Buzzfeed thinks that it's surprising that Men's rights members were reasonable to a female poster about her rape.

TracyMorganFreeman · 2012-10-02T04:45:58+00:00

r/mensrights isn't going to be a safe space for rape victims anytime soon

Safe spaces and free speech zones cannot, by definition, overlap.

EvilPundit · 2012-10-02T05:23:15+00:00

It's important to be helpful and supportive to anyone who appears to be genuine - regardless of whether they are or not. The grudging acknowledgement in the linked article is an example of why.

Trolls are looking for instantly dismissive and angry answers to questions like these. Given that it's often difficult to spot a troll immediately, we ought to afford the benefit of the doubt when we're unsure.

It's the decent thing to do, and if we do the right thing, we win - even if the OP is a troll.

dumbguyscene28 · 2012-10-02T03:38:31+00:00

Well I wrote this, but their silly facebook login doesn't like Chrome very much:

I encourage you to visit http://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights daily, weekly, hourly.

You'll find the rumors of our being evil monsters mostly over the top.

Polls show that we our pretty much representative of the population at large, with women, LGBTQIA members, men of all races and classes, and that often, by and large we support many "feminist" goals.

My guess is that most of the time you read someone just viciously excoriating the MRAs, well, they really haven't visited /r/mensrights, or listened or honored the stories that men have to tell.

We have a bell curve of opinions though, from the left and the right, and while we disagree with each other, we strongly support free speech, and strongly believe we are all adults that can discuss difficult topics without needing trigger warnings.

There are a lot of interesting discussions going on, come on by, you may find the /r/mensrights is the first social justice forum that treats you like and adult and requires from you, adult, mature, responsible behaviors.

It may make you wonder what all the famous pundits have been saying, and maybe have you questioning your heroes.

Best wishes,

Darkling5499 · 2012-10-02T03:43:43+00:00

lets be honest, it's anna north, and she cherry picked the worst comments in the thread to write a slander piece. it's nothing new for her.

look on the bright side, we'll probably hit 50k members because of that piece. come for the "hatred", stay for the actual help.

edit // ROFL. i just noticed what users she used to blanket /mr. two of our most well known "get back in the kitchen" trolls.

OuiCrudites · 2012-10-02T12:45:20+00:00

Someone should write an article "Jezebel surprisingly supportive of Domestic Violence when women do it"

http://jezebel.com/294383/have-you-ever-beat-up-a-boyfriend-cause-uh-we-have

2012-10-02T13:00:07+00:00

It was a set-up? I'm suprised! Said nobody... Would give 5/10.

ErasmusMRA · 2012-10-02T03:01:40+00:00

That was such an obvious troll that I stayed off that thread completely.

friestogo · 2012-10-02T15:25:41+00:00

Yeah, I stand by what I said. Regretting consensual drunken sex is not rape, and no reason to ruin someones life.

CptSeaCow · 2012-10-02T05:27:24+00:00

I stand by my comment even though I had suspicion from the beginning. If you genuinely were raped than you go to the police simple as that. I made sure to express my distaste for the police line up system as well as a stance MRA have against false rape claims. The truth is now we are portrayed as caring and our opponents can't use some of their BS arguments against us.

Edit: also interesting enough I was looking through the authors comments. She cherry picked only the ones that were just plain support. My comment while decently up-voted more so than some of her cited posts had additional information that was quite important. Proving this was a troll more than ever, and was an attempt to bait out MR. Bummer really so many valid points brought up in that thread and she chose the worst and most obvious comments.

truthjusticeca · 2012-10-02T03:49:47+00:00

They were both trolls and you all fell for it.

Counselling a female rape victim has noting to do with MR. Stay away.

No dude is ever going to win custody because he paid all the bills, that's just fucking stupid.

The chickbeard didn't even quote me.

Reddit, I am disappoint

ExpendableOne · 2012-10-02T14:13:34+00:00

Why does anyone care about buzzfeed or Anna North? It's not like their domains could ever be considered a "safe space" for men(or men's rights), or like this would be likely to change any time soon either.

typhonblue · 2012-10-02T06:20:14+00:00

Went to one of the threads she linked about the guy who admitted to being a rapist.

Aside from the usual gendering of a non-gendered phenomena which is always fun... I wanted to ask the man who admitted to raping women the following question:

What event in your life made you so weak and helpless that you need to rape to regain power?

Ah well, chance lost. I like how 99% of the posts there are feeding into his ego by casting him as some sort of devilish ghoul, though. Good work reddit! You're all reminding him of why he loves to rape, maybe he'll go on and do some more.

Rapists should never be allowed to feel powerful.

Another thing I noticed. Actual rapists don't fear rape accusations. Must be the sociopathic narcissism.

cthulufunk · 2012-10-02T05:05:50+00:00

"Throwaway hasn't responded to our request for comment, so we don't know what led to her decision to post this question."

Trolling. Duh!

C0CKPUNCHER · 2012-10-02T07:22:27+00:00

"r/mensrights isn't going to be a safe space for rape victims anytime soon. But Reddit in general has recently been home to more nuanced and less terrible discussions of sexual assault and gender issues than its reputation would suggest."

r/mensrights should be a safe space for male rape victims and male victims of false accusations - female rape victims should go to a feminist forum for a safe space. This gendered negation is bullying.

EpicJ · 2012-10-02T10:52:36+00:00

WTF cheated out of my 15 mins of fame

Demonspawn · 2012-10-02T05:46:31+00:00

I still very much stand by this comment (not the one quoted):

Because a woman who was honestly raped would be very unlikely to put "date" in front of it. "Date rape" is "I liked him at the time, but don't now" or "I had enough beers to allow myself to get horny, but now I look like a slut."

Hach8 · 2012-10-02T18:12:39+00:00

Conspiracy theories abound...

2012-10-02T20:40:25+00:00

Sometimes men's rights websites are pretty unreasonable and hate-filled. So many people dismiss men's rights as being like the KKK or something. Not saying it's right, but that's how it is.

unexpecteditem · 2012-10-02T10:24:15+00:00

"r/mensrights isn't going to be a safe space for rape victims anytime soon. But Reddit in general has recently been home to more nuanced and less terrible discussions of sexual assault and gender issues than its reputation would suggest" would appear to be taking things in the right direction.

Darkling5499 · 2012-10-02T03:35:55+00:00

lets be honest here: it's anna north, and she cherry picked the worst comments in that thread to make a story appeal to kneckbeard whiteknights and feminazis.

truthjusticeca · 2012-10-02T03:46:02+00:00

Both were trolls. Nobody is going to win custody because the mother is unemployed, that's just stupid.

Since when is counselling an (alleged) female rape victim have anything to do with MR?

The chickbeard didn't even quote me.

Reddit, I am disappoint

2012-10-02T14:47:04+00:00

Congrats, you stupid fucking white knights just fed into their game.

Title	Buzzfeed thinks that it's surprising that Men's rights members were reasonable to a female poster about her rape.
Author	infiity
Upvotes	40
Comments	70
Date	October 2, 2012 2:56 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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