NoBoDy ReALLy uNdErStAnDs Me

QQueenie · 2020-12-30T05:21:20+00:00

Love this. I was watching a Dr. Ramani video today, and she talked about the idea of "falling for someone's backstory." The basic idea is that narcissists tell you sob stories about their past trauma or people who have done them wrong in the past as a form of manipulation. I know my narc-spectrum ex did this...he bemoaned that all of his relationships ended for X reason...so when X reason reared its head between us I felt determined not to be just like everyone else. When really I should have recognized that his pattern was about him, not about me, and was never going to be fixed.

my_curated_life · 2020-12-30T04:18:19+00:00

Lol my ex left voicemails of him crying that he has no one and how his own family doesn’t like him. Gee, I wonder why

Makelotor · 2020-12-30T03:20:53+00:00

When a guy has a crazy Ex or says everyone around him always leaves him, RUN NOT WALK. 9 times out 10 he’s the reason the “Ex” is crazy and the reason people walk away. He just wants to get sympathy and to deflect from the real reason people can’t stand to be around him.

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-30T04:26:20+00:00

Can we talk about how cute the black girl cartoon is? The baby hair, the beautiful flips, the lashes YAS!!! Let me get my tiny violin for these sad sad crumbs who want us to keep understanding their struggles while ignoring ours.

orchid447 · 2020-12-30T07:38:22+00:00

Being a ride or die (in this bullshit society, give me the egalitarian pre-colonized Americas) is just giving yourself 200 lbs of mental illness.

Fucking pass, never again.

yggiwtmiih · 2020-12-30T03:28:14+00:00

M o o d

Diamond_fairy · 2020-12-30T09:08:55+00:00

When they show signs of being manipulative it's a full army of red flags.

There's no reason to pick up the challenge and fall for this poorly applied reverse psychology from a thrift shop handbook.

v0ta_p0r_m0ta · 2020-12-30T05:27:14+00:00

I used to talk to a guy that would saaaaaay thiiissss, ugh so depressing. I was an idiot lmaoo

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2020-12-30T06:58:43+00:00

When you are trash you get left. Tough shit, manipulator!

empresselevation · 2020-12-30T04:47:39+00:00

BOI BYE 👋

doublerainbow11 · 2020-12-30T05:28:22+00:00

Reminds me of my ex who said that everyone always leaves him and he just wants to meet someone who can understand him. And I was like ok let me be that person for you (without asking the reason why people left him). Boy 8 months later I found out he’s a hardcore BDSM practitioner and has a submissive even before and during our relationship. Dumped, block and delete him. This is the 34 old guy who naively asks 21 old young women why PEopLE alWAys LeavE ME??? 🤡

janetheautomaton · 2020-12-30T04:13:29+00:00

This is the way.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2020-12-30T17:00:12+00:00

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favoritesound · 2020-12-30T15:14:50+00:00

Sure! Keep blaming everyone else for leaving instead of looking inward to see if you might be the cause.

futuristicallyangry · 2020-12-30T15:58:33+00:00

I did this to a guy at the start of this year. It was the best decision and I did a victory dance coz for the first time, I had identified this as a huge red flag and ran away. 😁

Revy_Ur_Engines · 2020-12-30T17:16:27+00:00

Omg I’m dying girlfriend did not give a shit

Bewondered · 2020-12-30T03:23:34+00:00

I know him!😳

waddamelone · 2020-12-30T21:23:12+00:00

Sis’ hair is laid though. 👀

2020-12-30T22:46:46+00:00

I will never understand why men depend on women to be their therapists. Like go get a trained psychologist/psychiatrist sir and stop burdening the poor woman with your problems. Men who hit you with their sob story in under 1 second, especially when you didn't ask, should be blocked and deleted. Chances are they are toxic and want free therapy without actually implementing any advice given. They will almost always be a strain on your mental health. Don't do it. Walk the hell away.

Glam_barbie2255 · 2020-12-31T01:35:53+00:00

This was me a few minutes ago with my dusty ex bf before I broke up with him! LEVELING UP IN 3...2...1

Title	NoBoDy ReALLy uNdErStAnDs Me
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	875
Comments	38
Date	December 30, 2020 2:57 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/kmtgg9/nobody_really_understands_me/
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