Every year just gets worst

HiImMeee · 2020-12-17T06:56:27+00:00

It depends on what your situation is like exactly, but just a reminder that in the moment, sometimes emotions can make things seem alot bigger than they are. So you don't need as much fixing as it seems, to fix whatever the issue is.

daproest1 · 2020-12-17T07:24:17+00:00

Yeah. The only remedy is action. The problem is if you’re so philosophically inclined, you’ll start to ask yourself what it’s all for. There is no answer. Throughout history, men have done things fir their women and families. But the way things are today, we have to find other reasons. Those reasons aren’t easy to find.

Dark_Ji · 2020-12-17T07:51:56+00:00

Happy birthday man

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2020-12-17T12:19:54+00:00

self Improvement 24/7/365

1) Find mission.

2) Prayer, meditation eases the mind,allows you to gather your "calm".

3) Get your diet on point,hit your macros.

4) get your cardio,supplements, and lifting on point. It'll burn fat,but more importantly...it'll build that swole vtaper,increase testosterone,increase "alphaness",increase confidence,increase libido,fix your posture,increase "feel good" brain chemicals.

5) get a good masculine hairstyle that fits YOUR FACE SHAPE AND ACCENTUATES YOUR FACIAL FEATURES.

6) grow stubble or short beard. Preferably 10 day stubble(4-6mm length. Buy clippers with guards or a beard trimmer.) is MOST ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN. plus,it just looks better. Google "stubble vs no stubble", that looks enhances your facial aesthetics and you masculine "bad boy" look that attracts more bitches. Groom it RELIGIOUSLY,making sure to trim,shape,and lineup(sideburnlines, cheeklines,and neckline) it.

7) reassess your spending habits, streamline your expenses,put away 20-30% of each paycheck if possible.if not, then streamline UNTIL IT IS POSSIBLE. Always pay yourself before you pay Mr. Billman.

8) learn game,learn frame,learn charisma,talk to ppl when you go places. You'll develope the social skills over time to make friends(if that's what you want),attract bitches(we all want that),and be overral MORE CONFIDENT IN YOU.

"JUST DO THE WORK...DO THE FUCKING WORK" - warrior

adomuzas · 2020-12-17T10:06:52+00:00

Repeat after me: "Everything is as it is supposed to be", tell yourself this line over and over while meditating and see how you react to it. Past is gone, there is nothing you can do about it, so this current moment is what it is and who you are. Future is just your bullshit predictions, it may be true, but it may also not, so don't worry about it. Your current position in life is what is happening, accept it, it may be hard, you may feel like you deserve to feel suffering, but bounce this idea off your mind that everything is as it is supposed to be and that your life journey continues. Feeling emotional and reinforcing negative emotions are what would lead to life of constant suffering, get over yourself, stop being a pussy and accept it. Nobody cares what you were supposed to be or who you should become, life doesn't owe you anything so take it easy and start by accepting who you are at the moment. Other people had different past than you, had different knowledge, had help from others, if they appear to be more successful or more determined it doesn't mean that it is your fault or that you are worse. It means that their upbringing was different and there is no reason to be jealous. Women don't owe you anything, their nature is a law, you can't be angry if they do what they are biologically designed to do. You are only 21 FFS, Life is beautiful my friend, never give up.

xJaegar · 2020-12-17T08:34:06+00:00

I had the same problem until I finally figured out that in life, you can't depend on anyone but yourself (with the exception of parents if you have a good relationship with them). I started getting engaged with stoic philosophy and developed a mindset around it and I've been happier in general since then.

For me personally, birthdays are a blessing. People I haven't spoken to in ages suddenly show up like they're my best friends. It makes me smile just thinking about how fake most people are and only invite themselves for attention. Your number one goal should be being content with yourself. Once you achieve that, you can find your own purpose and work towards it.

hmjuice · 2020-12-17T08:40:21+00:00

Happy birthday mate, have a top one

AegonTheC0nqueror · 2020-12-17T14:14:42+00:00

Hey man my 21st birthday I literally cried. I was sooo depressed about the way my life was going. I made a (somewhat unrealistic) plan for myself, and I accomplished every single thing I wanted.

