Long time lurker... NEED to get this shit off my chest

H42 · 2017-03-07T22:26:17+00:00

It sucks to hate the place you live. Fix that. Move out to a new place.

ex_addict_bro · 2017-03-07T22:17:59+00:00

You're filled with victim mentality. Listen to Steve Chandler's audios on "victim vs owner" for a start.

You're being passive-aggressive (slamming the door). That's not how a real man behaves.

Google and fix those issues to move on in your life.

alexjsaf · 2017-03-07T23:31:52+00:00

Getting away from her ASAP is your best bet, obviously. As lame as this might sound, being in a pissed off mood all the time because of this girl is not good for a whole lot of aspects in your life - mental and physical.

Since you probably can't leave because I'm assuming you already would have if you had the opportunity, use the fact that she is annoying and pisses you off as your excuse to get out of the house and make the gym your happy/stress-free place. Also an excuse to get out and meet new people!

Best of luck!

clickclackasdf · 2017-03-08T00:13:18+00:00

Interesting; I have a similar story. I had long known that being fit would have benefits, but it wasn't until I started to lurk R slash FatPeopleHate that I actually became motivated to lift. Even though I wasn't fat, the realization of the fact that I was only superior to a fatty as much as I was inferior to an athlete or buff guy, was what it took to motivate me.

YouSoGetMe · 2017-03-08T02:12:13+00:00

I see this is an awesome opportunity for learning how to work with a bad boss or project member, which will happen in your future.

Look for the driver behind your housemate, as in, what acknowledgement or acceptance is she trying to gain or need. There's only two: integrate or isolate. Is she trying to get along with you or is she trying to create a war so someone moves out. When you give what she's seeking in a way that pleases you, then these people just become tools you could use to help get what you want.

I've had bosses and employees like this woman. Maybe her trying something, learning about it and then telling you is her way of trying to connect. Acknowledging one of her correct comments with "Good point" turned a difficult employee into a great one for me. I was also able to say "your thinking is right but nope, it's not a good point because (reasons here). Given that, what do you suggest?" Which upskilled them without embarrasing them.

Right now your situation is zero failure. You do not have to impress her to keep your job or successfully complete a long work project. Right now, if you try something and it fails, it's simple to say sorry (in a way so you are the better man) and try something else.

If everything fails then it's solid to say "I've tried everything to get along with you but you refuse. I don't see that I've done anything wrong, and continuing this way of living is unsuitable for the house. I suggest you either let everyone know what the problem is or you should move on."

Every difficult time you have in life is an opportunity to create or grow your talents to get the solution you want. You will be in situations where you need to use these skills later in your life so sharpen them now.

lemming1607 · 2017-03-07T22:49:43+00:00

I strive to be a better man because I see what I don't want and what I do want as examples in my life.

Nothing wrong with making yourself a better man because of the failures of another

arthurabyssal · 2017-03-07T22:14:42+00:00

And she's wrong because MORE fat and LESS carbs is how you lose weight. She sounds like a stupid cow. Get your housemates together to kick her out or move in with someone else.

catshit69 · 2017-03-08T04:55:49+00:00

Reminds me of a trip I went on in college. Me, one BP dude and 8 'empowered' women. They were bitching at me because "guys can eat whatever they want and stay skinny" yet that night they made pizza rolls and little smokies as a fucking meal. I got my own food.

sadbasturd99 · 2017-03-08T13:04:17+00:00

Sounds like you are the problem here. Fix your own mental issues, stop attacking people with bullshit like slamming the door early in the morning, and live your life for yourself. Fucking teenage punk.

grumpy_0ld_man · 2017-03-08T14:33:40+00:00

Don't slam the door in the morning. That's childish. Get her out of your head and do your thing. Apply law 38 and look to move out sooner than later.

redartist · Wed Mar 8 7:41:51 2017 UTC

Seeing her leads myself to choose positive actions such as forcing myself out of bed at 6:30AM every morning for a 45 minute run

You should seriously stop doing that. I'm telling you this as a guy who's won competitions in track and field athletics in his hometown of 1.4M people in his teens.

