Never fucking show your weaknesses.

suttonparks · 2023-06-04T18:59:38+00:00

Congrats. You won! Yeah, it hurts, but long term, you won. That other guy got a lying, cheating slut. You learned a lesson and got a faithful, loving dog. That other guy now has your biggest problem. Your future with her would have been hell and she would have destroyed you financially and mentally. Never imagine your future with her any different. Long term, you won!

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2023-06-04T16:26:07+00:00

Man, that's rough. I feel for you.

Block and delete her number.

Get to the gym. Like, yesterday.

Throw yourself into your work.

Let the universe do it's thing to these two.

Not gonna lie. If one guy did that to me, heads would roll. A scumbag like that deserves a beating that changes his moral compass. But ffs do not be the guy to intiate it. Save yourself first.

RXP36 · 2023-06-04T15:35:50+00:00

We all take losses. It’s what you do from here forward.

throwthethrowofthrow · 2023-06-04T15:29:55+00:00

Calm down bro. The fact that you offered her the dog for the relationship back should concern you. You need to calm down so you can asses things rationally, not emotionally. Mediate daily for a week, see how u feel about it after.

draneline · 2023-06-04T16:07:35+00:00

We all take losses from here and there - some small and some large. Gotta take a few weeks to let the dust clear so you can learn from it. I’m not sure how this guy goes 2-0 up on you like he’s your arch nemesis, but it’s not even worth your time at this rate. Channel that pain into something palpable and productive and with the right mindset you’ll look back on this as a painful blessing in disguise.

comical-v2 · 2023-06-04T16:42:56+00:00

Brother, I am incredibly sorry for what you’re going through. I understand your emotions are likely at an all time high right now, and who can blame you?

Take time away from everything. Take time off of work if you can. A few days to a week is all you need. Stay off social media, all of it. Meditate. Journal. Go outside. You are alive my friend, no matter what pains this world brings, life is a gift that we aren’t grateful enough for.

These experiences are what make or break a man. This can be shaped into a turning point in your life, for better or for worse.

You know what pills you have to choose from. Pick the right colour.

Petrofskydude · 2023-06-04T15:36:30+00:00

So this bro is just stalking you and stealing all your girls? That's insane.

asoiaf3 · 2023-06-04T16:34:24+00:00

Fucking roast me.

Why, because you stopped going to the gym? This is a very sad story you got here bro, but all I can see is that you did your best, met two fucking trash human beings (it happens to everyone), and cut your losses. Good luck to you, it's gonna get better.

NeoCzar · 2023-06-04T20:11:11+00:00

If it's any consolation, we live in the 21st century. You could have Chris Hemsworth's looks, Jeff Bezos' money and success, and Einstein's IQ, and if that mentally unstable deficient human who lacks any sense of accountability you call a woman decides the pool boy does it for her, and the stars align, she'll fuck him. All you can ever do is endeavour to make the stars not align, and cross your fingers the household/family stays intact.

In ages past society did that job for you, but not for a couple of generations now unfortunately.

matei_o · 2023-06-04T20:15:16+00:00

Brother, there always is a guy that is better than you in some aspect and it is a game you will never find contentment in.

Never base your value on things that can be taken away (accident, disease and crisis can take away most of what you have) - that does not mean you should not put effort in what you deem important, but don't achieve to impress.

It is hard to be in a relationship when you can not really be yourself - hiding intentions and weaknesses to keep it going is a soul draining experience. Real strength is in being vulnerable without your position being compromised and it comes with you knowing and appreciating yourself.

People are different and different things trigger them, some women appreciate guy for his wits and experience, others want relationship safety etc. and it is important that you are respected in areas you think are worthwhile of your time - for example, I delve into philosophy and politics for fun and like the theory, being with a girl which will judge me by other abilities I don't have will only force my attention to things outside of my nature.

After a few longer relationships you can see which ones will work out and which won't. You may get again into a shit relationship and notice red flags right away, but will pursue it for the sake of it. Anyways, as the time goes by, you will see the only regret you have is getting into those in the first place rather than breaking them up.

AirForceNerd · 2023-06-04T17:07:01+00:00

Abundance mindset. She was never yours, it was only your turn. She wasn't the "one" either, if her behavior wasn't evidence enough. She was one of many, and one that you will out grow in SMV as you age.

You've lost nothing.

