What was your biggest RP realization?

Fabulous-Craft · 2020-03-31T16:50:49+00:00

Probably the same as most:

Everything you were taught about women is a lie.

FormerBradFutureChad · 2020-03-31T17:19:27+00:00

I was your 100% typical nice guy who was told all these things by friends (who I wasn't attracted to, but nevertheless) how I'm such a good guy and my future girl will be so lucky and all this bullshit I ate up. Met this other chick around a month ago which was also the same time I learned about TRP and started soaking up all this stuff about how women think emotionally and not logically and how hypergamy and comes into play. I'm not saying I'm no longer a nice guy, but I'm steering away from that sinking boat as best I can and it all just comes with time and focusing on yourself. I'm just happy that even though this chick is "perfect and I relate with her so well", I've been able to lump her in with all the other women and if shit doesn't work out, on to the next plate which is something 1 year old me would not be able to do (wouldn't be able to let go so easily)

I think the best thing I've ever read (apparent to my situation) came from Models by Mark Manson where to paraphrase he wrote something along the lines of: "Set out to find the emotional knots in yourself that you may not be aware of. It can be simple things or bigger traumas such as being bullied when you were younger, a divorce, **a death of a loved one** (in this case my mom) and how these small/big things are emotional baggage that tie you down and motivate you to over-invest and receive validation from one specific source or multiple in your life...... **and that source is sometimes women**

Boom. Of course I fucking miss my mom, but I failed to see that I was anxious and seeking out women to replace that emotional piece in my life which supported me, but this mentality from what I know now is a turnoff and will never get you in the door.

seniorgrassfed · 2020-03-31T19:22:44+00:00

As soon as you think you can relax and have a relationship with a girl, you better smarten the fuck up and just keep doing what you've been doing.

319Skew · 2020-03-31T20:14:22+00:00

She can't love you like you want to be loved

Snowboard18 · 2020-03-31T18:42:15+00:00

The craziest realization ime, is that ignore a female doesn’t lower attraction like I always thought, it actually raises it most of the time.

Girl acting up, ignore for a while. Not seeming as interested, ignore for a while. It’s awesome and soo easy.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2020-03-31T17:30:12+00:00

"The only guy girls want to fuck less than an ugly guy is a fat ugly guy so I better start losing this weight"

holddadoorhodor · 2020-03-31T17:49:58+00:00

Was naturally redpilled by my dad after watching him get divorce raped, watched him being an asshole which attracted playboy models etc.

Nooo this wasn’t enough for my dumbass to see what worked. I had to go find a good “Christian girl” who ended up being the biggest whore game player I’d ever met leaked porn and all. I’d fucked strippers in my past with more class(can you tell I’m still salty?).

Anyway this is about a year and a half ago and it’s forever cemented in my head. In the end led me here and it was every thought I had ever realized written on paper with millions who agree.

The end

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-03-31T17:51:04+00:00

I had a lot of those. I didnt get respected at work. I was made fun of and disrespected a lot.

I was beta af and put my ex on a pedestal while at the same time she was losing interest. I allowed her to use me and abuse me.

I actually looked up to blue pilled guys because I thought they were nice and I thought Alpha males were assholes. Basic media/blue pilled conditioning.

I look back at disgust with how weak and desperate I was. How insecure and immature I was. I knew I had to change. Currently in the process but just knowing how the world works makes me feel better than before when I'd repress everything I didnt like

DTron2332 · 2020-03-31T22:17:29+00:00

When I lost everyone, all my friends, my girlfriend who I thought was the “one” and that would always be by my side. When I stopped thinking for myself, and let others think for me. When I supported women more than I supported myself. When I was a pushover, a loser, that was isolated in video games, porn, and self pity.

I lost and gave up my passion in highschool, I hated myself, to the point that I disliked how I looked. Everything about myself, including my family, I did not want to be a part of. I was extremely desensitized to everything, and I would dissociate so much it was insane.

Eventually after sitting in my room alone, with no one, I decided that it was time for a change. I started hitting the gym everyday, quit smoking weed, quit masterbating, and eventually I found the red pill. It took me awhile to come out of a blue pill state, I would say 1-2 years. Eventually I found the motivation to read, and what helped me the most was bodybuilding.

Since bodybuilding is the sole purpose of focusing on yourself, and pushing yourself to the limit. I quickly became addicted. This self idealization made me focus less on women, and always put myself first. Doing so didn’t come without consequences, I lost friends, I went through a lot of pain, I had meaningless sex with a lot of women, many times I felt depressed.

