Hi ladies. I don't know if this belongs here but Imma give it a shot.

So I'm looking for advice on the topic of pleasing yourself sexually after you've broken up with a guy. Now my problem is that sometimes when I do the deed I think of my ex and our sexual experiences together and that turns me on a lot . Now I realize this isn't healthy and I want to stop and move on and not think about him in a sexual way. But the thing is that I have trouble fantasizing about men in general unless I have a deep emotional connection w them. This doesn't mean that I can or fantasize about male friends (yuck) and it also means I don't get as turned on when I think about celebrities or whoever I think is cute. The only thing that REALLY gets me going is the thought of him and nothing compares to that feeling. I guess I still remember the feelings of closeness and safety I felt when we did stuff and thats the sexiest thing ever to me.

Have any of you had similar experiences and if so what did you do to change this? Let me know!