Don't cry over spilt milk. Just clean up the mess and pour another glass.

repfive305 · 2023-06-04T16:03:48+00:00

Yeah you must basically only show that you’re the man. Happened across the short subreddit the other day and one post I read was about how when a guy and his wife wanted to have kids, she wanted a sperm donor because of all the trauma he had brought up to her about being short and they ended up divorced.

neverendingplush · 2023-06-04T18:33:03+00:00

Dude be happy. I know you dont see it now, because its a lot of emotion to process, but I was in your situation about a year ago. The usual shenanigans, i started to see signs of my ex cheating, and she swore to the gods, and blah blah, she was lying. Dont make any concessions and try to appeal in anyway to get her back. She wants another dude , for the time being until something maybe happens in their relationship.

If by some chance she got back with you, you'd look in the mirror everyday and see a clown. You'd sleep with her knowing the other guy was doing the same while she told you she crashed at one of her friends place. Now you're free of her, she wasnt the person you thought she was, they never our, we project ourselves onto them. She'll do the same to the other guy, vice versa. Let the emotions sink in and ride that shit out, takes time.

MattyAnon · 2023-06-04T16:41:36+00:00

And this is why you should never commit.

Be grateful she didn't pull the wool over your eyes long enough to marry you

itsFRAAAAAAAAANK · 2023-06-04T17:06:36+00:00

"Fuckin roast me" hahaha this shouldn't have made me laugh the way it did

ShitDonuts · 2023-06-04T17:13:13+00:00

Would've happened sooner or later, probably saved you a few years.

flight212121 · 2023-06-04T16:41:32+00:00

Hold on, so it happened twice? The same guy somehow fucked both your exes?

SovereignOfSelf7 · 2023-06-04T20:29:18+00:00

Bro this is crazy you gotta fuck his mom or something and send him pictures on his work email.

Prestigious-Focus594 · 2023-06-04T18:24:30+00:00

Let me tell you something.

As soon as you die, your identity becomes "body". People use phrases like "Bring the body", "Lower the body in the grave yard" etc. People don't even call you by your name, whom you tried to impress your whole life...... so, live a life to impress the creator not the creation.

Take chances. Spend money on things you love... laugh till your stomach hurts. Dance even if you're too bad at it. Pose stupidly for photos. Be child-like.

Never eeeeeeeeeever let life inside you die while you're still alive just because of creation(people).

oooKenshiooo · 2023-06-04T19:38:41+00:00

Oh boy, that's a tough one.

However, the other guy liberated you from cheating girls twice.

Learn your lesson. Never date musician girls. Don't give shady men access to your loved ones.

(I was a professional musician for 10 years, I had to learn that lesson as well.)

Build a new life and protect it.

Emergency_Count_7498 · 2023-06-04T21:47:10+00:00

Ig he enjoys your sloppy seconds lmao 😂

Herdsengineers · 2023-06-05T02:51:25+00:00

Those two sound like they're made for each other. Leave them to each other, it will be the best revenge you can exact on them. I know it being so fresh and recent makes it hard to see this, but it really is true. No more contact with either of them, though. Delete any new messages from them unread.

Hit the gym, focus on not derailing at work, eat well. Keep it simple, work some good self care into your life, and start building your life again.

kvakerok · 2023-06-04T18:58:00+00:00

You're just a branch bro. Keep lifting and start meditating on how you're going to become a better ~~branch~~ person. Work on your goals and achieving them. And don't ever double down on the grind, it never works.

P.S. She was right to block you. Don't contact her again. You said some really dumb emotionally manipulative shit there.

WoolyWeenie · 2023-06-04T22:04:56+00:00

Doesn't matter what the dude has ever done with his life, he's the one who can only prey on another man's woman.

We get dealt bad hands in life, you, have been dealt the same bad hand in multiple occasions. I wish you the best of health in your healing process, but do not be too hard on yourself, no matter who you are, what you've accomplished, the body you have, the wealth you have amassed, women are still women in the end. Understand the only one who will ever be loyal to you til' death do you part, is yourself. Now you know that nothing comes before yourself and what you need to do to accomplish your goals. No future woman, LTR, etc. can stand in your way. You sir, whether a believer or not, have a higher purpose that must be found and achieved.

Do not restrict yourself to the gym, sign up for a sport. The more combative the better.

