"This isn't the girlfriend I ordered, should I send it back?" Don't forget THIS is the kind of low value character we want to avoid.

cloudytear · 2020-06-03T07:11:41+00:00

Why are men like this? Your girlfriend opens up to you about a devastating moment in her life and your response is " I WaSnT hER FiRsT". I hate men like this.

rinabean · 2020-06-03T09:55:17+00:00

"I knew she was a 17 year old impoverished abuse victim with no parents to stop her dating a 22 year old but I thought she was a virgin! Waaaah! I'm the victim!"

xButFirstCoffeex · 2020-06-03T06:52:56+00:00

This was sickening to read.

Buckley92 · 2020-06-03T08:57:04+00:00

I’m a rape victim and I don’t even know what to say to that. In fact, my advice would be to go through with the break up if it’s really the way he feels, and tell her (truthfully) the reason for it is that he’s a giant piece of trash who isn’t good enough for her and was lucky to even have a relationship with her at all, nevermind one that lasted as long as it did, and she deserves better.

blackopium777 · 2020-06-03T07:35:24+00:00

I hope this isnt real. Sickening.

AyemHerself · 2020-06-03T06:45:25+00:00

"Hey so I'm a 25 year old male and I have been dating this 20 year old female for 3 years now. We get along very well and occasionally we may disagree on something but we always seem to work through it. A few months ago before this pandemic, she moved into my Toronto penthouse with me and we've been quarantining together ever since.

We butt heads sometimes because I came from a wealthy household while she didn't and we cant see eye to eye on certain topics such as politics and economics but we put it besides us and we don't let this get in the way of our appreciation for each other. At first I was dreading not being able to go out but I actually became so much closer with her through these past few months locked up together, it feels like we're back in our honeymoon phase almost!!

But yesterday she told me something about her that really didn't sit well with me. She grew up in a poor household, with her father constantly working both as a truck driver and a construction worker while her mom frequently cheated on him while he was away with random guys she would bring home. Her mom would abuse substances and frequently hit her, but I knew all this before. The bombshell that she dropped on me was that she had been raped before by one of the guys that her mom brought home. I felt really bad when she told me this and she even cried, but at that moment all I could think of was, that means I wasn't her first like she had told me. Now I know this may sound selfish but, I loved her because I felt that she was pure. Girls in my circle are always so snobby and slutty, I don't like them. I thought she was a pure girl from the poor side of town who I could take in and fall in love with, but after hearing that she had been raped, she is no longer pure in my mind.

I told her to never mention it to me again and she agreed, but I don't think she understood the reason why I asked her to. I don't want to bring this up because she was so emotional when she told me, but I also don't want a girl with me who has been raped before.

What should I do guys? How do I break this to her? That I don't want to be with her anymore and how do I tell her to move back in with her mom without being rude. She has grown used to the lifestyle I've provided her with so its hard to break it to her. Thanks guys!"

I don't care if it's fake. I'm hoping it is. The fact that someone out there thought this was possible enough to turn into an advice post is enough for me. There are men who think this way of women.

datfishd00d · 2020-06-03T11:44:44+00:00

This is a troll post. Looked at his post history, and he has another post about wanting to fuck his boss from 17d ago.

carachu · 2020-06-03T08:20:35+00:00

That is absolutely disgusting to read.

2020-06-03T12:09:07+00:00

Perhaps I give to much credit to the sort of education that money can buy, but this does not read like it’s written by a guy with the amount of family money he mentions.

I think reddit guys have this idea that wealthy people just hand their kids millions to go play forever.

lickyblickyuhh · 2020-06-03T09:01:00+00:00

Lord please help the absolute state of this man.

blackredrosepetals · 2020-06-03T09:53:33+00:00

She deserves so much better than this.

avakadava · 2020-06-03T16:13:58+00:00

Never tell me your history experiencing abuse if you have one.

meecy166 · 2020-06-03T15:42:06+00:00

Wtf did I just read. This is why people here preach to not tell men your full history and your sexual history because they would use it against you and to degrade you. I’m just glad this subreddit is here to lead me to the right direction. I wish I didn’t read what that psychopath wrote, dude has a major superiority complex and he looks down on her

AyemHerself · 2020-06-03T17:53:05+00:00

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gursky0 · 2020-06-03T15:02:51+00:00

Men are evil.

ScarletFate779 · 2020-06-03T16:10:29+00:00

What a self centred most disgusting being

sadgirlhappydemons · 2020-06-03T16:56:53+00:00

This is absolutely disgusting smh this boy is angry she was raped not because it’s a horrible thing that happened and he was angry for her and angry at the guy who did it but because he views her as tainted and that’s disgusting

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-06-03T17:03:36+00:00

If your long-term boyfriend describes you as "this X year old female", it's time to walk away and never look back

GunterforPM · 2020-06-03T07:27:07+00:00

This is truly despicable. He sees her as despoiled rather than a survivor of sexual violence.

Mo1002 · 2020-06-03T07:40:36+00:00

Oh my god...

LunarCannons · 2020-06-03T13:37:40+00:00

I don’t care if it’s real or not but...

1: He was her first. He doesn’t get to determine when or where her virginity is. You can not lose your virginity in a nonconsensual situation. Not that virginity even matters to anyone but the owner! If she said he was her first, then that’s how she feels. If he thought her unslutty before literally nothing about her has changed. How the heck do you going to slut shame someone who was raped? How the heck do you gonna slut shame someone you are actively having sex with?

2: This is an example of problematic male altruism. They say they want to “save” someone or do something “good” but it is entirely self serving. Dude “saved” a 17 year old girl and “was in love with her. “ but he hardly thinks twice about throwing her back into the situation he saved her from with even more damage.

2020-06-03T13:47:38+00:00

What. The. Fuck.

LondonDaPink · 2020-06-03T14:08:02+00:00

This man is a complete asshole. My stomach fell reading she had been raped but all he could think of was how used her vagina was in that moment. How pitiful, how disgusting!! I feel so awful for her. This was the time he was supposed to comfort her and give her validation that her worth wasn't through her vagina to him, that he saw her beauty and would help her through her pain, instead she got shut down and silenced. Fuck this guy, for real.

Queen_Anne_Boleyn · 2020-06-03T22:54:02+00:00

Also he started dating her when she was a minor and he was 22. Ewww.

blk_grl_lvl_up · 2020-06-04T07:04:52+00:00

Every day men give me more and more reason to remain celibate. Everything it gets hard, I read shit like this and it gets easy.

Title	"This isn't the girlfriend I ordered, should I send it back?" Don't forget THIS is the kind of low value character we want to avoid.
Author	AyemHerself
Upvotes	166
Comments	46
Date	June 3, 2020 6:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/gvoqqw/this_isnt_the_girlfriend_i_ordered_should_i_send/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/this-isnt-the-girlfriend-i-ordered-should-i-send.674576 https://theredarchive.com/post/674576

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