Recognize when you’re doing this and block that man on everything. When you’re truly over someone, you won’t care if they see you leveling up.

sxfjcg9900 · 2020-10-01T20:01:50+00:00

That’s why after the breakup I immediately blocked my ex. I caught myself wanting to do things just so that he sees how good I’m doing without him, and in case he got someone else I didn’t even wanna see it. My mental health is great now bc of that.

vmuzondi · 2020-10-01T17:50:36+00:00

Reposting because I forgot to block out the Twitter handles.

superbechidna · 2020-10-01T21:29:28+00:00

I don’t flex, but I do use people who hurt me as motivation to do better. There’s this guy who harassed me at work and I’m using him as motivation to level up professionally. He was always super insecure about my intelligence and career progression, so it’s so satisfying making progress and moving up.

ellaykim · 2020-10-01T21:32:40+00:00

The real freedom comes in simply no longer caring what they think. Living life for yourself and YOUR happiness. Not for someone else’s approval.

Bordersz · 2020-10-01T23:38:26+00:00

I stopped paying attention to people who have hurt me in the past platonic or romantic relationships. It is emotionally draining to allow people who hurt you to live in your mind rent-free. I also look to meeting new people who care about me, etc which helps replace whatever memories I had with the "bad people". I think it's weird to want to "flex" on someone who can't care less about you I find that so embarrassing.

janetheautomaton · 2020-10-01T18:01:24+00:00

Also it just sounds like a lot of work? And not fun? If you've got that kind of time and money, you should take me out for fried chicken instead.

2020-10-01T18:31:07+00:00

i stunt on my haters, but never say it to them or anyone! (besides this comment lmfao). i remember like 6 years ago some asshole made a comment about trusting my career advice. he still stocks shelved during 3rd shift, and i am starting my own business lmfao. his dumb comment has fr been my motivation for years. seeing his drunk, plateaued ass at a wedding back home was so satisfying. i was working for mercedes at the time !

2020-10-01T21:01:30+00:00

I'm not on any social media where I actually know or talk to anyone, but the hatred I feel when my trust fund baby ex called me trailer trash and told me to drop out of college has been a great motivation for my success.

desertedstreets · 2020-10-01T22:15:43+00:00

This is amazing! Goes both ways - do yourself a favor and stop keeping and staying updated with those who are no longer in your life. You don't need to tell them how you're doing or know how they're living their lives.

NaturalSiren · 2020-10-01T22:08:49+00:00

This is not just for men, but for everyone else, and yourself.

You don’t have to prove your worth or seek validation from anyone. You are complete and fine on your own, and no one can take that sparkle or power away from you, once you realize it’s been there all along ✨.

JoanHollowayWannabe · 2020-10-01T19:56:37+00:00

a WORD wow

CoffeeBeforeAdulty · 2020-10-01T23:07:55+00:00

I just reached this point. I have all of my exes blocked and I just recently also deleted them along with their current gf. 🤮

I already feel lighter.

vmuzondi · 2020-10-01T19:48:12+00:00

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Federal_Advantage440 · 2020-10-01T21:20:06+00:00

How do we heal? Genuinely asking. Going through my first major thingy

2020-10-02T00:02:14+00:00

Thank you, I really needed to see this 🙏🏻

2020-10-02T04:43:23+00:00

Anytime anyone is reaching out to someone who is toxic to them or a dead end in general-- even if its not to show theyre leveling up but just to chat or whatever--they're typically unconsciously seeking their attention and validation but its never going to be enough.. And should ask themselves why they think this time will feel better than the last, and what are they trying to fill in themselves by doing that, when there's other people who would gladly pay them earnest and genuine care and attention.

ms_monquis · 2020-10-02T19:26:50+00:00

I once had a talk therapist I was seeing after a breakup (for other reasons). I told him about the dude who after 6 months decided he "didn't want a relationship" and how I hadn't talked to the guy since. I told the therapist I was about to go ahead and delete said dude from my phone, and the therapist said, "I'm not sure that's a good idea."

To be honest, I don't even remember what he said after that, because I...stopped listening.

Why would anyone suggest I keep the number of someone who had dumped me? Why? I know why *I* might have kept it, and none of the reasons are good. But why would *he* ever say such a thing?

Needless to say, therapeutic relationship went even shorter than the romantic one.

Burningrain85 · 2020-10-01T20:28:32+00:00

Just did this today 🙌🏻🙌🏻

somegenerichandle · 2020-10-02T02:15:54+00:00

This? Sorry, i haven't used conventional social media in a while. You mean like making positive posts, people do that for their exes?

entrylevelheaux · 2020-10-02T03:54:11+00:00

a lot of people's exes deserve to be blocked. some of them are crazy toxic and horrible people you should definitely block them. it's not about them seeing you leveling up it's about not wanting such a horrible person to have access to you.

Malthea4 · 2020-10-02T07:23:02+00:00

Ahh damn it I knew it!! Bye-bye head fantasy 😵

heavenlyfeminine · 2020-10-02T10:41:28+00:00

So true! I will not go out of my way to make him see I'm leveling up! But I don't care if he sees me either!

vmuzondi · 2020-10-02T11:24:40+00:00

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vmuzondi · 2020-10-01T22:37:23+00:00

Do you really need a PhD in psychology to know that? Lol.

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