You are a man, the universe is at your fingertips. Understand the galactic energy that you have. You've proven yourself to be successful with women, you appear to be successful with your musical talents, take your success to the NEXT FUCKING LEVEL. I DONT CARE WHAT IT IS, PICK A CHALLENGE, A STRUGGLE, A JOURNEY, IT NEEDS TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE AS FUUUUUUCK. Go and conquer brother. It is what we're here for. It comes in all shapes and sizes, you will find yours, and it will be so fulfilling that any companionship afterwards will not compare in the slightest.

pialox · 2023-06-04T22:41:38+00:00

Ensure it doesn’t happen a 3rd time and go fuck that guys mom

PerfectNemesis · 2023-06-05T09:36:23+00:00

Dam the other guy took your whole life and you're the one moving 2k miles away?

sldksnansb · 2023-06-05T15:34:32+00:00

Can you text the "new guy" so he can write a FR on how to farm a guy for FB's?

PutridFlatulence · 2023-06-04T19:08:29+00:00

I've come to the conclusion humans are an obnoxious species, but you need to keep a healthy distance and not take things too personally. Our behavior is basically strands of DNA driving our impulses like a computer program. Our level of free will is rather limited because these drives will override our logical intentions most of the time.

Morality is a human construct. Monogamous relationships are a cultural construct. Nature doesn't care about your morality or feelings. Nature just is... driven by evolutionary impulses that push the most successful to pass on their seed. Women are attracted to danger combined with status. It is what it is.

Frankly I'd rather not incarnate back on this planet again. I like when things are logical, make sense, everything is fair, moral, etc... but that's not how physical reality works. Life is basically a shit test to see how you react to situations. That's all it is. You chose your reactions once you realize this fact. All else is fluff.

It's a big RPG game. That's all it is. You can play it however you want if you maintain the proper mindset. The only rules are the rules you create or allow to be created by society for you.

https://youtu.be/fqr5abgEyAI?t=527

In my opinion, you lost your cool when you tried to reason with her over the dog. You displayed a scarcity mindset, came across as needy, petty, obviously got oneitis, which is understandable. It's hard to fight these irrational drives. Learn from your mistake and move forward. Get over her. Women are like cats. Period.

GWAGWAGWAGWAGWAWWW · 2023-06-04T17:31:30+00:00

the same guy stole your girl TWICE???? how does that even happen LMAOOOOOOOOOO you have to be a giga beta or something

you are now the king cuck of this subreddit, congrats

time to be bigger and better, you got this

PiperBigBell · 2023-06-04T18:53:14+00:00

You're issue is that you weren't healed and putting your best foot forward/going into it in good faith with this new woman. I don't think it was your "weakness" that got you hurt. I think it was that you were simply weak. All of my exes know my vulnerabilities and traumas intimately and they've never hurt me because of it or taken advantage of me. Why? Because I talked about it from a position of healing and strength and accountability. Not sobbing to the woman about how the last girl hurt me. Honestly if you're still hurting from the last relationship you're current one is unstable. Because all it takes is the right set of words to get you to come back. Stop being weak and learn to vet women..

Freiherr_von_Muck · 2023-06-04T17:47:08+00:00

Watch "good" from jocko willink. It helps when you have had a loss.

MrBurittoThePizza · 2023-06-04T18:08:42+00:00

Bro please tell me how he doubled back like he left something

rabbit_hole86 · 2023-06-04T23:39:31+00:00

Not about the hand you’re dealt or the outcome, but how you played the game. This really sucks and I’m sorry for you to go through this pain. Allow yourself to grieve, surrender, and transcend.

NPC1990 · 2023-06-05T02:43:46+00:00

She’s just a shitty person she gonna do the same to him. You need to get your emotions under control

Independent_Bid_4420 · 2023-06-05T05:03:15+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. But you haven’t lost a damn thing, I know it feels like it right now because your heads a mess, 6 months time you’ll laugh at it, block both of them and act like neither exist, don’t let her see the dog again and disappear from both of their life’s. You’ve just saved yourself many years of wasting money and time on this woman. It’s freed you. She’s his problem for a little while until they screw eachother over. Focus on yourself and sit back knowing that karma will come for them. It’s never instant, I’ve seen it happen so many times people ALWAYS. Get their karma

betterOblivi0n · 2023-06-05T09:31:29+00:00

Always try the straw man, show some BS weakness and see if she insists on attacking it, it's eye opening. Cruelty is a red flag.

Even if you sleep again with her she will reject you again because your ideas of a relationship can't align. It's not you or her, the relationship has burnt to a black crisp. Enjoy the dog and the camera, way more reliable and relaxing.

Do all the fun things you didn't do because of her.

disgruntleddigger · 2023-06-05T09:59:16+00:00

Maybe its just me, but how the fuck does this guy have access to you and your new girl, after having priors for fucking you over.

