should i use him or drop him ?

cbunni666 · 2023-09-29T19:41:49+00:00

A) don't ever use people. It doesn't work out as great as you may think

B) if you don't believe most things he's telling you like him being not married when you know he is or will take you to Dubai or Paris when you know he won't, what makes you think he will actually get you an internship? He could be blow smoke with that as well

Good luck

Dehydrated_Jellyfish · 2023-09-29T19:22:34+00:00

Very incredibly easy to find a single guy in that age range who will offer a hot 20-year-old an 'internship' so he can take her on dates. I do not believe one bit that there is an internship involved. It's not as easy to use looks for your career as it was 5, 10 and 15 years ago. If a man alludes to career growth but takes you on a date, he's exploiting your career aspirations for his chance to get 20-year-old sex. I promise you; I've had to tell many 40 something men that exploiting young women's want for a career is wrong and it creates a weird power dynamic where the woman wants the man for her career but makes him feel like he's wanted. If you want to use your looks for your career, prepare to have sex for your career growth. Flirting doesn't do much nowadays.

Key_Hunter4064 · 2023-09-29T17:56:54+00:00

Hey be careful with this one. I'd suggest maybe stay away from him.

FriendCountZero · 2023-09-29T17:15:28+00:00

The internship offer is probably a lie, keep yourself safe and listen to your gut. I'd stay away.

Environmental_Ad5867 · 2023-09-29T21:05:38+00:00

Oftentimes if an offer is too good to be true, it’s because it is.

I say this in the nicest way, if you come in thinking that you’re controlling the strings- you’re in for a very painful lesson in the realities of the world. Do you genuinely think that a 20 year old is going to manipulate a much older man 20 years her senior who has political and monetary influence into her frame?

Offers like this come with plenty of caveats- everything looks rosy as long as you play along and once you stop, things can end very badly for you. Everything you’ve worked for on your own back can come tumbling down and your reputation shot alongside with any credibility you’d try to build moving forward from that.

I personally have a very hard rule against wilfully using men with positions of power to my advantage or crossing into ‘mistress/sugar baby’ territory. If someone wants to help, then so be it. I’d show gratefulness but I don’t indulge in the extras that can lead to something else ie holidays/shopping trips abroad. In my experience, if you maintain that boundary and integrity, while they might not exactly be thrilled about it but they respect you for it. Usually there isn’t a fall out.

What I’m saying is, this isn’t his first rodeo with trying to use his position of influence to woo a young woman. So be very careful.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-09-29T21:51:27+00:00

You can't get something for nothing. You know what he's offering that internship in exchange for. And I think it goes without saying that you shouldn't sleep your way into internships; it lowers both your SMV and RMV. How would you like to show up at the firm, everyone immediately recognize you're "his type," and never take you seriously?

You're also not playing him the way you think you are - he's enjoying the fact you're willing to fawn over him just because he's powerful. He's watching you dance. He's done this many times before and seen all the reactions.

Deliaallmylife · 2023-09-29T18:34:07+00:00

You should not draw this out in the manner that it is going. By which I mean, you should not pretend you will have a romantic anything with him in order to get the internship.

All the red flags aside, you do not want a job that you are not qualified to do. You also do not want a job where there is even a whisper that you slept your way into it. I cannot speak to the first, and in all likelihood, neither can this man offering to pull strings for you. He is obviously interested in flaunting his status and from your brief description, it doesn't sound like he knows anything about your qualifications beyond being someone he wants to ...errr... take to Dubai.

If you do get him to pull strings, people will talk. If you were older with a track record behind you then perhaps you could weather the talk for a good opportunity. However, you don't want to have your initial contacts in the business world to know you as "that intern Bob hired so he could bang".

This is a high risk proposition that has a number of potential pitfalls. Without knowing more about you, your prospects and this internship, it seems unlikely to me that it is worth the risk.

