How common do you think it is for men to want an unrestricted sociosexuality but have a restricted one?

This post is inspired by this post but looking at it from the other perspective https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/sb8k6a/frustration_with_women_and_their_sexual_timing/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sociosexuality -- "willingness to engage in sexual activity outside of a committed relationship". SOI means Sociosexual Orientation Inventory, a measurement of this

I think a lot of men want to be high SOI males but are low SOI, and this causes them a lot of distress. They are generally too introverted, too agreeable, or too conscientious to be high SOI. With the exception of introversion, these traits are actually seen as socially desirable, so I think this makes men who feel this way come off as social deviants in a way ironically more than men who actually have these traits.

I think a lot of men in this position may very well be quite high value, in fact, based on them often having socially desirable personality traits I think most are higher value than a lot of high SOI men, but are unable to accept that they will attract low SOI women. They perceive such women with suspicion because they believe early sex is optimal, and waiting is indicative of a lack of attraction.

I think low SOI men (and probably women too) really have to accept themselves this way if they want a satisfying sex life. I think this is the reason behind why Incels and Femcels feel the way they do, because they are not psychologically suited for the experiences they want.