Yes, even if he begs for you not the leave him. Even if he finally finds it within himself to change the thing he spent years refusing to change about himself - that is, until you’ve gone no contact for a week and he realizes you may not be messing around this time.

Yes sis. Even if the mAn wHo NeVeR cRiEs sobs like a baby on the rare occasion you gather up the will power to actually leave.

He could resent you, cheat on you mercilessly, complain about you to his boys, secretly be flirting with every coworker at his job AND STILL DROP TO HIS KNEES AND BEG AND CRY FOR YOU NOT TO LEAVE

It really is psychological warfare on women. It’s an insane concept that I don’t think we as women have fully embraced.

Men are very smart. They know at the end of the day if they appeal to our emotions and our ego (“you’re the best thing that ever happened to me!” “Please don’t leave you’re a queen I learned my lesson!”) they’re likely to rope us back in for no other reason than to not be alone as they scout out for external validation elsewhere.

Even cheating men are aware of how shitty it is to be single as a man...men will rather cheat on you than risk losing you and the side piece. When he comes back it’s not about you, it’s about convenience and ease you bring to his life, as well as the validation that you can never say no to him. Thats why he still masturbates to hundred of other women every week despite the fact that you have regular sex with him in a monogamous commitment. Men do what they can get away with.

I think this is what has caused so many women heartache, trauma and low self esteem. We are constantly being forced to break our own hearts because men refuse to be honest. They give us the world when they’re drunk in infatuation, then can’t keep the consistency but won’t be honest about it.

So of course, we as women have to do double the fucking work, being HVW and trying to decipher small clues that your man has checked out even though he pretends everything is okay. Even with female intuition the shit is exhausting. God forbid you’re raising his children while doing it (God bless all the mothers out there!! Doing Gods work.)

I guess it all comes down to: If he wanted to be with you he would. If he cared about your happiness, he’d do what makes you happy.

Even though we initiate the break ups, I believe most of the time these men are consciously or subconsciously pushing us to end things with them. This usually happens when they’re out of the honeymoon phase and has met a girl they want to sleep with. They Sabotage the relationship and then gaslight the fuck out of their girlfriends at the same time. It’s truly disorienting to be in the middle of it and usually we don’t realize what’s going on until months or years later.

Next thing you know he’s treating you like shit and begging you to stay in this never ending cycle. Then you finally break it off and ignore their theatrics and what do you know? He’s already dating that coworker he told you not to worry about it or he’s up and married the next girl he dates.

Don’t be fooled. Men invented branch swinging and hypergamy. If you feel like you’re the only one fighting for the relationship, it’s because you are. Let’s stop giving men points for trying to repair what they ruined. If he marries the next girl it usually means he got better at faking it.

We have to dump them because they’ll almost never dump us. They will drag us through the coal, traumatize us, lie and manipulate the women they “lOvE” the most just so he’s not alone and risking failure during the single life.

Silver lining: The dating scene is pretty trash for men. Set him free sis. He’s terrified to fully do what he wants. Push him in the deep end and block him. He made his bed, let him sleep in it.