My friend who is 20 years older than me professed his love for me last night. We have been friends for several years. He told me he's been in love with me since we met.

I said that was really unfair. He knows that I am not interested based on conversations we've had in the past. I told him he needs to find someone his own age (exactly the same age not years or decades younger) and stop projecting his lack of a relationship onto me.

I told him I've had enough of his behaviour and that it wasn't healthy for me, and wasn't healthy for him.

Among the various tricks and whining that then ensued (you can imagine I'm sure) he proceeded to complain about women his own age and why they were no good.

I told him he was just HOLDING UP A MIRROR TO HIMSELF.

Every complaint about them was just total nonsense. It ranged from he didn't really want sex anymore to they werent attractive and he didnt want to have to listen to them talk about their grandkids.

I said if that's how you think about women your own age, I can assure you that's how women think about you.

He then insisted that "I just didn't understand" and tried to give me the option of having a relationship with him "where I could be physical with someone else"

Who cares that I'm not interested apparently. Just here's another option so he can make it work for him.

More than anything he seems to take great pleasure in letting his friends know he's "going to visit me".

Cringeworthy in the extreme.