Get to the nearest, cheapest gym and start lifting. If your finances are tight (seeing how you share housing with abominations) and you can't afford a personal trainer that's fine, just start with something, maybe with this: http://stronglifts.com/5x5/

[deleted] · 2017-03-08T08:20:57+00:00

Make sure you're relying on self-discipline to drive you towards your goal and not distaste at another persons lifestyle.

'Fat fucking troll' - loved it, 10/10, would label again.

Casd12 · 2017-03-09T04:33:30+00:00

Anyone who compares themselves to garbage will always look better and feel superior. Try to compare yourself to people are better than you.

LewisCross · 2017-03-07T21:35:44+00:00

yeah. You totally should marry her. She sounds awesome.

Or maybe you should stop fucking her.

morexel · 2017-03-08T03:16:03+00:00

You just described 68.8% of Americans.

Why do you think our top advice here is to lift? Because being fat is disgusting. It's weakness of body, mind, and soul.

You qualified most of her negative actions through the lens of her weight. Would you do the same if she was a ten?

Don't lie to yourself. You would think differently. And so do they.

Good rant tho. Hope it helped to vent.

[deleted] · 2017-03-08T04:03:56+00:00

England is a hell of a drug.

bruh_my_jays · 2017-03-08T05:25:15+00:00

Don't be delusional. A real man is a leader who inspires others to rise above, or at the very least doesn't need others to fail to fuel his own purpose.

If you are really thriving as you say you are, then why must you post this? Anger and negativity is understandable, and venting is healthy behavior, but this is just lame.

Move away from her and do self-improvement either on your own or with positive male friends, no women. See what real thriving feels like instead of clinging to the parasitic relationship you just described.

She is a reflection of some part of your current self. Figure out what it is and either get rid of it or change it.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-03-08T15:36:54+00:00

So you run instead of actually lifting?

That's what I got from ur post

awfulgoodness · 2017-03-08T20:21:41+00:00

Now this is a rant. I have sisters who are drunks and eat like garbage pails cos they have no men telling them to lighten up (literally). They work in oil/gas so they have access to pile of dough and are generally good people except to themselves. Watching them slowly self destruct gives me a ample motivation to stay sober, watch what I eat, and lift like a beast. Use this until it jumps that shark then bell.

TrumpRules2016 · 2017-03-07T21:47:46+00:00

What the fuck was the point of this post?

clean_n_serene333 · 2017-03-08T07:24:51+00:00

Youre a little bitch op. Grow up and get your own home like a real man

ardrich · 2017-03-07T22:34:40+00:00

Carefully work together with your other roommate to kick the bitch out. It's poisonous as fuck, but why not?

I_Need_More_Space_ · 2017-03-08T02:48:07+00:00

I thought American whores were bad. But, English whores beat them by a single cunt hair. LOL.

Good by you to find a positive aspect to your low life house-mate.

masturbates2Dragons · 2017-03-08T04:31:01+00:00

I am grateful for people like that Woman. Embrace people whose existence shows what could happen if you don't walk a better path. I have also stopped hating people like her for this reason.

lanky32 · 2017-03-08T04:32:31+00:00

She is not your wife or your gf. She is just a flatmate. You hate her guts.

Move out. If you can not afford to live alone, move in with other people.

monkeycycling · 2017-03-08T04:35:17+00:00

Lol I want sure if fried fish offered health benefits a couple months ago. I googled it and it was a unanimous no

stupid_af · 2017-03-08T05:34:45+00:00

On a fundamental level, I would argue that your choice of right path should be independent of that fat chick. So for example, if that person wasn't your roommate, or maybe you were living alone, would you not have made the right decisions? Are you saying that your actions and hence your life is getting defined by some other individual? It should be independent of the next person. If you were a roommate of young arnold schwarznegger, doesnt mean you get depressed and not make the right choices. It should be independent of your flatmate. Thats the deal bruh.

