Anyone else actually been really good looking their entire life but fucked up opportunities constantly due to mental issues and blue pill conditioning?

Ricklogical · 2018-10-29T19:45:28+00:00

Yes. Not matter how good you naturally have it if you are socially autistic you will have trouble.

Gotta get socialized to run with the big dogs.

GlobalArachnid · 2018-10-29T22:22:35+00:00

I'm no GQ model, but I'm tall, white and have a decent enough face. However, I have mild autism, grew up in a family of suicidal social outcasts who had no aspirations in life and went to the same tiny school with the same exact people I knew since my second year who all hated me, and all of those experiences filled my head with beliefs of learned helplessness from a young age. If everybody I knew wasn't successful, then what makes me so special that I'm going to be successful, y'know? I'm still a kissless virgin due to a lack of social skills and opportunities to lose it. I haven't had any friends for six years.

I've spent the last two years leaning basic social skills and undoing beliefs of learned helplessness. I haven't made any headway because I haven't seen any results.

residentlifter · 2018-10-29T21:31:32+00:00

I turned down a few really good looking girls that clearly wanted some dick because I was afraid.

O_Duderino · 2018-10-29T19:15:12+00:00

Me.

In Highschool i had several girls hitting on me. Like, some of them were really hot and other not so much, but i had an abundance of girls hitting on me. But i've always had really low self-steem that made me really shy and i had the blue pilled conditioning of thinking to lose my v-card and giving my first kiss to the "right girl".

Conclusion: Could have poundend a lot of girls in high school, endend up having my first kiss and first sex with 21 years olds

Really regret all of this.

boy_named_su · 2018-10-29T19:12:47+00:00

I ain't bad looking. My friends say I'm an 8. Girls have said I'm cute or hot. Had a good bod from lifting and athletics

But grew up with a single mother, educated feminist, and sister. Was super blue pilled. This lead to depression in my teens and 20s, which killed some opportunities.

Discovered game in my early thirties, and have slowly been killing my inner beta. Depression gone since then

Still banged lotsa girls. Could banged more. Couldn't keep relationships alive for too long though, getting better

FluidForm · 2018-10-30T08:37:43+00:00

Yea all the time, was terrified of intimacy, sexuality, completley emotionally undeveloped, im 23 now and could have easily had 5 girlfriends by now, or at least lays, these were 100% chances, and over 10 more real opportunities...

From what I can see its all about self-esteem, ppl like us have none because we tie it externally, No More Mr Nice Guy really opened my eyes on that subject.

Also heavy approval seeking behaviour.

raadim · 2018-10-29T22:08:28+00:00

I'm looking quite good, girls being interested in me since like ever. I remember I was only 13 when 4 years older girl wanted to be my gf and teach me everything. I had no interest in her back then.

I'm 39 now, going to gym 4 - 5 times a week. Looks similar to Chris Hemsworth in Thor Ragnarok. Women approaching me all time but blue pill kills a lot of opportunities. Beta father, 2 younger sisters and dominant mom are reason I ended up being blue pill. But I have natural game and inner alpha. Unfortunately I was always blamed by others for my dominant and rebellious behaviour.

A friend introduced me to a red pill just few months ago and now everything makes so much more sense. I feel less and less guilty for gaming girls and having alpha traits. I consider myself purple pill now. Not yet red pill all time but working on it. It takes time to change mindset completely.

vas_mhtro · 2018-10-29T19:52:09+00:00

I have a lite skin friend that girls are literally fucking hitting on him but he never does anything. A girl wanted to hook up with him they even went to the place where everyone hooks up and he didn't do the first move, she literally pinned him in the wall .

