The "Other" Guy

Hi Guys,

I was having a conversation with a guy I know concerning his suspicions of his wife cheating. His wife and I work together and she does have a reputation for fucking around in the workplace. We work for a major hospital in our city and rumors tend to spread like wildfire in this environment. Oftentimes she will openly boasts to her friends, often within earshot of others in the department, about her escapades with certain co-workers.

I've spent some time around this particular couple outside of work as the guy is an acquaintance. He's rather rough around the edges, very assertive in his dealings with other men, was raised in a pretty tough environment, and is a tradesman. On the exterior, he would appear to be Red Pill by the standards around here. However, the more time I've spent around him and his wife, the more I see that when it comes to his woman he's a complete pusscake.

There have been instances where she disrespects him and demeans him in front of others and even jokingly drops hints that she may be fucking around. This usually happens after we've all had a few drinks. This behavior goes unchecked. The times that I have been around to witness this I cringe internally, because I know there's some truth to it.

So, a few new nights ago him and I were outside a bar talking and he brings up a male co-worker of mine that has been calling his wife's phone at odd hours. He asks me if I've seen any interaction between the two and I told him I haven't. Even if I did, with him only being an acquaintance, I don't feel like it's my place to disclose such information. Not to mention, it would cause friction in my work environment.

He continues on his rant of how he's irritated with the guy calling his wife and how he's considering coming to our job to confront the him face to face. He asks my opinion, and I tell him that confronting the guy in this situation is not the right course of action. I leave it at that. If he can't see that his wife allows this behavior from our co-workers, who am I to show him?

Fellas, whenever you suspect your wife or LTR of cheating, you NEVER go after the other guy. The other guy owes you no loyalty. It's your woman who ideally should be giving you undying loyalty. If you have suspicions, you confront your woman. If you feel that another man is getting too close to the woman you're with, remember that he can only get as close as she allows him to.

I know that we're all human and that if your frame isn't solid, a cheating woman can conjure up some very strong feelings. However, for your sake, you have to be willing to walk away from it all. Even if the other guy happens to be a close friend or family member, you'd be best served by walking away. Having a fit of rage in this situation will not get you anywhere. You'll be viewed as weak, jealous, and unable to control your emotions. Confronting another man could also result in injury, loss of life, and possible jail time. No pussy on the face of this earth is worth that, especially when you can get it for little or no cost at all.