Because leveling up brings you better options instead.

In high school and college, when I was a just a wee little non-threatening Pickme, I had men falling all over themselves to commit to me. I had three boyfriends (who seemed to revel in trying to keep me small and domesticated) propose to me before I even graduated college. All of which were summarily rejected.

As I grew more successful, better looking, more polished, more independent, and less willing to shrink myself and my accomplishments to appeal to men, I started getting called "high maintenance" and "bitchy" by men who couldn’t dream of keeping up with me. The amount of men who were interested in me for anything beyond casual bullshit plummeted. But I began to notice the men who were unwilling to date me were - at best - commitment-phobic, avoidant, mildly narcissistic, and low-effort. LVM instinctually run screaming from women who expect reciprocity and effort. Let them!

I used to think "I bring all of this great stuff to the equation! I'm in the top 1% of income for my age. I'm funny and interesting to talk to. I have great hobbies and tons of skills. I'm beautiful and well-dressed. And I'm only getting better. Any man should feel lucky to be with me - especially now! What gives??"

LVM won't want to commit to you because they don't want an equal - they want someone they can feel superior to. They want the spotlight to always be on them in their shitty, miserable little "relationship." They have a pathological need to be perceived as "better." You being a HVW is a direct threat to their ability to appear like an "alpha" so they can maintain their grand delusion of being the one "in control."

I say good riddance!