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True, though only because you're using the term "feminine" as interchangeable with "womanly" or "woman", which it is not. Certain behaviors induce others to be sympathetic and take care of someone: acting helpless, juvenile, innocent, wide-eyed, etc. Puppies and children do it naturally. Women do it as a performance. There are very, very, very few women who are naturally anything like that...I am thinking about it and I cannot call to mind any examples of real women I've ever known like that.

Femininity is always feigned...women pitch their voices upwards, lower their heads, gaze upwards through their lashes, act silly and innocent, etc etc as a performance. Women are never as feminine in private or only around other women as they are in public. It's always an act.

Manliness by contrast is not an act but something most men restrain. This is why there are arguments between the two genders constantly where men think they're very different and women think they're not very different at all. Because men understand that they're socialized not to express their full masculinity. They imagine perhaps women restrain their femininity. But that is not the case. For women, being feminine feels like an entirely false performance that is nothing like how they would naturally be absent the judgment of others and their needs to get others to be nice to them.

Feminists therefore do in fact hate femininity. Not being a woman, being feminine. It's a burden of performance that's inauthentic and a pain in the ass. They don't want to put on a fake breathy voice a la Paris Hilton. They don't want to do all the modifications of their body to make themselves appear juvenile. They don't want to constantly feign everything and act fake. Because ultimately femininity is just extreme artifice. This is why it's easy for a man to look like a woman by using makeup and other artificial constructs, but a woman can't look fully like a man, because there aren't any artificial constructs for looking masculine. A man without makeup looks like a man. A woman without makeup looks rather genderless. A man or a woman with makeup looks like a woman. Because what we think of as female is in fact just an artifice. This is why lesbians, who live in the most womanly world of all, aren't feminine. Lesbians are just women as they all naturally would be if they didn't have to cater to male desires and put on a performance for them.

Feminist women typically have other assets and resources so they feel they could survive and make it better using those assets and resent having to do the femininity performance. This is why feminism is always an elite movement started by educated women from rich families....they have other economic resources and don't feel the pressure to perform for men as they have other alternatives. Feminism will never be relevant for uneducated women with no skills, family resources, or status.

Women who are anti-feminist are women who perceive that performing for men is the best shot they have at survival and advancing themselves. It's really as simple as that. And feminism has hurt women who have nothing else marketable to offer of value to others. It has helped women who do.

The OP here is a bit silly because there are plenty of women who compete in and succeed in highly competitive fields in science, the military, business, medicine, etc. Is it most women? No. But there are female CEOs and emergency room surgeon MDs, don't get it twisted. Plenty of them are really good looking too. Like anything, it's a spectrum. Most women are losers who don't have anything to offer but their skills at social manipulation and a brief 15 year period of sexual attractiveness. Most men are also losers who don't have anything to offer but their muscles and capacity for boring labor and misguided loyalty. A minority of men have something additional of value to offer, and an even smaller minority of women do, but those people do exist.

Is femininity an act?

If so why do women do it?

What age do women learn to do it?

Why do men fall for it?