No time for lifting?

mrpCamper · 2017-11-04T10:45:11+00:00

My typical day involves waking at 7,

I am up at 5.

I think I found your problem

Floaty_McBoatface · 2017-11-04T09:40:59+00:00

Get up at six instead of seven four days a week.

Tell the wife four days a week she's getting the kids ready.

Instead of eating early, got to the gym before it closes, then eat when you get home.

Buy a home gym.

We're talking 6 hours of your time a week. I bet you spend more time than that mindlessly staring at a tv screen.

Your post is filled with excuses. Why is that?

Why do your wife and kids come ahead of your own health and well being?

If you want it you make it happen.

So make it happen.

You have exactly the life you want

SteelToeShitKicker · 2017-11-04T13:18:24+00:00

spending the rest of the evening with the wife until the cycle repeats.

Sounds like "netflix and chill". She doesn't need your assistance to watch Gilmore Girls. Buy some weights, go lift instead.

Alphaphux · 2017-11-04T10:51:46+00:00

When do you find time to lift and improve your body?

Whenever the fuck I want

gettingmymojoback · 2017-11-04T11:30:04+00:00

OP, I found the reason you're wife likes it slow, in the dark and isn't into "rough stuff".

You're looking for excuses to hold yourself back. While getting less than 8 hours a night sleep isn't ideal, neither is being a skinny fuck.

Go to sleep at 10pm, get up at 5am and go hit the gym before work. You'll still be waking up over an hour after me.

Your question is one of desire. How bad do you want it? While you're sleeping, the Chad your wife fantasizes about is in the gym.

470_2_700_nm · 2017-11-04T15:27:10+00:00

I don’t. I make sure I have all the time in the world for everyone else in my life, work, family, all the stuff that matters.

If I focus on everyone else and their wants and needs, and just trust I’ll get what I want.

Just be nice.

red-sfpplus · 2017-11-04T19:48:46+00:00

Waking up at 7:00? Lol

My kids are up earlier than you are. They are also in bed by 8:00 and me at 9:00.

Get up at 5:00 faggot and go lift. But we all know you wont.

Veg with the wife? Aka sit on your ass in front of the TV and finger fuck your phones.

Your life schedule sucks period.

fuckmrp · 2017-11-04T12:22:43+00:00

If you wanted to you would tiny dancer.

The difference between I do and I want to do is a set of balls. Go find yours.

[deleted] · 2017-11-04T13:47:56+00:00

Keep making excuses not to lift, and she'll keep wanting it slow in bed. Read the sidebar and stop posting low effort questions about your shitty life.

screechhater · 2017-11-04T13:57:29+00:00

"I want to be doing the gym 3 days a week and also eating more as I'm sick of being called skinny (6'4", 190lbs)"

No you don't

"I want to become a man mountain who intimidates people with my sheer presence and size."

Read this I guarntee you 18 minutes a day on the lifts consctentrating on upper compounds day one, and lower body day two for a month will show you the changes, then as you add more weight jump to every other day

You are lifting right when you need a manzier walking down stairs or need a the handrail to help pull you up the stairs from sore quads, but it hurt your biceps and pecs Oh well, done right, you will crave this pain

But to each his own, how bad you want it ?

I'm six one and many people come up to me to look down, or across or up and state "fuck your big." The key ? Confidence, wardrobe, lifting for 30+ years and consistency Do I look big to me ? No. My son is fucking huge @ 6'3" and 260 all natural. The key ? Consistency

You have got to want it

You will appreciate you more, in the long run, to invest in you, your wife, kids and all associate will appreciate your confidence and size

Trust me. It's real. So is the info in this book

Good reminder, from The Book of Pook: "And one by one you become yourself, you reconnect all your dreams to the day. You don’t bulk up because women ‘like’ big guys. You do it because that is how you see yourself. You don’t become the life of the party because women ‘like’ those guys. You do it because that is who you are. You do not become Don Juan because that is what women crave, you do it because it is who you are."

I look a lot like the latin actor from CSI Miama, except when I take off my shirt, or stand next to you, you know I will fuck you up if I need to, pick you up if you fall or teach you how to cradle you newly born baby's head protecting her weak neck....... all from 21 minutes a day, 7 days a week.

I have three kids and run a multimillion dollar business. Gotta go and lift, bitch, cause I want it

snatch_haggis · 2017-11-04T20:50:53+00:00

You're getting downvoted into oblivion because literally every one of us here has to fight to find time to be fit, to work on ourselves, whatever. That's why it's called "working out", not "fucking around with your dick in your hand".

Anyway, if you're at the zero activity / sedentary level now, you'll do fine with a shitty home gym off Craigslist for $100-$200, and starting simple. Or start with a $50 kettlebell if you wanna go that route.

