What does it mean to be a man

IHaveSalesQuestions · 2022-01-07T15:10:04+00:00

See Rocky 1-4 to determine what a man is.

A man picks a life he wants. He sticks to it. He doesn’t give in to others who try and take him off his path. He overcomes and he wins. He does so ruthlessly. Some might differ with this but a man who helps those who are weaker is more of a man than those who takes advantage and picks on the weak. That’s where we start to see separation. More often than not I’ve seen the men who are strong but pick on the weak get shit on by the men who are strong but protect the weak.

That’s my take.

The_Meep_Lord · 2022-01-07T15:26:36+00:00

A man is an adult human male. Go wild with it.

undersupervixen · 2022-01-07T12:28:31+00:00

What does he say at the 2min mark?

I do think there's a transition from boy to man. There's a physical transition and there's also a psychic transition and the psychic transition is more culturally defined.

Shredddz · 2022-01-07T13:12:10+00:00

masculinity certainly is a mindset and body. masculinity is engaging and competing in male hierarchies, having physical strength and emotional strength and control, knowledge, backbone, being able to follow competence to cooperate with other men towards an outcome, self control, control and guidance of other people especially children and women and weaker men for the greater good. being able to take care of other people and doing it when its reciprocated. you need to be able to get it done, and people should be able to count on you and have your back if they appreciate and reciprocate. and enforcing boundaries, with physical force if necessary.

basically embracing and mastering their place in society.

Mark_Freed · 2022-01-07T15:00:38+00:00

I think it's a very interesting question. Which traits are gendered.

We all agree on the physical traits that make a person more of a "man"- height, deep voice, muscles, beard, pronounced jaw line, other black pill traits like deep set eyes, wider nasal bases.

See a lot of this is genetic you can't control a lot of what makes you more or less physically a man. I think then we should look at what makes someone culturally a man.

The genders are socialized differently, more responsibility, intelligence, stoic, wealth, power, status, takes initiative, confident, handles high pressure situations well, etc are demanded of men.

So yeah it's a bunch of different things, our media shows us how men are supposed to act and it varies a bit across cultures.

Beginning_Proof_2160 · 2022-01-07T15:31:49+00:00

If you have a 6ft body and muscular you're considered masculine

if you have confidence in yourself and you're afraid of nothing you're considered masculine as well

S0mnariumx · 2022-01-07T22:04:21+00:00

A man is whatever the fuck he wants to be

DerekMorganBAU · 2022-01-07T12:59:17+00:00

Sigh I hate these questions.

“Let’s discuss this” but….why? Whatever let’s keep it simple. Didn’t watch the video cause including it was dumb nobody cares about a randos opinion on being a man anyways.

My definition is whatever Webster says.

I’m already the man I want to be.

Masculinity is based on the parameters that you define it to be.

Yes genetically testosterone is what literally makes you a man. I really get tired of non medically inclined laymens underselling the importance and impact that hormones have on your body and decision making.

Anyways this was an awful question and I hope we never see anything like this ever again

Ryanmp99 · 2022-01-07T14:17:16+00:00

To find out what it means to be a man just look up masculine traits. Also don’t listen to what women say “masculinity” is or isn’t, the womansplainers don’t know shit.

AquaChip · 2022-01-07T13:31:36+00:00

That’s the same font that was used on the carts of snake oil salesmen in the 19th century.

GGMcThroway · 2022-01-07T16:17:18+00:00

To be an adult with a male-gendered brain.

Cultural notions of masculinity are outdated (same with femininity, before anyone says anything). Find something better to base your identity on.

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houstongradengineer · 2022-01-07T14:38:36+00:00

Well, a man is an adult, and that generally is supposed to mean being self-sufficient, self-controlled and self-aware. By the time you tell like 25, you should be transitioned there. And then there's the ever offensive opinion that being a male generally means being born with a dick, a Y chromosome, and the sexually spontaneous desire that typically comes with higher levels of testosterone. There's obviously a spectrum including masculine people who were born generically female, bi/gay men, or even intersex people. But if I was to pick what traits generally define an adult male man, it would be what I described here at first.

