What would you do if your boyfriend called another girl hot/cute in front of you?

ThatsWhat__I__Said · 2020-05-04T06:18:32+00:00

The year: 1979. Watching The Bionic Woman with Jon Zimmerman. The stupid comment: "Damn I wish you were as sexy as Lindsay Wagner".

He then had the AUDACITY to suggest I give him a bj. I excused myself as he happily unbuckled his belt. I headed towards the bathroom, and took a detour out the back door.

He called me about 50 times and I let him stew. When I finally decided to answer he asked me what the hell was going on, I said well I wanted to leave you and Lindsay alone so you could get that blow job.

And that was it.

blackopium777 · 2020-05-04T02:17:07+00:00

I would honestly stop dating him. To me its pure disrespect to say something like this out loud. Especially when he would probably freak out if I did the same.

CorruptSoulGem · 2020-05-04T01:53:09+00:00

I wouldn’t date someone like that because he should only have eyes for me.

When I date a man and I’m in love with him, I only feel attracted to him. I would obviously expect that feeling to be mutual, but if he did something like it would prove to me that I’m more emotionally interested in him then he is with me, so I’d have to leave him.

GlamorKiss · 2020-05-04T01:54:29+00:00

Die inside. I am slightly insecure.

I understand if he must have celebrity crushes but why tell me about it

I used to have a male friend I rejected and when I hung out with him he used to call every girl that walked past beautiful, and I realised he was a psycho and stopped being friends with him.

He definitely did it to try to make me insecure. Your boyfriend may or may not be doing it for that reason.

_boring_daven_ · 2020-05-04T05:24:57+00:00

He is trying to get a reaction out of me to test me. Is she the jealous type? Is she insecure? That kind of nonsense. He'll use a negative reaction, like me saying it's rude, as an excuse to justify breaking up with me. Fine.

Or, he's a fucking idiot who thinks I'll be into it and agree to a threesome.

I dated someone who called my mom hot. Yikes.

kumquat_fds · 2020-05-04T10:22:57+00:00

“Well, then why don’t you ask her out? I wish you all the best.”

Then fucking leave.

LadyGrimes · 2020-05-04T03:24:07+00:00

I'd call another man hot/cute in front of him to see how he likes it.

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2020-05-04T03:51:28+00:00

Lol

HE'S GOT ME FUCKED UP. If he calls another girl cute/hot in front of me. I'm staring at EVERY sexy as fuck man that crosses my path, in front of him. I'm locking eyes with a sexy stranger across the room, blushing, and giggling. In front of his ass.

Oh, a shirtless jogger? FUCK HIM WITH MY EYES!

Oh, a pedestrian over 6'3 feet tall?? EYE-FUCK! STARE IF NEEDED!

Oh my... a hot man walked past us? FUCK HIM WITH MY EYES. Break my neck turning to look at him. Possibly run into a bush or pole. Forget what I was saying. pause mid sentence.

Give him a taste of his own medicine, at the VERY least.

2020-05-04T07:28:36+00:00

This brings up some bad memories. But when a guy did that with me, I let him know it was unacceptable. His reaction was, "Oh, I see you're getting jealous. That means you really like me." Loser.

Dont_Settle_for_Less · 2020-05-04T10:35:23+00:00

I would just ghost plain and simple. He's not entitled to my time and energy explaining or arguing why this is not acceptable.

brainsandb00bs · 2020-05-04T01:51:51+00:00

“Yeah she is beautiful, but you’re not hot enough to act like that” and then deal with it later in private. I wouldn’t make a public scene over something small.

Codedress · 2020-05-04T04:44:01+00:00

Well It never happened to me but I would feel a little embarrassed. Although I know that other women are not my competition, it is different because for men to call a women hot or cute means that they want to fuck her, without hesitation. they know. they do not value beauty the same as we women in my case when I call some cute actor (timothee chalamet example) is because I appreciate their beauty but I do not feel lust for that person. That is my explanation and it is what I believe because really if my boyfriend would do something like this with a woman that we both know IRL this would bother me (however I would not show it at all. I would reaffirm my value and my beauty in a way subtle or showing that I have class and I do not consider man "fuckable") . Sorry for my English.

kwalden2 · 2020-05-04T02:32:57+00:00

"Cute," depends on context. Woman searing a nice dress and smiling and giggling, sure it's cute and compliments are nice every now and then! Social skills, making people feel good about themselves. But something like "hot" or "sexy," no I feel like that's usually not appropriate to a call a different woman that in mixed company when you are in a committed relationship.

Nearby-Armadillo · 2020-05-04T01:53:25+00:00

Needs more information.

The fact that other women are attractive doesn't make me less attractive. Other women aren't my competition.

If he brought it up out of the blue I would be peeved that he felt the need to do that. Is he trying to make me feel insecure?

On the other hand if someone else mentions it and he just agrees with them, I'm not really concerned.

quaintlyspoken · 2020-05-04T14:56:19+00:00

Dump him

2020-05-04T15:40:47+00:00

Take note that he has bad manners.

ruddertrim · 2020-05-04T17:34:47+00:00

Y e s thats a red flag. Ex made me feel crazy for being insecure about him doing that, and following tons of IG ass models, liking friends bikini pics, commenting on his ex's pics. Guy I've been seeing and I were looking at places to go to for a date last night and pulled up a picture with a lake in front of the mountains and he said "oooo". When the picture came up fullscreen it was more obvious the intended subject of the photo was a cute lady. He got really flustered and was like "Oh gosh, not the woman. I'm so sorry." and zoomed in on the other half of the picture and went back to the search results. I haven't been seeing him long enough for things like that to give me the big jealous pangs, but his reaction to almost accidentally even looking like he was checking another woman out was pretty cute.

ErikaNaumann · 2020-05-05T00:51:17+00:00

It really depends on the context. If we are both talking about attractive people, or people watching, and having a fun back and forward about it, no problem. I would probably point out a few guys and we both have a giggle about it.

If we are just walking and he says it out of the blue, I think I would just leave. It's just bad manners and disrespectful. Lvm red flags. Block his number.

Comicalacimoc · 2020-05-04T03:58:39+00:00

I’m very secure so I don’t really care.

Title	What would you do if your boyfriend called another girl hot/cute in front of you?
Author	kaizentigerr
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Comments	42
Date	May 4, 2020 1:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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