Down the road, you'll either want a full power cage and Olympic bar / weights or a gym membership, but this will get you moving in the right direction.

Fuck, start with doing 30 minutes of bodyweight a day. It won't get you ripped but it'll start you on the path.

So start with something basic, find some space to do it in (it's your house, right?), and find 30-45 minutes however the fuck you can. Before dinner, before work, after dinner, whenever.

Just. Fucking. Start.

I trained for, and then ran, my first marathon with an infant that had a congenital birth defect that caused her to wake up 10-14 times a night and a 60-80 hour a week job where I was on call 24/7.

You need frame, you need self-awareness, and you need to realize putting yourself first is not the same thing as putting your family last, it's what a strong leader does, because it helps him get stronger.

Also, if you're doing this to become a "man mountain" who "intimidates people", you're still looking for validation in others first. Do it so you like what you see in the mirror, do it so you feel good naked, do it so you stand up straight, do it to boost your T, whatever. If you start it looking for other people's reactions, you're never gonna be satisfied, because you're looking for approval outside of yourself and not in.

DanceMonkeeDance · 2017-11-04T09:49:08+00:00

spending the rest of the evening with the wife

Doing what? If you itemize the activities you classify as "spending time" with the wife, would they be things you would prioritize over lifting if you were single? Is watching tv more important? Playing video games? Being her emotional tampon?

SteelSharpensSteel · 2017-11-04T10:42:42+00:00

You wake up too late. If you REALLY wanted it, you would be up at 6 or 5am.

Build yourself a home gym if you must. Give yourself shortcuts for time. I work a full time job, am in graduate school full time, and I get my butt up at 5am because it is important to work out.

justpickanyusername · 2017-11-04T20:20:23+00:00

Others have given you similar answers. I'm up at 5AM. The rest of the house doesn't wake up until 6:30. That's plenty of time to lift. I feel like shit every morning rolling out of bed. Yet, at 6:30 when I come rolling back to the house after the gym I feel great and one thousand times better than I did before I started lifting a few years ago.. You just have to do it.

sempernullus · 2017-11-04T12:54:07+00:00

Wake @ 4am >> Gym 1hr >> Go home >> Protein >> Sleep for 1:30 >> Problem solved.

_degenerate_ · 2017-11-04T11:19:40+00:00

I work 70-90 hours per week. I still manage 2-3 workouts per week plus 2 sessions at the MMA gym per week. My kids and wife aren't starved for my time.

Schedule. Write a plan for every minute of the day if you have to. Stop making excuses and go get it done. You are fantasizing about being a "mountain". It's just mental masturbation until you quit rationalizing and start prioritizing.

tacko276 · 2017-11-04T14:26:33+00:00

You know I found my self with a similar problem recently. I was only exercising 1 or 2 days a week instead of 4 or 5. I've been working my ass off starting my own business on the side while working full time bla bla bla. But if I'm being honest with MY SELF it on me to get it in and my excuses are sad and pathetic. I don't have time I'm too tired.... typical beta shit monkey bull shit I've started to tell my self this "THE TIMES WHEN I WANT TO DO IT THE LEAST ARE THE TIMES WHEN I NEED TO DO IT THE MOST." That's my new mantra and so far so good

ReddJive · 2017-11-04T16:33:19+00:00

As an EMS professional I've made a lot of runs that were hard cases, some that were just pointless. But you go through with it as a professional should. You have to. For yourself and for the family of the patient you've been called to save. Many times I have pumped on an infant's chest that I knew, my partner knew was gone.

The ride to the scene is stressful. The rig can't move fast enough, time is of the essence. You arrive, the moment is a blur as you grab the go bag and rush inside.

Charging up the stairs your mind runs through your protocols. The steps you need to take. Doubt is there. Can you do this?

You enter the room, scan, see the parents and the infant. He's there in the crib and already the signs of lividity are present. Cyanotic, pulseless, apneic, cold, and stiff. The parents don't see it.

They can't. So what can you do? You can go to work. You can show them through your actions that you have this. You've been here before, and you can handle it. It's just another day. You show that you are not afraid and you have what it takes. They need to see it. So.

You roll up your sleeves get to work.

You assess the patient, begin CPR, assisted ventilations, look for signs of life that you know are not coming, your partner puts in the IV, administers the drugs. You make the call in the Med Control looking for assistance. Have you done everything? Is there nothing more? What else? You know, they know, but you look the parents in the eye and say, "Let's go. We are on the move."

So you make the call to dispatch and prepare the hospital for arrival. You do it because you need to. You need to know you did everything. A man doesn't back down. He doesn't take shortcuts.