JustCoupleThings · 2018-10-29T19:40:50+00:00

Been told i am pretty, i tend to be overweigh. i’m tall so its less noticeable. But my mood is either ugh or a voice in my head panicking screaming AAAAAAAAHHHHH!!!1! And i’m a bit weird and find myself more aware than others. I’m a depressed information sponge.

freew33zy · 2018-10-29T19:42:15+00:00

I'm not the best looking but I'm like a 7 or so and fit a somewhat eastern European niche where I can be an 8 for the right girl. I was super BP growing up due to conditioning but naturally Alpha so I was confused as fuck. Girls showed interest in me a lot but I was autistic as hell and couldn't close it. Some smokeshows, some average girls, like another commenter mentioned.

Got to college, shotgun approached for a couple months, became socially competent decently quickly because it both came naturally and, being good-looking, girls wanted me to succeed. Been in a one-way open relationship with a HB8 who has a gorgeous face for two years now. Really makes me feel like genetic determinism is a thing--I was such a fuck up when younger that I did not deserve the success I've seen later. And I do lift but I'm not even big, lol.

rob13_ · 2018-10-29T23:16:24+00:00

I'm still in highschool, but when I was younger some girl showed fucking obvious signs that she was into me. Didn't do anything from it. Now that I'm older by a few years, I corrected some of my social mistakes and am having a bit more success with women. The main thing I did was just go for it, not worrying about what could go wrong. Go after what you want.

randomTATRP · 2018-10-30T08:49:13+00:00

Oneitis fucked me up.

Two different ones, in so many instances.

dukes1998 · 2018-10-29T20:11:41+00:00

Yes and no. Idk if its possible to be the man growing up, but if it is I was certainly that guy. Had a "girlfriend" every year from like 3rd grade to 8th grade. Had my first kiss in second grade. Got a handy for the first time in 5th grade. Had sex for the first time in 7th. Ended up getting hella fat to play guard in football in HS(I'm 5'8 so it was not fun even though I started till 11th grade) and became super, super insecure and depressed (I was super fat till like 3rd grade and was bullied a bit for it so it brought me back to a bad headspace). My parents and friends didn't do or say a single thing to let me know that "hmm you're pretty fat and are fucking miserable playing football maybe you should stop and lose weight". Got absolutely 0 female attention. I didn't even really try to talk to girls because I had nothing going on and thought I was ugly, so "why bother"?

Dropped 50 pounds before senior year and peoples reactions to me changed completely. But my head was in the same place. I missed a ton of signals from girls and had no clue how to talk to them. Even freshman year of college it took me a semester to realize 1. Not only are you not ugly but you're actually pretty goddamn attractive and 2. You may be good looking and have a ton of social proof, but you won't get laid unless you initiate.

I think where a lot of guys go wrong is that they don't initiate with girls, and don't have confidence. Both things, especially coming from an attractive guy, will have girls super confused and is a huge turnoff. It doesn't match up. Girls want to fuck but they want guys to make the first move. If they don't, then girls will quickly lose attraction and lose interest.

Looks are the least important thing for a guy. How you carry yourself is infinitely more crucial.

itlicc · 2018-10-29T23:47:41+00:00

when I was in high school girls were always into me but I was too oblivious to it all. Even had girls ask me out to go to prom with them and I turned them down because I was too scared and socially anxious...

dcis27 · 2018-10-30T07:02:51+00:00

I have been considered the most handsome guy "I have ever seen" (from friends that were girls, plates, and LTRs). I tend to find relationships with women who I think are less attractive than I, feeling that this will humble me in some hypocritical way. My last 3 oneitis relationships have ended with me breaking up for no good reason, except my last which was due to long distance.

It seems like the mental issue for me (from my entire family including both parents and too older brothers) is that I usually sell myself short regarding my partners. I also am trying to be more goal oriented but usually end up seeking pussy instead, as if pussy gave me power.

lifeisweirdasfuck · 2018-10-30T09:11:44+00:00

People tell me I’m good looking every week. I’ve been lifting for 4 years and girls look at me really often. Yet I’m not getting laid. Why? Because I don’t take action.

