and selfish behavior. This is a good opportunity to reflect on what red flags there were leading into the relationship that will help you avoid being subjected to this awful experience.

52490 · 2021-03-17T16:51:52+00:00

Yes.

2021-03-17T21:22:13+00:00

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give_mefries · 2021-03-17T14:19:28+00:00

That is a big fucking red flag. A person who doesn’t care about your pleasure or you having a good time, doesn’t deserve a minute of your attention.

thecrazywitch31 · 2021-03-17T19:00:54+00:00

What if the guy is 20 and its he is not much experienced in sex ??

Title	Is always skipping foreplay a red flag?
Author	poodleshnoot
Upvotes	179
Comments	31
Date	March 17, 2021 12:36 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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