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[β]Summerisle7FDS Disciple288 points289 points290 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
If my daughter asked me for money to enable her to go on shacking up with her LV boyfriend, I'd refuse. I'd tell her to come move back home instead and I'd help her find an apartment of her own.
[β]_moonessFDS Newbie30 points31 points32 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
YES thank you ππΌππΌππΌ my mom did this for me, and I would do this for my daughter. Seriously, moms just know when somethings up, and trust me your daughters will thank you in the long run if you call them out!!!
[β]Summerisle7FDS Disciple5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So true!! Full disclosure, I stayed married for way too long to a NVM and I did what the girl in this post is doing - called my mom begging and crying for money so we wouldn't get our electricity turned off etc. And my mom, bless her, always sent me some money. I guess her theory was I wouldn't throw out my husband until I was ready and she didn't want to alienate me. Looking back, if she had ever said "No, I'm not sending you money for that," I wonder if that would have forced me to take some real action to change my situation. It wasn't as simple as me being able to "leave" because the house was in my name and Mom didn't want me to have to abandon my home.
[β]_moonessFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tough love has its place but it sounds like your mom just wanted to support you in anyway she couldπ€ I would gladly help my daughter pay for her electricity bill if she was a struggling student, away to college, in grad school, starting a business, etc. those are all good investments. But to support her in having a relationship with a man who isnβt even trying to take care of her? No.
[β]lhatwFDS Newbie[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Youβre a good person. So many people are just enablers. Itβs sad.
[β]Sage_PlanterFDS Disciple172 points173 points174 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's the problem with men who are staunchly 50/50. Also, this man is just a straight up asshole.
I can't imagine forcing someone I loved to barely scrape by every month while I make twice as much as them. That's not how you treat people you genuinely care about.
[β]randomgirl34861FDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I canβt understand how he sees this as 50/50 when he knows that sheβs putting double the time in to pay the same amount. This man doesnβt love her.
[β]BionicWoahManFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And this isn't even 50/50.
I had an electric bill way higher than my rent when things were messed up in my house last summer. How is asking someone to cover that big of a utility THAT YOU BOTH USE a fair ask.
Additionally, it would not surprise me if she bought a lot of groceries and cooked. Did laundry. All these things that enable to be stress free that you'd have to pay someone to do or do yourself otherwise .
I had a roommate once and we were looking for housing. Didn't have to look long. I compromised and moved a little father out than I'd like but we got a 3 bedroom 2 1/2 bedroom house with a low maintenance back yard (front was done by HOA, updated electric , gas heat and stove so efficient, fireplace, pool in gated community , washer dryer supplied and two car garage for $1000. It was a no brainer and I would have bought a place in the neighborhood if my health didn't take a turn. Luckily it was a private realtor who just wanted a good tenant and he never raised the rent and even mowed the grass for me a few times when I had surgery and called a repair guy the second my washer broke . He ended up renting it out for $400 more when I left but he still didn't want me to move. Anyway...we split putting utilities in each of our names but split the bills and deposits. Worked it out when she moved out before I did. I got the master bedroom with the garden tub and walk in closet so of course I paid more. We used the 3rd bedroom as a guest room/office/her extra closet. When my eventual shitty boyfriend moved in later it was little more integrated but not much. He took over the bill responsibility she had . I liked organizing and stuff so I did more of it when we were on opposite schedules but he had his help too. I think it's best to approach live in significant others the same way as a roommate. Fair but with easy boundaries no matter how close you are. The girl and I were best friends for a while before and after....and we wouldn't have been if we had gone into the roommate situation like some do with SOs.
[β]riseaboveagainFDS Apprentice229 points230 points231 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
She needs to track the time she spends cleaning, cooking, and grocery shopping and deduct from the rent a fair hourly wage for her time.
Or nah, she can just walk away from this cheap, unreasonable scrote.
[β]Phoenix__Rising2018Ruthless Strategist104 points105 points106 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The sex too. Just imagine how thankless that is with this guy. Iwrbd
[β]shelballamaFDS Newbie44 points45 points46 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She should do it double whatever his hourly rate is plus a surcharge since it's his name on the messes ;) he can see how it feels
[β]MakeURegretFDS Newbie135 points136 points137 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oof been there done that. The resentment that builds when heβs making frivolous amazon purchases while youβre not putting anything into savings is volcanic. π‘
So glad to be rid of him.
[β]souredskittlesFDS Apprentice29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eventually this will happen. At first ours just filling the desire to be picked
[β]dembar126FDS Newbie133 points134 points135 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Jesus Christ. I bet in addition to paying half his rent she also cooks, cleans, does laundry, and makes him orgasm far more than he makes her. Meanwhile he's getting a free bangmaid and a discount on his rent lmao.
