Hello everyone!

This is about the whole booty call PUA, redpill games and techniques guys are using now. If it doesn't work, why do guys constantly do this?

Ive been dating a guy I was concerned was trying to slot me into a booty call situation and not a real relationship or connection. I'm not interested in being some man's booty call so I posted asking what people thought about the situation. It turns out he was just trying to get a regular, on call, sex girl with as little investment as possible. Story of my life.

He was smooth, took me on a few dates, (nothing too fancy), bought me a cute gift, got me over to his place for wine, texted me all day everyday, first thing in the morn and last thing at night. Etc etc. Hes very intelligent, sweet, funny and successful, but very newly separated and just having fun. I'm very attracted to him but I know my heart would get invested if we started hooking up and i would just end up getting hurt so I shut it down.

I was actually starting to warm up to the idea of a casual relationship with him. If he had put in a slight bit more effort to make me feel less like a booty call and more like a woman he was attracted to and actually gave a shit about then it probably would have happened. As it was he was playing so many games, as in who cares the least, who can get the most while giving the least, etc. Why do men do this? It always turns me off and ruins it for me and they never get what they want.

He tried playing jealously games with me, mentioning other women that wanted to be with him, or that he was attracted to, he would talk about how much money he was making, what parties he was going to, just seemed to want me to chase him or something, it was kind of amusing but in the end killed it for me.

Men seem to be playing these games a lot lately, PUA bullshit. It's so exhausting and such an attraction killer. Dont men realize that trying to compete in the casual sex world with women is a losing battle? Dont they know they have to bring something else to the table besides their dicks, unless they are an Adonis and way hotter then the woman they are just another guy with his dick in his hand. Dont men understand that hot women are offered sex constantly?! Its not a prize knowing you want to fuck me, just like every other man I meet. What about that is going to make me choose you?

This is the text I sent him ending it.....

"This is what it's like for me in casual sex world....A gorgeous, 26 year old swiss med student asked me to name my price to spend one night with me, I almost took him up on it but backed out. (A young, famous Hollywood couple) propositioned me for a threesome once, fucking crazy. (I seriously regret turning that one down now actually). I've been offered cars, a condo, university education, vacations, etc. etc. There are so many stories. Bumble was just 100s of guys offering me their dicks on a platter, its boring. I'm not trying to brag, the point is, I'm not hurting for insanely hot booty call offers. Its endless.

You kept bringing up the women offering you booty calls as though I should have been grateful to be the one considered, lol. My booty call offers are off the chain, I can have sex with pretty much anyone I choose anytime I want, that's not an exaggeration. To the point it starts to get annoying. Theres nothing special in just another man offering me his dick. There needs to be something else on the table, I need to actually like the men I'm with. That goes for most hot women, unless they are beyond damaged goods....and that is a whole other level of disaster waiting to happen.

You might find the situation you want, (booty call with a hot woman) I'm not saying it's not possible. But maybe try to treat the women that agree to have sex with you as more than just a warm place to park your dick at your convenience. Take her out, or have her over for dinner, or at least something that makes her feel less like an unpaid prostitute and more like a human being. Try to make them feel like there is a reason to choose you over all the other 100s of dicks being thrown at them.

Women aren't children, just because they have emotions doesnt mean they will fall in love with you, that's such an arrogant attitude. Confidence is attractive, arrogance is insecure. You are not insecure.

And just a thought....you might want to look into replacing your bumble mentor...he sounds like a bit of a dick. Lol 😏"

Hes still texting me after this and just keeps asking if we are getting back together. Eesh.

Edit: so its evolved into a sugar baby/sugar daddy type discussion now. He wants to know what it will take for me to be available to him aprox 2 or 3 times per month. At least hes offering something now. I've never entertained that kind of relationship but I'm open to it.

And for those that think I'm a troll, 100% wrong. I dont bullshit here, its anonymous, there is no point, this is the only place I can discuss these things anonymously. This is my reality.