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2018-10-30T11:09:57+00:00

This was me. I'm 40 and still have a lot to workout in my head due to long term conditioning by a feminist, man-hating single mom who constantly voiced in front of me how evil men were. I look younger than I am, body is pretty average but not bad, especially for my age; working on making it better. Face is (I've been told) a cross between Will Smith and The Rock. I know I don't appeal to everyone, but I sure as hell appeal to enough women. I make great money and like adventure. I'm an awesome dad too. Plus, I'm funny.

I've had a lot going for me and, although I'm self aware now, in the past I always settled for women 2 and 3 points lower than me thinking that was all I was worth, which just fed my low self esteem as a youth. I ended up sleeping with a bunch of average to below average women and got into horrible relationships. If I could go back, I'd tell young me, "Dude, you look good! Be bold! Set the bar way higher and focus on quality not quantity."

Man, I'm glad I found this post. Self reflecting assists in changing for the better.

CanYouEvenCount · 2018-10-29T19:24:48+00:00

Yeah I had an offer of being a model or going to university (I chose university) when I was younger so I’m naturally very good looking, little bit short at 6ft. But I was socially retarded when it can to girls, always tried to be Prince Charming worked a few tunes but always led to getting so many shit tests. Now I’ve adopted the red pill philosophy my life’s going on amazing directions, I’ve managed to secure three top tier graduate job offers, I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been, mentally having a great time as I understand I’m no1 and yes whenever I want sex I can get it, sometimes it does mean lowering my standards lol.

I’ve still got so much work to do and I’m so excited to see where I’m at next year. So bro follow the red pill and make yourself the best man you can be

319Skew · 2018-10-29T23:57:26+00:00

Well take this with a grain of salt but I had girls hit on me all the time in high school but was too shy and blue to act on it. This stems from being sexually assaulted by a group of girls and being raised by a single mom You think of the most cringe worthy blue pill thing and I did it. Some cringe worthy things: turn down a three some with a pair of 8s, turn down a 9 on my bed, turn down a BJ, flake on events and other shy bull. In college I started to become red but it was around the same time that I met my wife (now ex wife). After marriage she did a number on me and I became even more blue except for the sex and dread game, I was blue AF.

As for looks, I feel like I'm above average but have been offered two modeling jobs.

I still have self image issues but have come a long way.

buddhismo_communismo · 2018-10-30T00:19:06+00:00

Yes I grew up a skinny black dude with a baby face and warm smile (and it doesn't hurt that I'm packing). Growing up I always could tell girls were attracted to me, but I never acted on it or if I did I would bungle it bad. I had terrible approach anxiety smh, I could remember going to the mall determined to pull some snowflakes and walking around for thirty minutes watching all the girls walk by. Smdhhhhh.

I was never a Disney guy but I definitely suffered from blue pill conditioning. All that love at first sight bullshit; when I got to college it didn't help seeing everyone in (seemingly) happy relationships holding hands on campus, Eskimo kisses and living "normal" lives while I spent days pining for the girl who would sit next to me in psych class.

I'm so glad that I found the Red Pill and am willing to put the time and effort in to make the most of the youth I have left. Even if that never happens and I get PVPS (anyone considering Vasectomy should seriously research this, I had no idea about it) I still deserve to have the happiest peaceful life possible, by training my mind to accept the things I can't change about the unsatisfactoriness of existence.

thedopaminechallenge · 2018-10-30T00:50:29+00:00

Yup, I'm 6'0" decently looking have 7-8 years of lifting and didn't realize how much of a social retard I am until I got to a big city/university.

It was easy for me when tinder was in it's prime; now that tinder is basically useless it's time to learn actual social skills.

masterduelistky · 2018-10-30T01:41:55+00:00

It's definitely messed me up. I'm definitely not ugly, but I think being raised by primarily my mother, older sister and younger sister, has molded me into this "great guy" that after my girlfriend dumped me for being a beta, helped me recognize how fundamentally flawed I was. How to change how you carry yourself, stand up for yourself. It's the absolute hardest thing to break.

