Porn is SO normalized

ashw1226 · 2021-11-26T13:13:51+00:00

Yet we are “insecure” when we feel this way. Along with the many women who don’t see it as an issue who make us look “crazy” and the many men who tell us that our s/o is lying if he says he doesn’t watch it. I’ve been very fixated on this issue lately and don’t see how to find a man who truly does not watch.

Phoenix__Rising2018 · 2021-11-26T16:03:09+00:00

It's not even about the women ultimately, it's about male entitlement. Women aren't excused for refusing their partners sex so they can go masturbate to super hot beefy 6 foot men with monster cocks, or "smooth-skinned teen boy loves eating 40 year old domme's pussy". We are never excused for making our boyfriend feel less than or insecure in anyway. In fact if he attacked us for it he would get off and we would be told we deserved it.

brylm92 · 2021-11-26T13:44:31+00:00

Yeah well

"it's fantasy" except "I'm going to actively seek out these women and physically bring them into my monogamous agreement by jerking off to them, at the detriment off our relationship."

"it's acting" (when the women are in visible pain) except "the women in porn like anal/being slapped/choked unconscious/eating out of dog bowls/having their teeth pulled out so so should you!!!!"

"it's normal and natural" except "the women in the videos I jerk off to are disgusting, vile, unworthy of any human respect."

"I don't know them" except "I have all their names memorised, all their videos favourited, I follow them and comment on their social media, and chat about them with my bros."

"It doesn't mean anything" except "I dedicate hours of my life, money and braincells to these women and would chose them over you."

"Men (by consequence, humans) are naturally polygamous" except that "if my girlfriend had an OnlyFans, sought out emotional support elsewhere, or heaven forbid got raped, I'd lose my shit"

"I HATE them/have no respect them" but "they're hot, hotter than you, and I fucking hate you for that. Also, I have no respect for your boundaries because porn told me so."

OrangeyPanda · 2021-11-26T14:51:18+00:00

If it wasn't cheating then men would have no issues with their wives/gfs posting nudes publicly online. I mean is it a fantasy or not? If she is cheating by putting nudes online then who is she cheating with? The men who looked at the picture? So then you're admitting men who look at nudes online are cheating with those women.

Men and logic are two words that will never go together.

yeahhh22 · 2021-11-26T11:37:31+00:00

I'd like to meet these men who would consider watching a woman he knows having sex cheating.

rengokusmother · 2021-11-26T10:58:03+00:00

Exactly this. You'd have to not consider these women as women at all and just some objects to ogle and use for self pleasure, hence why you believe it's not cheating. People try acting like visiting strip clubs and getting lap dances isn't cheating just to appease depraved men in their lives. If I saw any naked woman on top of my partner I'm dumping him, doesn't matter if that woman is a friend, neighbour, coworker, ex, or a stripper/hooker. It should be considered cheating even more seriously considering these men PAY for those lap dances or personal sessions, especially during bachelor parties. Have some self respect, good lord.

ifhewantedtohewould · 2021-11-26T11:18:54+00:00

It’s like, if a guy peered through a strangers window looking at them having sex, it’s fine because they’re not real people, right?? He doesn’t actually know that woman, right?? Jerking off to her is fine because men are just visual creatures… right?? Almost all people would find this illegal and creepy. But on a screen it’s fine?? Oh wait, remember, we shouldn’t kink shame. 🙄 Porn normalises everything that shouldn’t exist in this world.

sjefsiljuuus · 2021-11-29T20:08:33+00:00

In my opinion, porn IS cheating because while you are not pshycially intimate with someone that way (depends if someone uses camgirls as well or only watch porn), the one that watches porn uses a lot of time, resources and energy on porn alone. then addiction comes, and porn becomes priority number one. the partner experience more manipulative behaviour, less intimate relationship (not just sexual), less trust, gets taken for granted, and dont experience the same amount of love, time and affection as before. and showing sexual attention to someone else than your partner is not okay, if you want or even feel that you need to jerk off by watching porn rather than having an intimate sexual moment with your partner, that is CHEATING.

what if the tables were turned, and we women were the ones who were porn sick and acted like the porn sick men, what would men felt about that? would they be okay with it or would it be unfaithful, dishonest and cheating? i read a thread months ago were the case was that a woman had a porn addiction, and the husband was furious, angry and upset with her because she would sneak away to masturbate to porn. the comments screamed «leave her, she is cheating, you deserve better» etc.

EDIT; I think the term «emotional cheating» was the one I was looking for. That I believe its mostly emotional cheating.

fak_beauty_standards · 2021-12-04T20:10:46+00:00

A person creeping under some couple's bed to sneak peek their love making would be a weirdo.

But somehow with porn it's ok. Why do we watch other people fucking.

Sewud · 2021-11-26T17:54:10+00:00

For me there's a problem in the act of watching porn and it's not because it's cheating. Would it really be better if you dated a porn watcher who was "faithful" by not watching it when he's dating you? The hundreds of bodies he's observed naked and performing a show to pretend they enjoy the stuff they do on camera? It's not really cheating in my opinion because he's not with that person (she doesn't know he exists). But porn is a gross objectification and commodification of human women, like seeing people as not people, but jerk off material. It's a media that's out there though, legal for adults to watch, and there are those adults who enjoy it and those who don't. So I say get yourself a man who doesn't jerk off to porn even if he's single.

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Title	Porn is SO normalized
Author	vanillahcupcakes
Upvotes	1740
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Date	November 26, 2021 10:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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