My 22nd birthday I remember shaving, and looking at myself in the mirror and just smiling because of all I achieved. I still have the picture to remind me that sticking to your goals and achieving them is a goal in and of itself.

It's always within your hands to change your current situation. This is by far the greatest thing TRP has taught me.

InnerMir · 2020-12-17T08:31:55+00:00

Boo hoo. Fuck off with this vaginal bullshit. You feel like shit because you are shit; so stop being shit. Yes, I am being a toxic douche but I'm tired of being soft with dudes. Men NEED this.

I'm telling you this as a man because I mean you well. You need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and make something out of yourself because that is THE ONLY thing you can do. All this mommy talking is why men feel this way.

You don't need a hug. You need a kick up your ass. Go lift, learn interesting things, practice skills, put yourself out there, DGAF what people think and THEN you will enjoy life. Every day.

I've seen your posts, and its good you want to get disciplined, but I was in your position and the only thing to do is to, literally, just do it. You need to do shit you need to do every day; or suffer. That is how life works. Tough shit.

Distracted by apps? Get an app blocker and block em. Fat/Skinny? Go to gym every single fucking day. Broke? Learn a skill and put yourself out to everyone you can. Social skill lacking? Honestly, just be yourself ^TM and DGAF + learn some social skills.

Yes I know JBY is a dumb thing to say but it is so fucking true; most people are afraid of being judged for being themselves. You will find like minded people doing this. If not.. then change. Who cares?

How I deal with it? Most people don't care about men feeling down. Accept this fact. That is how I deal with it. Also; realize that friendships are bullshit 99/100 times. Most people are friends with someone because of interest, and some people's friends are prolly worse than their enemies. If you DO get a good friend; then do good by them and cherish them.

https://youtu.be/idP5-vtkhBE

PS: Happy Birthday. Hopefully your next year is better.

sdobby_down · 2020-12-17T07:35:36+00:00

You should find yourself some passion, you're only 21 find something that you wanna do.

Move out, take care of your body to the best of your ability, and work towards your passion everyday. Theres no easy fix to this, it takes time.

ishyman · 2020-12-17T09:41:24+00:00

My birthday was two days ago. I got my first speeding ticket, only 3 people wished me a happy birthday. Hope your day gets better!

catsdontsmile · 2020-12-17T10:09:46+00:00

So? Don't be defined by friends. Do whatever makes you happy.

bats000 · 2020-12-17T10:11:22+00:00

Happy Birthday,Bro.

sdobby_down · 2020-12-17T11:35:35+00:00

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AloneMap6855 · 2020-12-17T11:58:33+00:00

If I was 21 I wouldnt give a fuck. Absolutely no rush . Just focus on one thing at a time. If I was you I would start gym/lifting to a seriously committed level. Do an extreme amount of research . Get on all the supps/gear you can . Become an adonis . In a year you could be in a whole different place as long as you don't have absolute dog shit genetics. You'll get more respect and more pussy and it will teach you about progress and patience. One day you are going to wish to fuck you could turn back time to this very moment. So man the fuck up and put a plan of action in place to improve yourself .

avenger369_trp · 2020-12-17T12:03:00+00:00

You’re lonely because you have trash social skills and bring nothing to the table. As you read this, be 100% honest, how many hours have you spent actively levelling up your social skills? Probably 0

It comes naturally for some people but not for guys like us. Read How to win friends and influence people.

trwawyrnd · 2020-12-17T12:50:51+00:00

If you have health and strength you have hope

BusyPhantom · 2020-12-17T15:41:13+00:00

Happy birthday Man! Turned 21 today as well... Self love I think, once you embrace isolation, I think you'll overcome those feelings

Rocketdave47 · 2020-12-17T15:54:20+00:00

Let me give you a trick for perspective.

Nothing in this world matters or has meaning.

