Read the comments and learn what not to do in a relationship. Don’t ever give up your family/friends/career/hobbies for a man. A HVM will not expect you to compromise your entire life and personality to fit his.

iasminag · 2019-11-27T16:17:55+00:00

The comments actually broke my heart...

2019-11-27T17:25:54+00:00

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hvg1989 · 2019-11-27T16:06:08+00:00

Totally agree. Been with my other half for 12 years since we were 18 and still happy. I think a big part of that is because I made sure to maintain friendships, my career, hobbies, language learning and art work outside of the relationship the whole time. Codependency just creates room for abuse in relationships.

rad_daphne · 2019-11-27T16:44:19+00:00

Wow. I feel like I went through the looking glass of female self-hate.

AlannaAshkar · 2019-11-27T16:05:04+00:00

Why are women expected to compromise and give up on dreams for their “husband” why is that a socially acceptable thing? It almost like it’s what expected from us. What happens in the end? The husband leaves us with the kids while he chases younger ass. All I see is a bunch of dumb bitches in the comments. Honey put yourself first.

I just checked their sub rules and it says no feminism lol imagine hating yourself that much

velocity2ds · 2019-11-27T17:12:08+00:00

The girl who quit her university lecturer job and moved to the Middle East for a guy ☠️ and the grandma who stopped painting cause her husband got insecure and jealous yeesh:(

Flauwoor · 2019-11-27T19:22:31+00:00

Dunno kind of get the feeling more than a few of them are guys larping as women. Some posts just don’t... feel right. More like a guy writing a concealed directive than a woman sharing her experiences. Although surely some are real, sadly :(

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2019-11-27T16:42:11+00:00

Tried to read but became too difficult...

1Here4Bach · 2019-11-27T17:15:31+00:00

They are giving men way too much credit. The likelihood of a woman stumbling upon the type of man that would give her everything consistently and stay faithful if she sacrificed everything is near zero.

There’s always a caveat. Women like this tolerate cheating a lot more and men know this. It’s hard to get back on your feet post-divorce after giving up your career to be mommy McBang maid for 15 years to a serial cheater.

There aren’t enough good men out here for me to sacrifice my financial security hoping he’s not an asshole deep down and won’t screw me over in the long run. That’s a gamble I’m not willing to make.

A man who wants you to give up your longterm-goals is not a man you want. Of course there are sacrifices in every relationship but him asking you to give up something you’ve dreamed about your whole life and went to college for is unacceptable.

sweatydeath · 2019-11-27T18:34:19+00:00

I up and left everyone to be with him. I’m 100 miles away from my friends, family, and my old life.

This isn't going to end well for OP. You can just tell

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-11-27T19:03:32+00:00

I can only imagine her piece of shit boyfriend laughing at her stupid ass with his mistress in a hotel room while she's at home cooking him lunch and asking herself:"How can I dehumanise myself further for muh Captain?".

PunnyPrinter · 2019-11-27T19:08:48+00:00

I couldn’t even finish. I’ve never been on that sub before, so I had no idea. Pikachu face

I wish there was a way those same individuals would post honest updates in 3-5 years. I’d love to see how many have gotten a wake up call.

2019-11-28T00:16:15+00:00

I used to frequent that sub a lot in my darker days

It’s such a hot mess you guys, you have noo idea. Bunch of women patting each other on the back for essentially Stockholm Syndrome levels of commitment and self-sacrifice

CyberAmbivert · 2019-11-27T20:21:26+00:00

Is that a real post? Holy shit

Boobyclot · 2019-11-27T21:03:12+00:00

Wow, this is breaking my heart. I had to stop reading

pumpernick3l · 2019-11-28T00:32:04+00:00

Holy fuck, these women have no hobbies or career goals of their own. NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR ENTIRE LIVES, LADIES.

Blackishcat27 · 2019-11-28T01:26:30+00:00

Ugh. Sickening.

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