For the ladies: Men who are committed to saving themselves for marriage, in other words staying a virgin, do you find this endearing and hot? Or weird and unmasculine? Would you date a hot one like Tim Tebow?

cats_or_get_out · 2016-11-25T05:43:45+00:00

Works for me. Why? He knows what he's about and sticks to his convictions.

shoup88 · 2016-11-25T04:36:34+00:00

Not into at all. I can't think of any reason a guy would "save himself" that would be compatible with what I want. He's either religious (no thank you) or has a very low drive (even worse).

Also, Tim Tebow has resting dumb face and his neck is as wide as his head. Not hot.

Lyanina · 2016-11-25T06:39:57+00:00

I wouldn't be put off by someone who is a virgin, but I wouldn't date someone who's waiting for marriage. I can't think of a reason for him to wait that wouldn't mean we're just... not compatible. It doesn't make him "endearing" or "unmasculine," it just means I'm not for him.

dragoness_leclerq · 2016-11-25T04:11:28+00:00

I've never come across one in real life but if I had I wouldn't date him and I wouldn't find it endearing or hot.

ErrantBadger · 2016-11-25T05:26:19+00:00

I couldn't date any man who was doing that as I don't find submission to church attractive. Men who are virgins but not religious never bothered me. I have two friends who were saving themselves, both admitted they were also very very shy of women as had only socialised with them in a church setting and said they thought they would die virgins. I have to wonder if the saving themselves thing was a nice excuse to avoid putting themselves out there as the moment one got engaged to a non religious girlfriend (internet relationship at first) they were fucking like rabbits.

Tim Tebow is a bad example like the Jonas brothers as no sex before marriage was more preach no practice, but no matter how hot a man is I could not date or have a LTR with a chap who saves himself. That is probably my own views on churchly submission, my cousin had a hard line that any man she met had to be saving himself. She was always honest that any bloke who had slept around was disgusting to her.

AliceOxalis · 2016-11-25T04:12:13+00:00

It would depend on how long he expects to date and be engaged before the wedding, lol

tiposk · 2016-11-25T05:17:43+00:00

I wouldn't discard him right away, but chances are that we might be incompatible, not because of his virginity but because of the motives behind that decision. His attractiveness in this case would be irrelevant.

CreepyPsychoStalker · 2016-11-25T06:30:19+00:00

No, I'm not religious and given the importance of sex in most relationships there's also the risk of complete incompatibility.

DrunkGirl69 · 2016-11-25T11:40:36+00:00

I semi recently met a guy who's hot enough to pull this off. I'm so horny and I kind of like his calming jesus talk when I'm high.

He would've been maybe the hottest guy I ever slept with but he insisted that we wait and get to know each other first, says he wants to be in love before having sex. We're not dating though, just hang out at work together. And ok two dates but still no sex. Some days we just chat about life and some days we make out in secrecy. It's hot but I wanna do him so bad

My first boyfriend was a virgin and wouldn't hook up with me at first either. It was super hot when we got it going though

Idk why I am attracting and attracted to these guys? But I am

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TW_CountryMusic · 2016-11-25T07:04:03+00:00

I would respect his commitment to his values and think highly of him for that reason. But I wouldn't date him. Marriage is a huge, huge commitment and sex is a huge, huge part of marriage. I wouldn't enter into a marriage with someone I wasn't 100% sure I was compatible with sexually. His being attractive wouldn't change my feelings about this.

Plus, chances are he's very religious, and I wouldn't marry a very religious person either.

So, he has my respect and well wishes, but we wouldn't work out.

MisgenderedCactus · 2016-11-25T11:02:53+00:00

I wouldn't find it weird, but there's numerous reasons your scenario wouldn't work out for me.

First, if he's devoted to saving himself for marriage, he's most likely extremely religious and given that I'm in the US, probably a hyper Christian. I'm an atheist. He'd probably not date me at all, least not without considering it his duty to convert me and "save me from hell". My lover is a Christian, but he's a laid back Episcopalian, and thinks that anyone who is a good person "goes to heaven" so he's not worried about me.

Secondly...Tim Tebow? Uh. Nope. I already don't find muscular, athletic guys attractive. Give me someone like Robert Carlyle, Jonah Hill, or Rick Moranis. Not a jockbro attention whore with a huge neck.

Thirdly, I'm anti-marriage and am never going to partake in said ceremony, so he'd be celibate forever if he was with me. So, yeah...Wouldn't work out whatsoever.

As for whether I'd find his decision unmasculine or weird? No, of course not. I'd have a fair amount of respect for him, because it's probably not easy in the modern dating scene. I have a lot of trouble finding men who are okay with waiting for sex past the 6th date...can't imagine what it'd be like for someone who wants to wait for marriage.

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2016-11-25T15:34:30+00:00

this was so nonexistent when i was young its literally not possible for me to imagine it. i wish i could convey to you guys just how much the world has changed in my lifetime

poppyblu · 2016-11-25T16:12:51+00:00

I don't see it negatively or positively. I just see it as their choice to live their life they way they want. I'm personally not religious but I respect religious people who actually practice what they preach, which is extremely rare.

If I were single I might date a guy with these values but would hesitate to be in a LTR headed toward marriage because I don't know if marrying someone without knowing if you're sexually compatible is a great idea.

Zoidbergluver · 2016-11-25T17:34:27+00:00

I love virgins, I think "innocent" guys are really hot. I would 100% prefer a virgin (well, an innocent virgin, there are involuntary virgins who are obsessed with porn and sex and those are even worse than regular perverts) to a guy who wasn't.

Willow-girl · 2016-11-26T18:26:49+00:00

I can't imagine a man doing this other than for religious reasons, and I'm not religious so I would RUN LIKE HELL! :-D

FiliaSecunda · 2016-11-29T18:24:03+00:00

Well, I'm saving myself for marriage, so if a man is doing the same, it would signal that we probably have some similarities in worldview. I'm a socially inept teenage girl who's never dated, but I know it would be stressful if I dated a guy who considers sex a more casual thing - I'd worry that it might be unfair to him, or that he might start looking down on me as a prude.

BlackPill_Inc · 2016-11-25T08:58:58+00:00

Americans are weird with their religious fundamentalism.

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Nechama · 2016-11-26T01:53:15+00:00

I'd find it interesting. It would increase or decrease attractiveness. It has nothing to do with masculinity. It wouldn't determine whether or not I dated the person.

Edit: is tim tebow considered hot?

yusrasyedahmed · 2016-11-28T01:25:16+00:00

Sounds cute. And I'm into cute.

That would make me assume that he's logical, stays with his word and can control himself. I like.

winterrider · 2016-11-28T22:41:34+00:00

Women think men like this are weird. Tim Tebow is an exception because he is a rich athlete.

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