So here’s the thing. I’m saying this as someone who absolutely despises misandry in all its forms, and feels that “incel” and “niceguy” are most often just used as catch-all feminist boogeymen to discredit any man who disagrees with them.

But I think a lot of people in general (men and women) need to realize that it’s not enough to be a nice guy, to succeed in a relationship, you need to be a good guy, and you need to approach things in good faith

This doesn’t mean you have all the right opinions, or that you repost social media infographics or go to protests or go vegan or whatever, it means you need to be genuinely acting out of good will towards your partner from the beginning, and build an actual genuine connection involving trust and actual earnest love.

A lot of guys have been so emotionally abused by their gender role that they honestly don’t remember what love really feels like, and so they start to see their relationships as transactional from the very beginning. They convince themsleves that, since no one has ever really cared about how he’s felt, she couldn’t really love him, she’s GOT to be using him, so why should he really care about her, deep down?

But ultimately love is a leap of faith. It is putting your absolute trust in that other person. It’s scary, for sure. But you’ll never be happy in a relationship until you’re willing to let that guard down.

I also just want to say here that I don’t think it’s most men’s fault as individuals. Again, we are talking about society-wide emotional abuse over centuries. Call us privileged, but most of us have always been meat for the rich man’s grinder, whether that takes the form of war, or labor.

Of course men are convinced no one fucking cares.

All of this is not the fault of women as a group, tho, but of capitalist alienation, for any actual misogynists trying to justify their shitty, regressive beliefs in their minds with my post, go fuck yourself.

All others, have a good day!