Its for you to choose what matters to you or has meaning in your kingdom, so if your feel lonely its either your choose that loneliness isn't bad and accept/live with it or your choose it matters to you and reach out to people. Youre lonely so you desire connection, someone else might not be lonely so its you that needs the connection, so GO GET IT.

__Archaeus__ · 2020-12-17T16:19:23+00:00

Hey Man, if you’re open to it, go check out the sub semenretention. Their outlook on life goes a lot deeper than you think.

Just read a couple of their top posts, that’s it. If you don’t like it, no worries.

tightgrp · 2020-12-17T16:26:30+00:00

Realize that nobody gives a shit about you unless you are of some use to them. Start with finding a mission. Give a shit about yourself. Make yourself useful to yourself. In doing so, you will find the others caring doesn't matter so much.

-since · 2020-12-17T16:39:08+00:00

Sometimes this is a necessity of life. The calm before the storm, the flagging before the breakout, the chrysalis before taking flight.

Even if your situation is bland now, you never truly know if things will get better or worse. That element of chance/change, is worth grinding for.

brave_snow02 · 2020-12-17T07:11:42+00:00

how old are you? you should try to move out if you can. Pick up a new hobby. You also sound depressed. See a therapist?

Noaxx · 2020-12-17T08:09:39+00:00

You're definitely not alone my friend.

I think the simplest question you have to ask, that you yourself can only answer is; what would make my life meaningful?

Sero-Flex · 2020-12-17T10:07:22+00:00

Start training martial arts. I recommend Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Train every day for 6 months. The feeling that you will experience from this endeavor, that of being demoted back to a childlike state of incoordination and untapped potential, will introduce you to a language you never knew existed, and allow you to use that language to communicate with your fellow human beings in a manor you can’t comprehend at this time. This will give you a new perspective to utilize when reflecting on your life, your goals, accomplishments, strengths, weaknesses, struggles, and failures. Worked for me at least. If those 6 months come to an end and you’re not feeling substantially different from how you do now, then, assuming you have the balls, you can pursue some high risk, high reward strategies like psychedelics or near death experiences (nearly falling off a 200 foot cliff back in July obliterated the vast majority of the remaining feelings of inadequacy and cowardice that have plagued me since my teenage years). Busting a nut in a nice young lady’s mouth may not be the worst idea either. Godspeed brother.

Talinor09 · 2020-12-17T11:20:48+00:00

How old?

LandSharkRoyale · 2020-12-17T12:50:22+00:00

If you can, get your hands on ‘The Obstacle is the way’ by Ryan Holliday, Or read anything from Marcus Aurelius. Not much has changed throughout history with humans struggles. In fact it could be worse because we’re getting softer today.

Inertia_Override · 2020-12-17T13:18:10+00:00

A birthday is just another day, it doesn’t really mean shit. Set goals, get better. You don’t need anyone. I create my own happiness by accomplishing my own goals.

Zenwarz · 2020-12-17T13:29:35+00:00

I do choke people on a daily basis at Brazilian jiu jitsu 🤣look into it 💪

Rifleshoot · 2020-12-17T14:00:21+00:00

Nihilism is cringe, weak, and self defeating. Try reading the Bible instead. You might find meaning there.

MagnumBurrito · 2020-12-17T14:33:50+00:00

What's your day to day life? Weekend life? Are you exploring nature/the world? Do you have a hobby? Are you passionate about anything? Do you have anything to look forward to?

People will want to join your journey after you start helping yourself first.

Internet-Troll · 2020-12-17T14:39:57+00:00

I feel like it is nothing really, the quicker you come to terms with it the better. Bday isn't a big deal. I used to be sad about it but after a while you just don't think about it. And then after a bit more you start to appreciate this quiet. It is like a mindset that you can do everything alone, you don't need anything from others. Start doing things by yourself and get used to it.

AceMav21 · 2020-12-17T15:16:02+00:00

How can people help you when you give no details about your predicament other than “I feel melancholy”. Also happy birthday, life sucks but doesn’t have to.

WizardSenpai · 2020-12-17T15:21:38+00:00

you were once sad, and then you were happy. many times by now. you are now sad, but things change and youll have brighter moments.

