The 80/20 rule is laughable

I can’t believe so many men go by this rule.

This was literally a study made on a dating app when the ONLY criteria to judge men is looks, when we know that women usually don’t judge for looks only when searching for a relationship. Attitude, personality are things you cannot mesure in dating apps.

And because I know I will hear the argument about how « but more men under 25 are sexless than women ».

People that say that just willingly ignore the fact that sexual relationships don’t mean shit for dating success. This is known that men have their standards on the ground for sex, and that women are less likely to have one night stand and will up their standards for them. Women usually prefer sex when there is emotions involved, so accepting having sex with a stranger will be way more difficult.

The problem is that men here apply their view on sex on women and act like if women view sex the same way as men. Men see sex as something important that isn’t always tied to relationships, they will be more likely to have sex with a strangers without any string just to calm down their libidos.

But women libidos are lower than men and they don’t feel the same need to have sex, and usually sex outside a relationship is more something they accept to do than something they ask to do. So they will up their standards for sex higher since sex this is not something they crave as much. Let’s add that because this is just sex, they will put more importance in looks because the rest (personality, stability…) only really matters in serious relationships.

Men see success as being able to have sex, and consider men that have a lot of sex as successful. But women definition of success isn’t the same, for them having a lot of sex without one single relationship is not success. And because men have sex with women they wouldn’t have a relationship with, a woman having a lot of sex doesn’t mean she is successful at all.

So to resume : - Men have lower standards for sex than relationship - Women have higher standards for sex outside a relationship, especially with looks - For sex looks are almost the only thing that matter, but for serious relationships women will consider others things. Less attractive men are more likely to find a relationship depending on their personality than a one night stand

Now add that people under 25 are not yet that much interested in serious relationship and that women use dating apps more for one night stand than anything (because dating apps favor looks).

Finally, the 80/20 rule just mean that women are willing to give sex without any string to the top 20% men, and even here this is only reflective of dating apps. That doesn’t reflect what women go for when they look for a relationship.