Reddit Case Study on exactly what NOT to do

Affectionate-Self440 · 2021-11-24T18:09:57+00:00

She’s extremely foolish. He was showing his love and devotion to her in a huge way and she totally blew it.

Rispy_Girl · 2021-11-24T16:35:30+00:00

Oof. Wow. If that's as much as she owns I wonder if it was worse than it sounded.

I hate talks of money. It's so hard and uncomfortable. Probably because of stuff in my childhood. Hubby and I are recalibration financial stuff too. It's so uncomfortable to even think about finances, but thankfully I completely trust him and his judgment and am happy to go along with what he suggests.

rosesonthefloor · 2021-11-24T18:20:40+00:00

I read the AITA post before the TIFU and man, the lack of self-awareness on her part (until she realized she messed obviously) was astounding lol.

Talk about biting the hand that feeds you.

sicrm · 2021-11-24T18:06:59+00:00

once she kicked him out, any possible empathy went out the window.

Whisper · 2021-11-24T17:12:27+00:00

The single most important difference between RPW and FDS/feminism is trust.

Demands that you not give up a single iota of power or control to a man you're supposed to love are based in distrust. Which demands of us that we ask the question... "if you don't trust this man, why are you with him?".

One of RPW's most important core beliefs is that, while there are bad men, and men behaving badly, men, as a whole and in general, are actually good... especially towards women.

And the better, sweeter, and kinder women are to them, the more this becomes true.

CountTheBees · 2021-11-25T01:34:47+00:00

Interesting that she says the only reason was because he "wanted a future with [her]". There are any number of reasons he'd have done it, e.g. he was a nice guy, he wanted to help, it didn't cost him anything, he wanted a future with her and wanted to help her, but she jumps to the non-altruistic explanation where it is only that he gets something back for it. Even now that she gets she TIFUd she still doesn't understand men reward past actions while women reward future ones.

Also implicit in her assumptions, is the idea that it's ok to be beholden to the bank, to the government, to companies, but not your loved ones or your community, i.e., not to individuals, even if they are individuals you love. As if an individual is any harder to reason with or enslaves you any more than a faceless corporation. It's not feminism, it's a close cousin though, from about the same time in history. It's "buy ultra buy Naomi".

memelia · 2021-11-25T04:41:07+00:00

Now where can I find someone like OP’s bf 😂

Pola_Lita · 2021-11-24T21:33:50+00:00

I went to this woman's profile. Down about mid-page, there's a demotivational with a caption that says "BELIEVE WOMEN" and under that, "Suspend Critical Thinking."

Just under that is a snippet of convo where her comments have been removed by the mod "because it sucked", and things go downward from there.

I don't think this woman is a feminist by any definition. I think she and her BF are probably both just young, emotional and a little naive.

dead_not_stupid · 2021-11-24T18:22:24+00:00

Even if she was set on not accepting it she should have shown her appreciation but kindly said no. I know I’d have a hard time accepting the loan but would still be so so grateful at the offer. The mindset of kicking him out and ruining the relationship because of pride is definitely a consequence of the toxic modern feminist movement. The idea of a woman being helped and saved by a man is so offensive in that world.

whatsiteven · 2021-11-26T03:45:36+00:00

Completely agree. That's actually absurd; like even from a pure selfish standpoint, who would turn down free money for clout?

But yes, it makes no sense to handle something you're not any good at if someone else is a) willing to help gladly and b) is significantly better at it. I'm not good with numbers, money, investments or any of those things, and guess what? I let the men in my life handle everything in regards to that while still making my feelings known (such as, "oh I really care about my monthly hair trip, so please don't remove it from the budget"). They can choose to take them into account or not but at the end of the day I expressed my opinions and beliefs and I know and trust that they are making the best possible decision all things considered (so if paying off loans is more important than a monthly trip to fix my roots, then yeah, it's probably a better judgment call). There's so much less stress and anxiety this way. And vice versa; I LOVE cleaning and enjoy cooking; there's no reason to want a 50-50 split if I don't mind cleaning everything and cooking most meals. We are interdependent, not dependent or independent.

3rd wave feminism is bad for women and femininity. It's essentially, "turn into a version of masculinity to garner any respect" and degrades all feminine qualities and traits.

Key-Progress-8873 · 2021-11-25T04:28:08+00:00

What an insane level of disrespect. What's worse is that I can't even figure out an outcome that may have worked out in her favor. So, she berates her man and tries to dominate him - it works. He bites his tongue, lets her figure out her own way out of 25,000 in debt, despite she accumulated it in the first place, while continuing to financially support her and indirectly taking care of the debt anyway. Why would she want a man that has bent to her temper tantrum anyway? It's still a loss, for her and for him.

Tonight_Majestic · 2021-11-24T19:24:55+00:00

She acted impulsive, irrational and immature. She could have sat down with him and calmly explained her stance. He also acted impulsive by breaking up with her without a proper discussion. They're both immature in this scenario.

SnowOnCinders · 2021-11-26T17:05:20+00:00

Wow. This is textbook and good on the boyfriend for not putting up with that.

donaldcargill · 2021-12-05T01:16:34+00:00

Wow what a breathe of fresh air.

Title	Reddit Case Study on exactly what NOT to do
Author	NotPast3
Upvotes	119
Comments	23
Date	November 24, 2021 3:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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