Rimefang · 2020-12-17T15:38:15+00:00

Happy birthday.

Fuck friends. Be happy with you. You are who you are. Me? I was in a self loathing period for about... 18 months? I wouldn't lift, I could barely fight. Why is irrelevant. About a few days ago, I started hitting my boxing bag again that I bought for myself for my birthday a few months back. Even if I am tired, I feel my fire, my passion burning again. I am alone, isolated, and finally free to be the real me.

"I haven't had enough." That's what I keep telling myself.

Fan your flames and let your passions blaze. The rest will follow.

kncrew · 2020-12-17T15:51:33+00:00

I got a working dog, and it’s helped me keep me motivated and have some purpose. Don’t get a dumb dog like a shitzu, some sort of working dog will wake you up to go out and play, be smart enough to train, and the best reward is seeing them understand new tricks and commands. She fills my time before and after work and it’s been a great change of pace rather than sitting home and playing video games.

lolyups · 2020-12-17T15:55:08+00:00

Bro just go make friends lol

Don_Draper27 · 2020-12-17T16:53:48+00:00

Honestly you can see your scenario as a blessing. Like, you can make big changes in your life and ask yourself what more do you have to lose?

I will share my story, short version because I'm on mobile.

Found the pill. Wanted to spin plates. Broke up with decent LTR of 5 years. My birthday was 2 weeks later and I'd booked a 6 person stay at a beach side motel. I remember being worried that some friends wouldn't be happy that they couldn't come cause the 6 spots would quickly fill.

Only 1 friend ended up coming and I had to pay for the whole stay and his drinks because he was broke. All my "friends" stopped talking to me when I broke up with LTR.

Got over it. 1 month after the breakup I got my first plate. A few months passed and I was spinning a few plates. Life was good until my job hired a new manager who was the absolute most unpleasant person I've ever met. Struggled for 2 months dealing with them and built up so much stress that I just quit on the spot.

I was at my lowest for the next 2 months. Worse than you are now. No income, living with mom, no lifting or exercise, playing video games all day, PMO multiple times a day. Worst part was that I was insanely addicted to e-cigs. Alone in my room for 2 months there was no stopping me from taking a hit every 30 seconds. I was barely conscious for this time. Mostly stuck in brain fog, excuses and distractions.

My only drive at the time was that some high value friends had bought a house in a neighboring state and were happy to rent me a room. So for 2 months I would muster up the will and motivation to update my resume and suffer through job applications. I seriously had to pull my teeth to spend 10 minutes of my day doing something productive.

So something landed and I got a job offer. Filled up my 2 door Honda with all my shit and moved over.

The following few months will always be legendary when I look back. I was still on and off with the e-cigs but I was lifting every day, meditating, journaling, reading, building social circles, raising my SMV, gaming, spinning plates. One of the highlights of this time was when one of my plates was breaking (girl #1), and I got another plate to come over (#2), and immediately after #2 left, #1's best friend came over and turned to plate #3. I was literally in disbelief the following day thinking that someone was playing a joke on me.

And then my birthday came along and it was an absolute contrast to the previous birthday where only 1 friend came along. I had a house party, lots of friends came, even friends from my hometown came down. I got a homemade cake. It was beautiful.

ProFriendZoner · 2020-12-17T17:34:33+00:00

Your life is up to you. Don't like it, change it. The only stopping you from living the life of your dreams is you.

2020-12-17T19:11:21+00:00

Have you been diagnosed with depression? Sounds like you would benefit from seeing a counsellor or therapist if you can’t pinpoint a particular antecedent that’s caused you to feel this way. This kind of stuff is above Reddit’s pay grade.

BeerShitter · 2020-12-17T08:05:17+00:00

Do you meditate? A good 15 minute session can remove every problem fogging your mind and will let you get on track to make changes without feeling weighed down.

Title	Every year just gets worst
Author	sdobby_down
Upvotes	77
Comments	100
Date	December 17, 2020 6:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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