Trooper_1868 · 2017-03-08T05:36:51+00:00

Think about it this way, if you see what people do wrong, and what happens to them, then you can learn not to do the same thing. You should be thanking her everyday for she is showing exactly what not to do, everyday and reinforcing it with every fibre of her body.

carjackerwilly · 2017-03-08T06:23:41+00:00

You should be thanking her. She has shown you who women truly are once the mask comes off. You have no value to her and she does not want anything from you. This is who they really are behind their massive public relations industry. Once they no longer value you or need anything from you, this is what you get. Every man should know this and this fat whore had taught you for free.

Kalidane · 2017-03-08T10:31:14+00:00

As I think you're doing, use her as a contra indicator. If she does something, give some thought to doing the opposite.

She is so bad at life that she should be an inverse life coach.

greatslyfer · 2017-03-08T12:21:52+00:00

That girl is a reminder of what happens if we take the bad, complacent path.

A window in to an alternate reality in which all the decisions of the past create the lazy, judgemental cunt which COULD HAVE BEEN YOU.

grumpy_0ld_man · 2017-03-08T14:33:40+00:00

Don't slam the door in the morning. That's childish. Get her out of your head and do your thing. Apply law 38 and look to move out sooner than later.

akaNeon1 · 2017-03-08T15:43:10+00:00

I don't like the fact that you're comparing yourself to a literal land-whale.

There's so incredibly many pathetic people out there. The VAST VAST majority is disgusting.

Compare yourself to the people you look up to. Surround yourself with them if possible.

A land-whale can make you feel better, but it will also make you feel like you are "good enough" because of just how disgusting their life is.

Kaquin · 2017-03-08T16:11:05+00:00

Know your enemy, and love your enemy. For they will make you strong in ways that friends and allies cannot.

alphabeta49 · 2017-03-08T19:24:40+00:00

r / fatpeoplehate, and now r / fatlogic, has provided me the best motivation to lose weight and get in shape.

aanarchist · 2017-03-08T21:30:04+00:00

welcome to the red pill friend

CptConfused · 2017-03-09T00:52:52+00:00

Sometimes it can be hard because your tied in contractually to live with these people day by day. I highly recommend you don't let them effect you. learn to ignore them. practice some meditation, by you posting this I can tell they bother you, you need to not think about this its a waste of energy. Learn to be pleasant with these people but keep them at arms distance. Meanwhile look for a new place and screen the fuck out of people before you agree to live with them for the next twelve months. Take my advice this happened to me too.

I_ride_bike · 2017-03-11T03:44:26+00:00

My general take on carbs is go with complex carbohydrates and slow digesting ones such as Multigrain and bananas. Structure the carbs so they're taken in early a few hours before significant activity so you don't empty your glucose reserves working out.

For fat I usually prioritize nuts and fish sticking to lean protein such as chicken and lean beef.

Eating a decent amount of fiber is a fairly good way to motivate weight loss. Your digestive system uses a lot of calories.

For serious athletes you kind of need carbs. I typically exercise/workout three hours a day. Anything short of 3000 calories puts me in a caloric deficiet. Eating that much protein or fat makes my stomach sick so I eat fruits and Multigrains to pick up the missing calories.

To the OP beware of people like that. People with no motivation to self improvement are dangerous. They are fools caught in their folly. Society would be better off without those deadbeats.

Mckallidon · 2017-03-12T13:25:00+00:00

Fuck that shit. Move. Nothing fucks a living space up like a fat stupid cunt.

Rubberlemons · 2017-03-08T06:39:19+00:00

Uh eating carbs causes weight gain more than eating fat does. In fact a high fat low carb diet can cause your body to lose weight.

grumpy_0ld_man · 2017-03-08T14:33:40+00:00

Don't slam the door in the morning. That's childish. Get her out of your head and do your thing. Apply law 38 and look to move out sooner than later.

digitalbitch · 2017-03-08T05:53:11+00:00

Let's bitch about some random girl? No personal growth? Who gives a fuck?

Title	Long time lurker... NEED to get this shit off my chest
Author	TotalWipeout
Upvotes	178
Comments	94
Date	March 7, 2017 9:33 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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