But no matter what I always remind myself at the end of the day the only person you have is yourself, and the only way you grow in life is through pain, the one thing we try and avoid the most. Life is too short, the red pill is solely about yourself.

0kool74 · 2020-03-31T22:25:44+00:00

“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.”

That to me was the biggest colossal slap in the face. Once I internalized that and realized that no woman out there can navigate a meaningful and long lasting relationship, it turned into get the pussy as long as it’s available and move on after it’s done.

Cancermaxxed · 2020-03-31T20:08:24+00:00

Being nice doesn't help you to get your way. It's actually working the opposite.

DarkRedSpace · 2020-03-31T21:10:12+00:00

After hours of texting every late night, she still knew more about Shawn Mendes.

IndianaBW · 2020-03-31T23:26:28+00:00

1) You are truly on your own. Your mother loves you, hopefully your father does too. Your closest 1 or 2 friends will fold when pressure gets too hard but should be fairly reliable. A women will never come within a mile of the security/reliability of your closest male friend, or your family. Not even a marriage of 5.. 10 years. Men commit suicide every day from their lifelong "soulmate" leaving in a heartbeat and ruining their life, just at a moments notice. You're on your own in this life, this isn't a fucking hyperbole.

2) Nobody likes people who are weak, down, or publicly defeated.. they subconsciously tell themselves to run from them. Suffer in private or in the midst of the closest connections (mother, best friend) in your life to work you through or you will lose respect exponentially. Zero exceptions.

3) "Be yourself", in a traditional context, is a lie. I have watched people embrace this as a last hail mary to find their identity, or stand out, and time and time again become turned on as social outcasts/become weirdos. Your public image & reception from those around you is one of your strongest assets in life, quit making an ass/character of yourself publicly (social media & elsewhere) as a form of desperate self expression.

Chadster113 · 2020-03-31T18:25:20+00:00

That what I wanted out of women was sex and not a relationship. I use to think the relationship came before sex and would act that way. Now I have experienced different

Project_Zero_Betas · 2020-03-31T17:36:11+00:00

The average person's intelligence is below that of house cats

theUnBannableHulk · 2020-03-31T16:58:03+00:00

Save your Love NOT for the woman but for your children she’ll bear you

orishasinc2 · 2020-03-31T23:12:37+00:00

Whores are the only honest women you will ever meet.

BigDickEnergy123 · 2020-03-31T20:15:38+00:00

This one I haven't seen in RP, yet.

But the longer you date a girl/the more emotionally invested she is in you the less she's willing to do for you sexually.

All my married friends and even though I have a great girlfriend, I can tell the longer we date the less sexually liberated she is.

Sidenote: If any girl is willing to have a threesome with you, dating her is probably the worst outcome for that to change.

Conclusion: Once women know they have you, they're different in bed. They aren't willing to do half the shit they would to keep some rando.

Conclusion 2: Dating women is generally a terrible idea if you want to keep having kinky sex.

Also, arguments are good. Being an asshole to her is basically essential. If you have the ability to leave at any time and prove it she'll be upset at the time, but I guaran fucking tee you she'll do whatever to keep you.

Maybe this is basic RP shit, but I'm a little tipsy so fuck it.

lukesterboi1 · 2020-03-31T18:53:59+00:00

Women are not logical in a state of nature (aka most of the time) and they must be trained in order to think logically, i.e. by schooling. Even then, that isn't their default. With men it is the other way around.

dbshne · 2020-03-31T18:34:15+00:00

A lot of people aren’t genuinely happy (internally validated). And how is more important than what.

cfbovernfl · 2020-03-31T19:18:34+00:00

When I was better looking than the guys who kept getting with girls I liked in high school. I knew it was a "me" problem. If you can't pull a girl, that's on you, not her.

hanzkloss · 2020-03-31T22:09:25+00:00

Being friends with club chicks, only to go out with them for lunch one day to then listen to their disgusting sexcapades, needless to say, the goggles came off that day.

mravek · 2020-03-31T19:41:26+00:00

Learning about hypergamy. Duh

dkod066 · 2020-03-31T23:26:48+00:00

Light switch effect is the biggest, you will not realise how fast a person can absolutely forget you and act like you never existed but when you see it a few times, you proper swallow red pill

anxiousdweller · 2020-03-31T18:34:57+00:00

the pill exists within the matrix

just kidding. that's only something i thought of when putting this question on my mind.

probably some stuff about self-honesty, responsibility, and accepting that my life is a consequence of my decisions and I have to love myself even if my valuing people drives them away. I was told to stand tall.