SuspiciousBed · 2018-10-30T03:25:20+00:00

Yes. Could have stayed in high school but I was bp af. Had 2 ltrs my whole hs career who were hot.. but I could have done some crazy shit if I wasn’t so bp

riggedved · 2018-10-30T04:27:12+00:00

Me also.

I’ve been blessed with a very handsome face. I used always get stared at and approached by girls when I was younger. People always commented on how handsome I was.

My mental conditioning isn’t bad, it’s the blue pill conditioning that got the best of me.

WonderfulPipe · 2018-10-30T06:48:04+00:00

YES. A lot of girls chased me during my teen years and as a kid, but i had a several case of Oneitis TWICE, and this made me think “They’re not as good as The One” so I never really tried anything. And here I am, a 20 yo virgin in rehabilitation

Tastysalad101 · 2018-10-30T08:12:19+00:00

Ye me I didn't think i was that good looking. I was kinda shy and I guess afraid of rejection. I wasn't a virgin but hadn't done it in 5 years. Some co workers convinced me to go to a brothel which I did and went like 8 times total. It really boosted my confident and made me less shy because i had the thought of i dont give a fuck i can get laid anytime i want with 8/10 for $50. I now have a pretty cute/hot gf and I notice people calling me good looking a lot since I moves to Japan to live which boosted my confidence even more.

ChadTheWaiter100 · 2018-10-30T13:03:22+00:00

Sometimes you pass up on lays. You don’t have to fuck every girl that you have a chance too. You don’t have to beat yourself up about it. Accept the past and fucking move forward.

Edit: when I was a freshman in high school I took a junior math class. There was a hot Asian girl that was a senior and she was in the junior class. I knew who she was, she had a nice fat ass, but I never spoke to her. Later found out she had a boyfriend that went to a different school.

One day my teacher rearranged our seats. I was sitting either one or two seats ahead of her. I don’t remember. I never spoke to her directly. One time she passed me a note that said “hi”. I was surprised but whatever. I said “sup”. The next message she wrote was -“wanna fuck me?” Lol! The fuck? My virgin ass trying to play it cool I said “ok”

She said “no I’m serious” so I said “yea”. She lived within walking distance of me. So one day after school, we planned it (her parents weren’t home.) I went over there.

quitting_mandp · 2018-10-30T18:36:51+00:00

My family thought I was gay lol.

MrCongeniality1 · 2018-10-31T01:12:00+00:00

You and every man born in the last 50 years.

OfficerWade · 2018-10-31T01:54:24+00:00

Well, my biggest “oh my lord” moment was when I realized we have choices. I don’t have to say yes, or when to say no. I’ve been doing it backwards most of my life.

As far as blue pill conditioning, it washes out with water. Don’t beat yourself up for not being there, yet.

HeadingRed · 2018-11-03T12:40:56+00:00

Money - being to passive to often in the area of salary negotiation. Not saving enough and being lazy with the money I save. Settling for financial comfort instead of going after financial growth.

Women - in my younger years thinking I needed woman in my life (LTR) in order to be socially acceptable and not be labeled as a looser. Chasing women below my level with the idea that they would be grateful to have me and thereby treat me well.

Friends - being to tolerant of people who were really bad for me and not showing enough loyalty to those that were standup guys.

Family - treating most of my family fairly. I should have taken care of the good ones more and not bent over for those that did not deserve it.

FastForward99 · 2018-11-07T01:51:38+00:00

Been there, done that. I had to learn social skills. It's not easy, and I had to observe and experience hundreds of social experiences before I fully understood how to be attractionate at a personable level. I'm still not perfect, but I'm regularly landing MFF threesomes for my partner and I. I don't have the answers, but apparently I have the skills, and can offer some guesses.

FedoraTipper15 · 2018-10-29T23:28:00+00:00

Haha...no.

RedHoodhandles · 2018-10-30T08:56:58+00:00

So many 'good looking' hamstering incels in here. You go girls.

Title	Anyone else actually been really good looking their entire life but fucked up opportunities constantly due to mental issues and blue pill conditioning?
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Date	October 29, 2018 7:04 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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