So when's its done...well and truly done you can say I went the distance. Half ass this process and it won't work the way you think it will. Look for shortcuts, avoid the things you find distasteful and you won't understand what many here have learned.

Go the distance.

Put in the work even if you think it's pointless, even in the face of defeat.

[deleted] · 2017-11-04T17:59:58+00:00

Buy a home gym.

BobbyPeru · 2017-11-04T18:12:44+00:00

Buy home Olympic weights, bar, and bench. It’s the least time consuming since you don’t have to go anywhere. If you put the pegs on the highest level, you can even use it for squatting.

IndependentKirk · 2017-11-04T23:03:25+00:00

Get up earlier. I get up at 4am every day. My morning time is sacred. I can go to the gym, cook a healthy breakfast, and depending on how much prep I've done the night before, spend some quiet time by myself reading or whatever I want to do before going to work. Sleeping until 7 seems ridiculous to me.

donedreadpirate · 2017-11-05T15:23:11+00:00

Desire.

[deleted] · 2017-11-06T13:13:25+00:00

Since we’re all comparing schedules to illustrate how lazy and full of excuses OP is, here’s mine:

5a: wake up 5-530a: coffee, catch up on email, etc 530-630a: lift (home gym) 6:30-730a: cook and eat breakfast with family 730-8a: shower and dress 8-9: commute to work 9-530p: work 530-630p: commute from work 630-830p: cook and eat dinner with family, put kid to sleep 8:30-10: Netflix and chill

What’s awesome about this schedule is I only need to wake up at 5am 3-4 days of the week, but have become so accustomed to it that Im always up before everyone else regardless, doing whatever needs to be done for me. My time alone actually doesn’t affect my time with my family much at all.

beta_no_mo · 2017-11-04T09:41:54+00:00

Get up earlier. Manage your family so your wife and kids know their roles and get ready (for whatever) efficiently without the need for you to be constantly involved.

Based on your description of a typical day, you have plenty of time to work out. The wife and kids don't need you every night. Dad is working out. They can miss an hour of your time three days a week while you OYS.

AlphadustBeta · 2017-11-04T13:43:33+00:00

I have 4 kids. 8 and under. I get up before 7, help get them ready and drive 2 oldest to school. Wife deals with 2 youngest. Back home between 5-6, sometimes I work 30+ hour shifts, and it's all on her. We eat together as a family, bed time is 8pm and I am the one who puts them to bed because it is my time for them.

I manage to hit the gym before it closes at 9. If not, I lift weights at home (not as efficient, but better than nothing).

It can be done and I am not really going out of my way to make it happen.

Z06david · 2017-11-04T14:36:42+00:00

I have 3 girls ages 8 and under. I don't give a fuck, I make time to go. I usually go after work for an hour or two. This past week I had some afternoon family stuff to do, so I went in the mornings before work. I made sure there was time for it.

Neoduder · 2017-11-04T17:01:47+00:00

I'm a father of 3 and manage just fine. I did, however, invest in a power rack for my garage. I lift on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. If I'm off work I do it during the day. If I'm on early shift I do it when I come in at 1430 before I pick the kids up from school. If I'm back shift I do it in the morning. It's only 60-90mins out of my day.

crimson_chris · 2017-11-05T00:46:41+00:00

At one point I ran a half marathon. I'd wake up at 4am to do my long runs so I'd be home by 7am (around the time my two young kids got up). I am not a fast runner.

7am? Seriously, that is sleeping in for me. Even on the weekends. You have time for anything. You make time for your priorities.

wildnight98 · 2017-11-05T13:26:57+00:00

You just described my schedule exactly. I am getting up at 5am three days a week for hard workouts. I'm back at home by 6:30 to get the boys ready for school. Then I am fitting two workouts in at lunchtimes at work. I have five sets of workout clothes and towels there and arranged a laundry service to wash and fold weekly. It was just a scheduling thing which I am terrible at so I got somebody else to do it. Now both workouts are always on my calendar every week. Get creative.

[deleted] · 2017-11-06T15:02:48+00:00

When my boys were small, I'd use them for weights. They'd climb on my back when I did pushups; I'd put them in shopping bags and do arm curls; I'd put them on my shoulders and run up a few flights of stairs - I'd work them into my routine.

Today I take the time to go to the gym, but I take that time out of the work day. Unless I'm preparing for a trial or a major closing (I'm an attorney), there's nothing at work that can't wait 90 minutes to get done.

BaronVonNrx · 2017-11-07T18:48:21+00:00

I home gym it at 9:00pm

Guys that wake up at 5 something, when do you sleep?

Title	No time for lifting?
Author	Technostatin
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Date	November 4, 2017 8:59 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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