FrenCan316 · 2020-03-31T20:20:07+00:00

I was never getting what I wanted, or even knowing what I wanted, because I was a passive NiceGuy who drank the koolaid and used covert contracts. It was getting kinda traumatic how much things were always going the wrong way and I was getting walked all over by women who I considered to be on my level or lower. What I didn't understand was that I was operating in a self-conflicting way by following what I was socialized (by women) to do. The "realization" that I think crystallizes all RP knowledge/philosophy with your real world experience as a man is: don't listen to what they say, watch what they do.

omega_dawg93 · 2020-04-01T01:52:09+00:00

girls get fucked a lot!

no I'm not talking about the popular pretty girl, I'm talking about all of them.

they fuck waaaaay more than you'll ever know. they take their true number to the grave... and trust me. your ego can't handle the number or the size they've encountered.

source = 3 older sisters and their friends who showed me how women truly operate.

imtheoneimmortal · 2020-04-01T02:37:29+00:00

You can do everything in your life and nobody gives a shit

Zapche · 2020-03-31T19:29:53+00:00

I’m a very very good looking man. I was getting turned away for fat guys. I had to understand why

2020-03-31T22:37:24+00:00

All women are the same. You just need to find one who has the same interests as you and you'll be okay.

Nergaal · 2020-03-31T23:18:47+00:00

The exact moment I've opened up, I could see disgust in everything she said after. I've treated her like shit and she always came back. But the moment I opened up, she never came back.

SupremeBBC · 2020-03-31T22:28:25+00:00

That she's not mine, it's only my turn.

jizzonmypants · 2020-03-31T23:34:40+00:00

Woman only care about their feelings and their image

Transport127 · 2020-04-01T03:20:27+00:00

Most women have little or nothing to offer into the table and yet they feel entitled.

And realized how women quickly get bored of you no matter how much they love you at first

hockeyaddict87 · 2020-03-31T22:04:46+00:00

Women want sex just as much as us but they aren’t open about it for fear of being called a slut. But once it’s you and her in her room everything changes

MotiMorphosys · 2020-03-31T23:19:57+00:00

Women will continue to give you their best when they know you have other options, and that fact only makes them want you more.

RivenHalf · 2020-04-01T04:01:27+00:00

Was raised nice, not a single mom but might as well be. Fawned over women. Tried to be the "good dude" meanwhile I hung out with absolute scumbags and yet they all had a steady stream of very attractive girlfriends and I was always single. A man gets tired eventually. Started seeking out what the fuck I was going wrong online and here I am.

Howdoiusesync · 2020-03-31T21:56:36+00:00

Fucking married women. You don't really see how women are until they're chasing your validation. They can act well when in your frame.

ItzFizzy1 · 2020-04-01T00:37:37+00:00

Biggest realization was seeing the sub I guess. You know a bunch of redditors label this as an incel place or think it’s harmful/ lies, so I checked it out and was just reading through TRP. Then I saw the sidebar and posts about things girls do, and thought to myself “hey, I have seen all these problems and encountered the same stuff with girls... wait... holy shit. This all makes sense”

pepskino · 2020-04-01T00:45:08+00:00

Damn shame that all these comments are true

ThatCub3K1d · 2020-04-01T02:38:58+00:00

This is a little different than probably mosts, but that in every single aspect of your life you really aren't shit until you earn it and prove it. And once you've earned it and proved it, you can go back to being nothing if you don't continue to prove it.

RedPillFusion · 2020-04-01T02:39:23+00:00

Bill Burr does a bit about how women argue. It's truly a masterpiece and a microcosm for many inconvenient truths.