Obviously genetics and hormones play a role in this issue. There's nothing that can be done about that, except I want to be crystal clear that all humans deserve understanding and respect. Maybe they don't deserve irreversible medical intervention as a minor or the ability to compete in sports for people on a different physical level than they are... but we can surely afford people the respect of referring to requested pronouns. Also important to note that my generation, the ass-eaters (but not me, don't get excited), began a time period where the average adult is the US is struggling incredibly hard to become financially self-sufficient. It isn't natural, and times will need to change. I believe this strange economic time is impact the dating realm in ways that this sub might erroneously attribute to evil wahmen/lookism/information age of online interaction/whatever. Um, where was I? I guess that adults in this day and age are expected to act much more self-controlled and self-aware than children and teens, but the expectation to be self-sufficient may be a little... off in this day and age.

lulll · 2022-01-07T16:02:21+00:00

well for one thing if you're a man you're not going to bother listening to a fucking dating coach

Zerofication · 2022-01-07T16:06:02+00:00

He said to be a man means taking responsibility for your own life which is incomplete, because men take responsibility for their own lives as well as the lives of their women. That's why women inherently won't and can't be held accountable for their own actions, at least not in the same way or degree as men.

Fit-Photograph1646 · 2022-01-07T22:19:25+00:00

I guess be like Goku but with more IQ. Fighting manga protagonists immediately pop into my head when I think of masculinity.

JALopo1 · 2022-01-07T22:47:26+00:00

I agree with the thesis of Jack Donovan in his book: The Way of Men. Manliness is strength. courage. mastery and honor.

Strenght is self-evident be good at fighting too.

Courage is self-evident.

Mastery is being competent.

Honor is a reputation for strength, courage, and mastery and that you'll strike back when someone hurts you or your group.

That's literally it. It's not a complex subject.

lovebomber · 2022-01-08T08:40:40+00:00

A man is someone who demonstrates courage in the face of risk.

Ohms2North · 2022-01-08T13:18:46+00:00

Just ask Gillette

WilliamWyattD · 2022-01-08T15:28:16+00:00

These are questions of identity that are impossible for a person to completely answer in isolation. This is what cultures do.

Obviously, there are strong biological factors involved in a culture's conception and ideals of masculinity. But it is impossible to fully isolate the innate traits from socially constructed ones. The same nature can manifest very differently in different cultures and environments.

Cultures build up these ideals and gender identities over ages, with trial and error combined with best-guess theory.

I do think we need to update our ideas on what ideal masculinity looks like in the 21st Century. But it will take time. In the meantime, every man just has to do his best based on the culture he comes from and his own attempts to tweak this ideal for modern living.

For the typical guy, I believe that masculinity involves a type of emotional control and expression that is different than women's. More restrained. More stoic in some ways. Yet you also need to learn how to listen and communicate what is essential. You ask for help when needed, but only when needed. You try to help and protect more than you receive such things.

You also try to internalize and suppress anxiety. Be decisive. Leadership is critical, while also knowing your limits and when and where you should accept leadership from others. You also have to know what you need, materially from this world, and take responsibility for getting it. You can't have it provided for you without losing honor.

PMmeareasontolive · 2022-01-08T18:47:17+00:00

He says a man takes responsibility for himself, but I'd say that's just an adult. So the man definition needs to be a bit more specific, since that definition applies to women as well.

I think you have to get into definitions of your concepts of ideal masculinity, which is a role that boys have to assume as they grow up and is always going to have its drawbacks.

The question then is what is the social construct of masculinity vs what are the biologic traits of maleness.

ObviouslyAnAltAct · 2022-01-12T19:37:37+00:00

What does it mean to be a man? Nothing good anymore.

Blackpill_Puritan · 2022-01-07T18:21:45+00:00

In layman terms a man is someone that was born with a penis and has XY chromosomes. This is the objective observable truth, if you're applying subjective relative principles to what makes a man that is purely opinion.

wtknight · 2022-01-07T13:18:22+00:00

I don’t care much about what it means to identify as a man. If I hypothetically decide tomorrow that I’m going to identify as a woman then that’s not going to stop me from being attracted to women.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-07T13:22:05+00:00

It's that guy in the video you uploaded. He oozes a kind of sexy masculine appeal. That's a Real man

Both the men in that video had me tingling with their masculine appeal. Men take notes

redpillbob69 · 2022-01-07T13:23:20+00:00

Being a man, is being able to be yourself and not apologize for it. Don't do things to make others happy. Do things that define who you are and let the people interested enter your world.

manfrom-nantucket · 2022-01-07T14:18:39+00:00

NO FUCKS GIVEN!!!

flapperfemmefatale · 2022-01-07T15:48:18+00:00

Can I get a recap? In not adding manosphere shit to my algorithm lol

Aclopolipse · 2022-01-07T15:59:43+00:00

No Mulan reply yet? I'm honestly surprised.

Complete-Temporary-6 · 2022-01-07T18:16:11+00:00

Existing as a adult human male. Any other qualifier is disgusting.

Title	What does it mean to be a man
Author	JacobMoogberg69
Upvotes	5
Comments	65
Date	January 7, 2022 12:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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