[β]Then_Advertising_773FDS Newbie85 points86 points87 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Having a girlfriend is a great investment
[β]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple46 points47 points48 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right. Heβd never ask a male roommate to cover more than 1/2 of their bills. But somehow low value men will always find a way to push a boundary with a woman they wouldn't dare try to cross with a man.
[β]Sherbert-TrickFDS Newbie112 points113 points114 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What a kind and empathetic man./s
[β]pickadaisyFDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right? This is not behavior of someone who cares about her. Read the writing on daaa wall.
[β]Then_Advertising_773FDS Newbie78 points79 points80 points 5 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
Wont be surprised if he soon finds a side chick to spend the rest of his money on
[β]AshitagaFDS Newbie61 points62 points63 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is why my mother always told me to not feel bad spending a man's money because if you help him save, you're just helping him save money for another woman sooner or later.
[β]Then_Advertising_773FDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Wise words. I got told the same by an ex whenever I refused him to pay for me. He was a mega player so he knew what he was talking about.
[β]AshitagaFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh wow, did he tell you that he himself would do that or that men in general do that?
[β]Then_Advertising_773FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He said it in general
[β]Summerisle7FDS Disciple49 points50 points51 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That's the point of the live-in girlfriend! To free up a bunch of his money so he can go out and relieve his needs!
[β]Then_Advertising_773FDS Newbie37 points38 points39 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Money saved: check
A girl who's there for granted whenever he wants: check
[β]fogplumFDS Newbie35 points36 points37 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
He's not a boyfriend, he's a roommate that doesn't even pull his weight. Can you imagine putting up with a roommate who refuses to pay for the utilities he uses?
She needs to throw the whole man out and find her own affordable place.
[β]honeybeerollFDS Disciple38 points39 points40 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I hope she very quickly becomes resentful enough to have hard boundaries and tell this asshole to go fuck himself. He makes TWICE as much as she does, he should be embarassed to ask her to pay for half the rent AND THEN the whole electricity bill? And she just...agreed. Where's the "oh no baby what is you doing?" meme cuz seriously girl, going into debt for a guy??? Really hope she dumps him
[β]purasangriaRuthless Strategist71 points72 points73 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wait, he 1) makes more money 2) insists on going halfsies on the rent and 3) MAKES HER PAY THE ENTIRE FUCKING ELECTRIC BILL???
I am fuming. What the hell. She needs to kick his ass out and get a roomie; at least they'll pay half the utilities.
This man is straight up using her. And women are the golddiggers???
[β]Sensitive-Shoe-1079FDS Newbie36 points37 points38 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Poor girl :( she needs FDS
[β]miiju86FDS Newbie31 points32 points33 points 5 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
So.... where is the split of the electric bill?
Just deduct it from the rent.
And I'm quite suspicious, that this is not the only thing where 50/50 is nowhere near in sight.
Other maintenance bills? Groceries? Insurances? Car/mobility?
.... and all household / domestic work?
Nothing about fairly splitting costs and make it easier to stem it for both - but this sounds not like that at all. It just sounds like taking advantage of her. Like sadly so often....
Edit: Typo(s)... :)
[β]jackrusselterror1FDS Disciple24 points25 points26 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bet he makes her pick up the entire grocery bill because sheβs the one picking up groceries while he eats 70% of whatβs on the list, and pretends itβs fair.
[β]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie17 points18 points19 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ugh I had an ex like this the DEPRAVITY!!! He made 4X what I made, still split everything 50/50 and I was struggling to keep up. I was much younger, it was such a mistake. At least I said hard pass when he tried to get back together.
[β]Important_Page_6846FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
PROGRESS GIRL, Iβm all about it!
[β]fdsonlynoscrubsFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank youuuu! Thatβs a great perspective so I donβt beat myself up for past mistakes.
[β]biggestsighFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
begging him to compromise? What?
[β]Introambi1FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh my gosh. Now that Iβm single, I spoke wth an ex that I had liked as a person and I thought we could be cordial. Heβs trying to get me back and has invited me to move in with him LOL. Of course itβs all a joke to me, I just regained my freedom no thanks to your relationship offer. So I thought Iβd ask him about splitting bills, just to hear his response, the mother fucker said 50/50. So I gotta move into his place, become bang maid and still pay 50/50 ππππππππππππ. FOH with that scam.
[β]spinsterchachkiesFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go 50/50 with a roommate that doesnβt demand you fuck them and do all the chores
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Roommates who sleep together, aka a terrible idea
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