STIs. How to avoid?

janetheautomaton · 2020-09-29T15:00:29+00:00

Wait to have sex. I realize waiting six months or more might be pushing it, but I doubt many lying pigs are going to last longer than two or three months. At least not without disqualifying themselves in other ways.
Use protection and put off giving or receiving oral. Banging tends to expose a man's real nature, especially if he's just holding in his depravity. He might park it, forget where he left it, and get towed.
Ask to get tested together. When he balks, dump him.

There's always going to be some risk, whether you're crossing the street or letting someone into your private parking. All you can do is manage it to your own limits.

veruscka · 2020-09-29T13:35:22+00:00

Do you ask for that?

Yes, you ask for that.

jayda92 · 2020-09-29T15:21:02+00:00

Don't have unprotected sex without getting tested. Period. Oral sex is sex. 69 is sex. Everything where his penis/tongue is on you/inside you, is sex.

If you're a few months into dating, he asked you to be exclusive and the time comes around that you're contemplating sex; get yourself tested. Show it to him. Let him finger you, do nothing else yourself (he isn't tested). Maybe a handjob if you're in a really generous mood.

Tell him to get tested if he wants to fuck you or wants you to suck his dick (in our country we get a text from a special number). The porn industry approves of a test within two weeks, so I had a 'within 1 week of testing maximum'-policy. 'Test was 1,5 week ago? Please go fuck yourself'.

If he doesn't want to, don't let him fuck you. A HVM will understand and happily oblige.

All my bf's followed my protocol. Even PickMe-me demanded this. I never had a STD.

Galileo_Spark · 2020-09-29T15:23:52+00:00

There was a reddit legal advice post yesterday about a man in the US military who was sleeping around with eight to ten different women. He produced fake documentation to show that he had a vasectomy and that he didn't have any STD's. She ended up with two STD's and is pregnant.

https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/j1du4a/ex_bf_lied_about_being_infertile_and_std_free/

randomgirl34861 · 2020-09-29T13:44:20+00:00

Be careful because people can forge papers.

To be totally sure, I think it’s best to get tested together. Even without health insurance (my last partner didn’t have health insurance) you can go to Planned Parenthood and get tested together and it’s not very expensive.

If you don’t want to do that, I’d have him call his clinic and have them give results over the phone as you listen in. There’s usually all this “press 2 for this” “press 1 for that” “please hold” kind of stuff going on when you call for results of any kind (and you have to give your name and other info to the office staff before getting told the results) so it’s not a phone call he can use a friend to fake.

BaffledBazaar · 2020-09-29T15:48:07+00:00

You ask. One guy I asked him to wear a condom, he said some bullshit about how he just couldn't keep it up with a condom 😣 so no sex for him. Stopped talking to him and moved on and I don't regret it one bit.

heythere360 · 2020-09-29T14:49:07+00:00

Get them tested but understand that without exclusivity those tests are null the second they leave your sight of vision.

Then remember even disgusting POS “husbands” pass on STIs to their wives and it’s in their vows to stay faithful so the answer is no, there is not bullet proof way. Abstinence, tests (temporarily) and condoms are your best bet. With sex there is always a risk, and that’s something every woman needs to understand. Thanks for bringing this up!

azureangel35 · 2020-09-29T13:53:51+00:00

It’s tough, because they’re not going to test his mouth for herpes/chlamydia etc.

100piecepuzzle · 2020-09-29T14:37:54+00:00

I have asked men before if they have been tested recently and their reaction says it all. The guys who would get offended and try to gaslight me by saying stuff like “wow you think I have a STD/STI?” were immediate red flags and were dropped. I have never had sex without a condom either because I am not taking any risks. Additionally, if guys protest using condoms that’s a red flag too.

VulcanSpaceSquirrel · 2020-09-29T14:11:48+00:00

Yes. Asking for an STI panel is not embarrassing or out of place. If they put up a fight, just exit gracefully and move on.

Lunaelle7 · 2020-09-29T15:02:22+00:00

Must be tested together and you both have to be there for the results. No other way

electroloop · 2020-09-29T14:01:15+00:00

Lol I feel like we were seeing the same person. 🤮 Don’t even ask for an STI panel, just use protection always. Like many have mentioned, panels can be easily forged. Unless you physically go with him to the clinic and get tested together, there’s absolutely no way to ensure he’s not full of shit.

I highly doubt this scrote is getting his ass and throat swabbed when he gets tested for STIs (if he even does).

valleysflower25 · 2020-09-29T14:24:36+00:00

I don't have sex. I just can't let a man touch me nowadays. Of all the scrotes I've dated, the only thing that comforts me is that they never touched me, I can't share an experience like that with a potential scrote, it's too much for me to handle.

sammytheforsaken · 2020-09-29T16:17:39+00:00

Firstly, if you casually ask them for a check up and they react defensive or repelled, you've already got your answer.

Secondly, protect yourself with a condom.

I actually had this experience with one ex. However, at that time I was battling heavily with pickme behaviour so I didn't piece it together until it was too late and I had already been gaslighted to the moon and back. When I told him to use a condom, he did the first time, but then the second time he tried to put it in without protection. Later he pressured me into it, because "just for the taste". Turns out he was a cheating liar. Glad that's beyond me now and I was lucky to not get an STD from him.

Title	STIs. How to avoid?
Author	azureangel35
Upvotes	57
Comments	36
Date	September 29, 2020 1:31 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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