Why I'm here:

VeganSumo · 2024-07-15T20:35:26+00:00

We know that men are less likely to recognize when they have been raped or sexually assaulted, and they are less likely to report the assault. When they do come forward, they are less likely to be believed, and if they are believed, they are often not taken seriously. This issue is especially true when the perpetrators are women as I believe most of the time it is.

After coming to terms with my own experiences, this is what I concluded. When reflecting about the past and reliving my traumas, I have been surprised by how often my consent has been violated by women in my life without my realizing it.

I have felt foolish and blamed myself for not realizing, but now I understand how much societal norms and most feminist narratives create a narrative that makes it very difficult to treat male victims equally — including by the victims themselves.

Phuxsea · 2024-07-15T21:23:02+00:00

I thought it was 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men. This list doesn't count men and boys who were SAed but not penetrated.

PaTakale · 2024-07-15T21:49:03+00:00

'Made to penetrate'

Those men were raped. Bizarre wording.

Also men can be raped in other ways than being made to penetrate (reproductive rape, other orifices), so the total statistic for male rape victims is higher than this. It's also missing 'attempted'.

SomeSugondeseGuy · 2024-07-15T20:14:49+00:00

79% of these 1 in 9 men will report exclusively female perpetrators.

While women are more likely to be the victim of a sex crime, men aren't too far behind.

Please note - this is a smaller gap than the gap in murder victims, who are 80% male. Rape is a 70/30 split. Until men - especially male victims of women - are treated equally or even with a comparable level of empathy in studies and media, our work is not done.

Imagine a world in which groping a woman's breasts wasn't seen as sexual assault because MEN'S chests aren't seen as sexual. Now imagine a world even less empathetic than that - where the severity and classification of a rape depends on your gender. Where most studies and laws are specifically designed to erase as many victims from that gender as possible.

That is the world that men wake up into every single day.

https://www.cdc.gov/nisvs/documentation/nisvsReportonSexualViolence.pdf

Stellakinetic · 2024-07-15T21:42:26+00:00

This has happened to me on multiple occasions but I just knew that nobody would give a shit so I just tried to forget about it. Either that or convince myself it was something I was actually okay with… As men there aren’t any other options really.

Edit: Thinking about it now, I would imagine that the majority of these cases for men go unreported. I mean, I never reported it. Who would take it seriously? Plus I’ve always felt like as a guy it’s my job to protect women and even after being taken advantage of I wouldn’t want to hurt a woman.

WeEatBabies · 2024-07-15T20:36:20+00:00

The men's stats are missing the "attempted" that women stats are getting to make it 1 in 4 instead of 1 in 9.

Also, most men don't realized they have been r4ped by a feminist who lied about using contraceptives!

KelVarnsenIII · 2024-07-16T01:57:41+00:00

I fall in that 1 in 9, but I call it rape. She raped me, no other way around it.

Main-Tiger8593 · 2024-07-16T05:06:35+00:00

abuse of statistics, studies, rethoric/semantics and facts

covfefe_believer · 2024-07-16T16:35:27+00:00

Sorry where is this from? Would love to read more into it.

Appropriate-Use3466 · 2024-07-17T12:15:24+00:00

It's 1 in 9 because it's counting the Lifetime vs the 12 Months. In the 12 Months it's Gender Symmetrical. I quote:

“One-year prevalence ‘are considered to be more accurate [than lifetime rates] because they do not depend on recall of events long past‘”

[Bert H. Hoff. (2012). US National Survey: more men than women victims of intimate partner violence. Journal of Aggression, Conflict and Peace Research, Vol. 4 Iss: 3, pp. 155 – 163.]

eli_ashe · 2024-07-17T00:46:45+00:00

imagine being asked to make sure your lady lovers orgasms, and replying 'no thanks, lets 68 and I'll owe you 1', and that being understood as the proper mode of sexuality.

that's yes means yes. that's the mode of ethics these stats denote. it would be wrong, in other words to say '69 it or I dip' cause after all, that would be pressure or something.

destroy these puritans. they are a foundational source of the problems in the current, and they cut across the currents of politics. its as easy to criticize the right and it is the left on this point.

SulkTv999 · 2024-07-18T17:34:27+00:00

Duuude! That is some harcore evidence! Where did you find that?

Also i think ive bewn in similar situations like that too.

Title	Why I'm here:
Author	SomeSugondeseGuy
Upvotes	247
Comments	61
Date	July 15, 2024 8:12 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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