I understand a guy screwing you over once, fuck it happens, but how does it happen twice, how is he still close enough to be even know your gf, let alone fuck her.

That is on you, why is this fucking dude still in any way in you life

ktkf · 2023-06-05T11:34:45+00:00

It amazes me once again, that this Subreddit is quarantined. Threads like these show, how people support each other, if shit hits the fan.

woke_koning · 2023-06-05T11:53:10+00:00

Bro. Move to Columbia or something man. You need a change of scenery.

HiramNinja · 2023-06-05T14:05:48+00:00

...one constant is that if you ignore them long enough, they. will. always. contact. you. They will spin some BS about how they didn't know how good they had it with you, and that they see that now, and that they know that they did the wrong thing, and they're sooooo sorry...

Block her and move on. As one other redditor noted, you got a loyal dog out of the deal...consider that a win, cut your other losses, and move on...and please pay the dog tax lol.

MarsWasTakenWasTaken · 2023-06-05T16:28:17+00:00

"The first time someone calls you a horse you punch him on the nose, the second time someone calls you a horse you call him a jerk but the third time someone calls you a horse, well then perhaps it's time to go shopping for a saddle."

How the fuck is the same guy cucking you twice?

Redpiller77 · 2023-06-04T16:52:08+00:00

Ngl, is kind of funny that the same guy fuck both your exes

BigBoiBahmani · 2023-06-04T18:37:00+00:00

Victim puke. You're allowed one. Now go do the work.

South_Dig_9172 · 2023-06-04T23:11:23+00:00

I mean, maybe.. just maybe you aren’t telling us the whole story. Maybe YTA and that’s the reason the two girls left you. Maybe you really are emotionally abusive. It seems you tend to put the blame into others and try to make yourself look good.. on paper

“was more focused on my shit than hers” “Was stressed sizeable amount of time”

Usually, when this happens, some guys tend to blow their stress on to the girl and ignore, get mad at the girl easily. Obviously if you not treating her correctly, she would look else where for it.

veepeein8008 · 2023-06-04T18:45:04+00:00

Honestly you just gotta wipe 🔫 the new dude tbh. Bro is ruining yo life, he a menace, needa be exterminated

Aapples · 2023-06-04T20:02:18+00:00

Never stop going to the gym. Health is #1 priority.

pigs1n5p4c3 · 2023-06-05T00:49:40+00:00

Sorry all of that happened brother. Sounds fucking traumatic as hell and you're totally right to be fucked up about it all. Give her nothing in future interactions. No emotion. Not even unnecessary words. Trade nothing. Offer nothing. Want nothing from her. It's all fuckin soiled. She does not exist.

icanseeyourpantsuu · 2023-06-05T05:54:48+00:00

I would cônfrônt that alpha cuck and give him ultimatum. Ya could have my mias twice but try the 3'rd time, lets see what happens, bring him a dead kangaroo and throw it at him to show dominance.

Tidoooo · 2023-06-05T08:22:18+00:00

You dodged a bullet. It’s better it happened now than later.

geronimo11b · 2023-06-05T12:44:04+00:00

For one, you fucked up even introducing her to a person that has already shown they will fuck you over. I wouldn’t have ever contacted that person again in my life after the first time. Two, this is the second woman that’s done this to you(consecutively?) so I would start evaluating my choice in women if you plan to keep dating. There are almost always signs that she rides the carousel, we just rationalize them away because we’re getting sex. Three, stop referring to yourself in self deprecating language; It’s defeating.

Forgive yourself, focus on yourself(healing), get some strange, and drive on.

War-rior314 · 2023-06-05T14:48:41+00:00

Brother. It's ok. My ex broke up with me over text 2 weeks ago. It burns badly. I ask that you mourn the death of the relationship. Mourn the death of who you were, ex: as her bf. Lift. Meditation. Write in a journal. Cry if you have to. Feel the pain, the emotions, let it pass over you, and accept that it happened. You need to let it go. It's gonna feel like your gonna be on fire. I know the pain. Love and accept you for you. Love yourself. Take care of yourself. Use the love you had for her, turn the energy towards yourself. Let the past die. Accept it happened. Be reborn from the ashes. It will get better, I promise. I've lost 22lbs so far and I'm gonna be flying. We're gonna make it. Stay strong, brother.