FAKH89 · 2020-04-01T04:25:02+00:00

My break up , with a girl that I actually treated her well, like waayy too well , but then after our first real big fight , well she tried to ruin my future at uni , sabotage my relationship with mutual friends, rebounded with a pansy looking guy . And well I couldn't believe someone I loved could actually treat me like that , so Im trying to change , but fuck, it's really hard to love myself and take care of it. Especially ,after being thrown away this easily like trash , still not 100% over it tbh , my pride still suffer sometimes , and I have this undying rage inside me . But Im trying to be better , and implement some of red pill teaching but Fuck it's hard to read something and actually doing it !!!

redvelvet_oreo · 2020-04-01T04:49:09+00:00

All of it. Its amazing how far social conditioning can make you believe something that isnt real. People live there whole lives believeing a lie. Its incredible. Other have mentioned most things I found revealing but one thing I haven't seen mentioned is that Men have the upper hand when it comes to commitment. Its the women who craves and seeks exclusivity. We have always been taught to lock down a good girl but the reality is she should be chasing you looking to lock you down because of your high value.

The other was stop being so nice to people and breaking the social contract. I always thought I was trying to be respectful but I really was pedstilizing and overvaluing other people. I was giving them respect they haven't earned. Big mistake. Glad I was able to learn it. Funny I just picked up a fighting book that talks about this in the preface.

2020-04-01T08:26:50+00:00

This girl “Friend” of mine told me that in my hall I’m the guy that everyone wants to marry but nobody wants to date.

Translation: MAX BETA

writersfromtheorient · 2020-03-31T17:46:07+00:00

I beg to differ - it will be the rise of hipsters that lead to me questioning things more; there’s liberal and then there’s what actually goes against your own best interests. Also the stupid fashions among peers that you deep down feel are just shit; you wonder if there’s some kind of force or agenda behind it. Being a bit rural and ‘backward’ has its advantages sometimes, because you hold back before jumping straight into whatever degeneracy is pushed this week.

Full blown red pills about immigration, feminism, LGBT, vegans etc came later. Not that I never had a bad girlfriend on the way to make me to learn a thing about the reality of women. There’s no point getting angry forever though.

FieldLine · 2020-03-31T20:22:15+00:00

https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4rqg37/there_is_nothing_i_can_say_to_you_that_will/

RedPill_Dragon · 2020-03-31T20:40:07+00:00

Although women had huge value to me, I had no value to women. ZERO. When I figured that one out, and accepted it, my chains were lifted and I was free.

superomar13 · 2020-04-01T01:03:10+00:00

My biggest RP realization had nothing to do with me, it had all to do with women. The bull vs the cuck idea, the idea that women get a kick out of dominating the boyfriends with another guy, the idea that women get a kick out of seeing their boyfriends being tooled, etc. And learning how to become strong through that adversity and still loving them all the same.

InformalCriticism · 2020-04-01T04:34:11+00:00

Anytime the government intervenes in romantic situations.

Rememberthecodex · 2020-04-01T05:53:25+00:00

That almost all the suffering you experience is something that make you grow stronger if you act accordingly.

Not acting makes you stagnate.

GlobalArachnid · 2020-04-01T02:46:02+00:00

Looking at most guys past thirty and realising how shit their lives are. They work jobs they hate and don't believe they can get another job, they neglect their health and watch their bodies fall apart and don't bother to maintain their health, they neglect dating and marrying while they're young and are forced to take up relationships with women that high-SMV men didn't want to marry since they think that getting a good job will make them more attractive.

EvelynnSpoiler · 2020-04-01T03:58:31+00:00

Chick mocked a beta dude for getting raped

The realization that women can easily not give a fuck about men they don't respect really stuck with me.

Zero-Milk · 2020-04-01T04:07:33+00:00

That my bloodline likely ends with me.

I had a several paragraphs elaborating on this statement, but I deleted them. Those of you that truly understand the state of things will already understand why I feel this way.

chaar__log · 2020-04-01T04:41:59+00:00

That girls aren't the most pure and innocent creature in the world, and they want it as much as you do if not more. Wanting to fuck them is perfectly normal and not perverted as I used to think.

VigilantSmartbomb · 2020-04-01T04:46:02+00:00

That I was right from the beginning <

mikkeldaman · 2020-04-01T07:46:48+00:00

That the most successful guy with women is someone creative. You always need to find new ways to compliment them, challenge them, tease them, gain an emotional reaction from them in general. Granted, the same script works for all the women because I can pride myself with my novelty, but the same script won't work for the same woman for long. Also balance between flirtation and comfort... too much flirtation and you'll end up labeled as a walking sex toy... too much comfort and you'll end up in the dreaded friendzone.

hopingforclearskin · 2020-04-01T08:51:43+00:00

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Title	What was your biggest RP realization?
Author	slippersweatpants
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Date	March 31, 2020 4:47 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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