How My Algorithm Changed When I Stopped Hating Men

theMostProductivePro · 2025-04-29T13:28:26+00:00

This is one of those videos that my entire take away is "men are people too, how did it take so long for you to figure that out?"

MSHUser · 2025-04-29T17:17:47+00:00

She's essentially saying that everything she's heard about men as a group got her to stop seeing men as men and seeing them as threats. When there's brain activity looking for exits, then you can't relax.

However, she talks about how relaxed she is and it's because her man is aware of their surroundings for her, so she doesn't have to worry about that, and say that's masculinity.

It's like when you have brain activity, it's either the feminist perspective, which is all men are threats, or they're not threats but you think them looking after you is apart of masculinity like in traditional gender norms. Damned if you do, damned if you don't.

ARabbitShotAHunter · 2025-04-29T05:54:20+00:00

I remember I used to do that "watching out for girls I'm with" thing she's talking about.

After one too many "walk me back to my house in the dead of night, even though it triples your way home and you're in more danger than me. I would never do such a thing for you btw." request I was done. I didn't yet know about men's issues at that point, but I had seen criminal statistics in class and realized the "women are in danger" notion was a lie and I was being used as a human shield against threats that were imaginary to her but not to me.

I was tired of it because sometimes it was expected but other times the girls I was with would get mad at me for offering to walk them places or get rid of guys hitting on them with too much insistence, calling me controling or infantilizing. So I stopped calling my friends "girls" and started treating them as the adults they claimed they were. I'm no unpaid bodyguard for your imaginary threats anymore, call a cab.

SpicyMarshmellow · 2025-04-29T17:40:55+00:00

I appreciate what she's doing with her channel right now. But did anyone else find the part about women being able to shut their brains off around protective men cringey and even a little disturbing? Romanticizing head emptiness is just... not right to me, on a level that's difficult to put into words. The clip she used of the guy having to lead the woman back around to the stairs and portraying that as a state that women *want* to be in is frankly pretty condescending to women, imo. And it leans pretty close to the tradcon idea of women "submitting" to men's leadership. I think Gabby's well-meaning and trying to atone for her past negativity towards men by finding ways to spread positivity about men instead, but definitely lacking some reflection and awareness of the context of her ideas within the current broader gender discourse.

jkozuch · 2025-04-29T13:37:38+00:00

It's amazing what happens when you start using common sense and start thinking for yourself instead of buying into other people's bullshit.

vegetables-10000 · 2025-04-29T18:30:34+00:00

I don't know guys. It seems like she is promoting "positive masculinity" here. Especially with her examples about men making women feel "safe". Like she is between a feminist and a conservative.

gratis_eekhoorn · 2025-04-29T16:04:05+00:00

Unfortunately looks like another tradcon content, focusing too much on ''how masculinity is good and vital for the civilization'' I mean yeah it can be appreciated that she doesn't feel the same disdain towards men she used to but still sounds like a person in favour of traditional gender roles. Too bad vast majority of self proclaimed ''progressives'' completely leave the stage for saying anything male positive to tradcons and tradcon adjacents making it look like traditionalism is somehow a pro male ideology.

aurichio · 2025-04-30T03:08:15+00:00

video is marked as private. What did it talk about?

Fallen-Shadow-1214 · 2025-04-29T10:12:02+00:00

Glad to see Prim Realer in those recommendations.

OppositeBeautiful601 · 2025-04-29T14:06:32+00:00

I like Gabby's content. It's logical and empathetic.

ChimpPimp20 · 2025-04-30T22:19:28+00:00

aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand the vid's private.

TheRealMasonMac · 2025-04-29T06:41:40+00:00

https://youtu.be/0GykDf4Ztvs?t=7023 is pretty relevant here

WanderingSchola · 2025-04-30T04:33:47+00:00

It's already private.

Trump4Prison-2024 · 2025-04-30T07:00:31+00:00

I wish I could watch this video, but it's private

ivent0987 · 2025-04-30T08:52:25+00:00

Video got privated. I wonder why

Anxious_Data_1709 · 2025-04-30T20:24:58+00:00

nice username

SuspicousEggSmell · 2025-04-29T20:55:54+00:00

I kinda wish people would stop giving Sh0e shout outs. Prim is someone who uses consistent evidence, rationality, and compassion when talking. Sh0e never really grew out of her meme phase and while she has made good videos about men I feel like her best moments are still weaker than others who more consistently mature in how they approach politics. I remember when sh0e made videos about things like men being abused and raped and how that was ignored. And while it wasn’t anything university level, it seemed a lot more meaningful than now where sh0e doesn’t really talk about the systemic issues men face. She’s just on another side of the “masculinity crisis” while playing loosey goosey with integrity on any political topic, which makes it hard for me to trust her on anything at least.

I think even if you’re looking for more lighthearted content that isn’t focused on academia, someone like the dadvocate does a better job (I still have my criticisms, but I think she’s better than sh0e)

SentientReality · 2025-05-01T01:06:03+00:00

I love Gabby's YT channel. It's really important to have a feminist woman who stridently advocates for men. Almost everyone else in the pro-male space is anti-feminist.

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