TwentyDubya2 · 2023-06-05T14:56:31+00:00

When you get over the anger, you and maybe a close friend who knows you, your habits and actions and find out how this guy did this to you twice.

This guys got you figured out, there’s some reason for that and it’s in your best interest to use this as a learning lesson you won’t ever forget and never let it happen again.

BoJvck34Empire · 2023-06-05T15:48:45+00:00

I don’t think you did anything glaringly wrong. Just slipped up a little bit by not hitting the gym and being too open, but you didn’t completely shit the bed. I don’t feel the need to roast you since you are self aware enough, that girl just had problems. Don’t overlook bad qualities in women, even if it’s a subtle bad quality, it will come back to haunt you in the future.

You’ll one day meet a girl that feels like your soulmate…. But she’ll let you fuck on the first date.. Your ego will tell you that you are shredded hot and have killer game, but in actuality she was just horny and you were good enough. When she cheats on you, it’s not your fault, that’s just how she is.. I have a feeling your situation was similar to this one.

EscortSportage · 2023-06-05T18:24:35+00:00

2 huge problems in your life just walked away. This is a win, perspective is important, time to retrain and move forward.

armin_si · 2023-06-06T22:45:39+00:00

how tf a guy 2k miles away can steal your girl twice ? i like really wanna know now.

tableloveandhate · 2023-06-06T23:10:28+00:00

You living with her in her place? that may have been a mistake.

PrinceLKamodo · 2023-06-08T02:15:55+00:00

in james bond movies.. the first girl he seduces and fucks always dies.. I noticed how little he cares.

when your "bitch died" you had a melt down.

when you learn to love a bitch like james bond women don't leave.

TrenWarrior · 2023-06-08T11:34:09+00:00

"come to where I’m at and try to make amends with me (edit: not get back together) and MAYBE you can have the dog"

was a fuck up , however I'm glad to hear you learned from this, and remember AWALT (ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT)

djdmaze · 2023-06-08T20:43:04+00:00

Rule #1 never share your trauma and problems with a woman. Only men will understand you and support you. Alpha-addicted whores (99%) will beta zone you. But nah bro you did good. This a learning lesson many of us men go through. And I don’t sabotage my other male friends and family for being in relationships but if it ever comes to the point that we need to have this talk, I’ll be waiting. But wait the guy she cheated on you with took the woman from your previous relationship too? Who is he to you? Sounds like you need to get away from him

Many-Actuator2218 · 2023-06-08T21:40:44+00:00

man, women can be truly evil sometimes. respect for posting this. sometimes lessons are taught to us in a terrible way, but as long as you take this lesson and run with it, get back on your grind, you will come out the other side better than ever brother.

Odd-Luck7658 · 2023-06-09T16:15:51+00:00

Many relationships don’t work out.

She chose someone else over you. Rejection hurts.

Don’t blame yourself.

Rnee45 · 2023-06-09T20:55:54+00:00

Lol that guy must be a real chad

sofkinrandom · 2023-06-11T09:44:56+00:00

I don't get it. First you say you gave her lots of attention, forgetting your individual hobbies & work, which left you vulnerable and hence the cheating happened...and then you say things like "prioritized the grind" and "was more focused on my shit than hers". So, what's the deal? I'm confused, there seems to be a contradiction. The whole point of her cheating on you is because you *paused* YOUR personal life and paid attention only to her, however then you go on to say that you were more focused on your shit rather than hers. I'm confused man.

That_Music1441 · 2023-06-12T19:59:59+00:00

I will never understand how women can make choices like this. I keep thinking of them like they’re human, but they’re obviously not really worthy of that label. Subhuman seems more appropriate.

ErrprMachjne1 · 2023-06-13T16:07:06+00:00

The most important lesson for you is that she's one of millions doing the same thing to men all over.

There's still a lot of love around. Men are waking up and many of us are speaking out and finding peace in our lives.

So just know you have love from those around you even when the haters come down hard.

Better yourself, find your own power and find your peace. There's millions of women like her. Lastly, be careful who you fuck in the future. Don't treat sex like a joke it will fuck you up.

Independent-Pilot-43 · 2023-06-15T18:18:06+00:00

Must have been tough. Still you should have expected this outcome. The important thing, lesson learned.

SprintSux212 · 2023-06-04T16:53:30+00:00

Dude your story is honestly hot as hell for cuckold fetish like me. Can we start a conversation???

Title	Never fucking show your weaknesses.
Author	Araphoren
Upvotes	271
Comments	168
Date	June 4, 2023 3:24 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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