URLoganRiley · 2023-09-29T19:14:41+00:00

Going into a situation in the hopes of "using" someone doesn't usually end well and both parties risk being used and abused..

kitterkatty · 2023-09-30T04:34:32+00:00

That could destroy your reputation in a snap, considering the connections. Esp if he lied about being married. He wouldn’t want that to get around. It’s already off to a bad start. Sorry. :/

nothings_cool · 2023-09-29T20:20:23+00:00

How is this different from prostitution?

mistressusa · 2023-09-29T19:09:11+00:00

If he sets you up with an internship, it probably means that he is buddies with your internship boss. This means that he'll have access to you and worse, if you spurn him, would that affect your working relationship with your boss? This has drama written all over it. I would try and find an internship myself.

SunshineSundress · 2023-09-29T19:57:09+00:00

In my experience, people who openly “use” others and people who will not keep their word tend to attract each other like moths to a flame.

Any-Smoke7960 · 2023-09-29T18:12:45+00:00

I would be suspicious of him offering to fly you out so soon

Morphiadz · 2023-09-30T00:18:12+00:00

Run, it's not worth it. I had a sort of similar thing happen in the past and the older person was just trying to take advantage/use their experience to get me into some weird relationship.

pervygirl_social · 2023-09-30T11:47:00+00:00

drop him. As a RPW, you don't want to align yourself with that type of man. You can get your internship in other ways.

TheBunk_TB · 2023-09-30T19:40:39+00:00

You will become a party favor or entertainment. Nothing to gain, move on.

CyberTutu · 2023-09-30T00:18:55+00:00

Don't sell yourself hun. Have some self-respect and self-love. You are precious, men shouldn't be allowed to touch you, look at you or even be near you

nihilisticbunny · 2023-09-29T17:40:03+00:00

dude he is literally twice your age

AutoModerator · 2023-09-29T17:04:26+00:00

Title: should i use him or drop him ?

Full text: I (20F) met a lawyer (40M) by chance during an political event. We talked about our studies, politics and he asked me my number to stay in touch. The man comes from a very rich family , works in Dubai, works with a lot of political men and ... is a free mason. ( i knew that during our second meeting).

Basically he sent me a message to ask me if he could see me to get a coffee because he was in my city. I'm not going to lie i was a bit surprised but i told myself : "just go , see and get an intership in a good law cabinet".

I saw him and we talked about my studies, his life, my life ... he told me that he could easily get me an intership. I was like "fine my mission is ended". In the end of the date/ Meeting i realised that he wanted to have something with me . He asked me if he could see me an other time in a restaurant, if he can see me after midnight. he proposed me take me to Dubai , Paris ( i never believed him ) .

He asked me if i had a boyfriend, told me that he wasn't married ( but he is ). I felt like he was somebody with a big influence, i wasn't impressed by that but i felt it, at least this is what he wanted to show to me.

Basically , I just faked being impressed and interested with what he was saying just to protect myself and because i just wanted to have my internship. The rest didn't matter to me.

When I came home I had a lot of introspection. I did not want to talk to him again, but in a way i'm also thinking about my carreer. I'd love to do this internship. He sent me a message 2 weeks later to take news from me. I still haven't answer, i don't know what to do.

Should i use his contacts to get this intership or should i continue to ghost him ?

Thank you in advance.

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TheNarcosTribune · 2023-10-02T14:35:16+00:00

Hahahahaha he’s definitely not going to get you an internship. He’s going to smash and block you.

SoonerStreet1 · 2023-09-30T19:46:46+00:00

No offense but you don't sound like the best of people, rather than ghost, you can be upfront about everything and still tell him that you would like to lose contact.

AgreeableLunch6821 · 2023-09-29T22:37:12+00:00

Get the internship but don't sleep with him. Bad karma if he is married and he seems "shady".

pleasehelpnull · 2023-10-04T20:54:53+00:00

him being a married 41 year old man was all i needed to hear . continue to ignore him .

Sad-Associate-5868 · 2023-10-05T07:25:37+00:00

This sounded sketchy from the first paragraph

C0br4y · 2023-10-08T10:21:22+00:00

Never ever use your body to get anything...

Title	should i use him or drop him ?
Author	Rough_Coconut_5982
Upvotes	5
Comments	49
Date	September 29, 2023 5:04 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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