Never stop vetting.

EclecticBarbarella · 2020-10-04T15:13:06+00:00

It took eight years for it to come out that my friends “HVM” husband was cheating on her with hookers and massage parlors. Eight. YEARS.

I’m honestly still trying to process it because I knew him and was fairly close to him (she’s my best friend so I saw him a ton) and I liked this mother fucker. I trusted him. I didn’t in the beginning but after years of him appearing consistent... I honestly don’t know that I’ll ever trust someone enough to marry them, but I guess that’s a bridge I’ll cross if I ever manage to find a guy that’s functional and I’m actually attracted to.

kettleodumplins · 2020-10-04T17:00:00+00:00

Just remember that men are actors. The majority is not very good at it but they rely on women ignoring red flags and overempathizing to succeed. If you pay close attention, it should be obvious how fake they are from the start. The mask has lots of cracks.

Bombs_ · 2020-10-04T15:54:14+00:00

My abusing LVM ex was so so perfect the first year, treating me like a queen and so on, and then he started calling me "pig" and other sweet names while being ashamed to be with me. Never again. Never stop vetting.

kettleodumplins · 2020-10-04T17:20:01+00:00

My friend's EX husband that she dated from highschool had everyone fooled for 12 years before his narcissistic lies unravelled. He had been cheating on her and manipulating her for years and she didn't find out until they separated and he was still trying to get back together (she showed up to see him and found him with the gf). He had this "kinda dumb but typical lazy dad" image that he used her to help maintain, but in reality he had put them tens of thousands of dollars in debt, had a long-term girlfriend, and was on websites looking for threesomes. Now he is proudly a narcissist (smiles & calls himself a "terrible person") and still somehow uses what seem like normal, hard working (but obviously very insecure) pick-me women.

I got the chills when I heard about the guy that killed his family after 7 years. Looking back, my friend's ex made the same facial expressions and had the same secret life (girlfriend and extreme debt). My friend had been inexplicably getting sicker for years and had a pretty miraculous recovery after he left. I won't rule out stress as the root cause for her illness, but it wouldn't surprise me if he was putting something in her drinks - he was really neurotic about bringing her drinks but wouldn't trust anyone with his. I'm just so glad she is okay; she made it out and has some serious 👸👑 energy now.

chorussaurus · 2020-10-04T17:44:08+00:00

Men like to hide their crazy I told you have to drag it out of them after they gaslight you about you being the crazy one. They know what they're doing.

darkempress2003 · 2020-10-04T17:57:27+00:00

It took me nineteen years to realise someone I genuinely cared about wasn't who he said he was. I was so gutted.

timetofliptables · 2020-10-04T18:07:54+00:00

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2020-10-04T17:23:06+00:00

This is what I'm so scared of. Waking up one day to a completely different person and being blinded to him from the very beginning... It can happen to literally anyone, no one's safe. Scary.

Lostandconfused333 · 2020-10-04T19:48:27+00:00

Took a year for me to find shit my husband was hiding. I found it the week before our one year anniversary actually. But I suppose it was more like 3 years since we had been dating for two before we got married. Lying pieces of shit.

IndependenceSoon · 2020-10-04T23:30:45+00:00

30 years to a cheater that used me, hid money and led a double life. Im almost divorced from this POS...

rosemarie2020 · 2020-10-05T01:54:51+00:00

Or 5 years. 😅

teenygoblin27 · 2020-10-05T15:24:23+00:00

Chris Watts, he was madly in love with his wife and kids at one point and then turned around, met another woman and killed his wife and babies.
FUCKING MADNESS.

Title	Never stop vetting.
Author	BasieSkanks
Upvotes	741
Comments	48
Date	October 4, 2020 2:52 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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