A guy at work always steers our conservation towards sex

gbizzle2 · 2021-11-10T09:03:11+00:00

To answer your first question. Yes

To answer your second question. No

ThenTranslator2780 · 2021-11-10T09:09:59+00:00

He's into you, he wants to have sex with you. PERIOD.

Saurid · 2021-11-10T09:07:50+00:00

Well I would guess he brings it up because he fancy's you too. He probably wants to measure what you find attractive to get a good idea if he got a shot. So I say ask him out or ask him directly if he is into you (depending on what you prefer). Overall it's a pretty good sing I would say, personally at least I wouldn't talk about this kind of stuff with a coworker I'm not interested in.

Mog_Melm · 2021-11-10T15:48:37+00:00

It's funny and endearing to see a "clueless woman" who appears to be waiting for a written invitation. I've been there.

I slept over at my first girlfriend's house TWICE before kissing her. After a certain point, she just grabbed me and kissed me. Then I was, like, "Oh, it's ok to escalate now."

bandicoot879 · 2021-11-10T10:07:43+00:00

he wants to fuck you lol

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-10T09:27:48+00:00

No, he thinks you are creepy and weird and is definitely not fantasizing about bending you in pretzel shapes when he lies in bed alone at night.

keptit2real · 2021-11-10T10:35:32+00:00

Are you interested in him?

dxnieljxy · 2021-11-10T11:10:49+00:00

Take the hint lol

_islander · 2021-11-10T15:14:44+00:00

“Would you like some dick?”

eyesopen1111 · 2021-11-10T15:49:25+00:00

Sexy conversations could be flirting, but if I were you, I would confirm his attraction by (1) seeing how he responded to my approach and proximity (Smiles? Concern?), (2) seeing how he responds to my friendly touch (hand on shoulder after a shared laugh) and (3) seeing if he will comply with going on a walk or errand with you alone (let’s run to the store for supplies?) If all of these tests indicated attraction, I’d be much more confident that he was into me than I would be based on his sexy conversation alone.

Cjasencio89 · 2021-11-10T18:44:53+00:00

He tryna play sum smash

MyName_isLame · 2021-11-10T11:32:35+00:00

Men don’t want to talk or let alone think about sex around someone they don’t want to have sex with. The guy wants to have sex with you 100%

SylAbys · 2021-11-10T16:00:06+00:00

Flirting doesn't mean just sex talk! Flirting is complimenting what you like bout the person without truly telling them your into it. Hair, eyes, outfit, smile, scent... Flirtatious should open up possibilities of out of bedroom as well as in. But outside first!!!

It's obvious what he thinks of you...

WolfofLawlStreet · 2021-11-10T13:12:31+00:00

He's not very good at seduction...

I use to frame the conversation so well that the women would initiate the sexual talk. That's the key to sexualizing the conversation.

I know it's slightly off-topic towards your question. It's obvious though that he's attracted to you and is trying to 'shoot his shot'.

bluedrygrass · 2021-11-10T11:50:19+00:00

Why is this crap in this subreddit?

This is just someone venting about her own workplace.

It's got nothing to do with the subreddit, yet the simps are upvoting till their little thumbs fall off.

The sub is getting full of stuff that barely regards seduction at all, and most of the time 0. And them mods and users allows this to happen.

Rude-Effect1659 · 2021-11-10T10:17:49+00:00

Maybe it's his way of making a move.

navyadvice · 2021-11-10T18:28:27+00:00

If you fancy him why does it bother you lol

brobrobro907 · 2021-11-10T21:02:22+00:00

He wants to sniff your butt

Rivale · 2021-11-10T21:17:00+00:00

he's trying really hard to not get friendzoned. you are still pretty young, so I assume he is as well. talking like that in a workplace could get you fired. i feel like most dating gurus tend to tell you to leave this out at work.

tsun_tsun_tsudio · 2021-11-10T17:25:59+00:00

Seems like he’s flirting with sexual harassment more than anything else. Any guy who constantly brings up sex like this one is a lowlife with very carnal intentions and zero respect for you as a woman.

Deep-Advice7587 · 2021-11-10T17:06:50+00:00

He's not interested in you, he just wants Sex.

TheDynamicKing · 2021-11-10T18:08:07+00:00

depending on how you look, it is obvious he wants to fuck your brains out. so yes

DefiantPirate9248 · 2021-11-10T16:13:41+00:00

He wants to smash, and is being a creepy fuckboi about it. If you decide to proceed in anyway with this weirdo, imagine how he will be after, with you, or other "prospects" he feels he also wants to fuck. It's indicative of how he conducts himself, which is slimy...on a good day. Tread carefully, he sounds really gross tho tbh.

BKF89 · 2021-11-10T11:42:29+00:00

Yup

just dont wait for him to make the first move

Jarhae · 2021-11-10T11:19:43+00:00

Stop being an asshole, the guy likes you so stop overthinking stuff and ask him to go on a dinner with you, take it slow that way, I bet he'll stop mentioning his ex if you took him out for a date and make it obvious to him that you like him

mrrooftops · 2021-11-10T16:52:23+00:00

He's not looking for a relationship with you, that's for sure... but if you want some fun at the Christmas party (if you can guarantee to yourself that you won't get feels) he might be your man, and you might be one of his women.

PristineAd9800 · 2021-11-10T12:56:02+00:00

He wants to talk about sex but if he’s funny then that’s the only thing he knows how to talk about

orionshat · 2021-11-10T18:16:04+00:00

Idk, for one he sounds like a liar. He’s trying to impress you.

BigZmultiverse · 2021-11-10T09:01:50+00:00

!remindme 4 weeks (enjoy the dick, girl)

youcheekydelinquent · 2021-11-10T12:10:51+00:00

Sounds like it's also weird. If you are attracted to him and he's not able to navigate bring up the yellow flag while escalating. He's clearly attracted to you.

These days if you can't know your lane or manage your actions in professional settings your likely to be fired or cancelled. He might get away with it now but all it takes is one person to get uncomfortable. So either he's a risk taker and or really stupid.

KawlN · 2021-11-10T08:45:47+00:00

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Left_Cover7825 · 2021-11-10T08:41:32+00:00

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GuaranteeOwn5108 · 2021-11-10T10:09:55+00:00

He’s into you, but he’s the guy so he should hurry up and make a move

Dwaynedibley24601 · 2021-11-10T12:25:33+00:00

That's inappropriate.. if you have asked him to stop contact HR... immediately.

Tossmeaway12378 · 2021-11-10T15:34:06+00:00

Thank you for posting this.. I’ve often had similar questions after starting over in a new job (and being new to flirting).

Comander1SUV · 2021-11-10T15:59:14+00:00

I mean how much more direct can he be??

MuttsNStuff · 2021-11-10T17:01:06+00:00

Shoot your shot, because it’s going to work.

HerrLogic · 2021-11-10T17:41:08+00:00

The sad thing is the would be dating gurus like RSD and the like give this advice and many guys take it too seriously. Guys should figure out if a woman is attracted to them before steering the conversation towards sex. Otherwise they run into problems like you described. The would-be dating gurus would say to always assume attraction but since #MeToo it’s not worth it as a man simply flirting to someone that’s not attracted is considered a crime now.

foxxdan · 2021-11-10T18:09:10+00:00

Irish gang

DieSuzie2112 · 2021-11-10T18:10:18+00:00

Or he’s very bad at flirting, or he’s only sexual attracted to you. If you like him you could just talk to him about it and ask what his intentions are

pdawes · 2021-11-10T21:56:22+00:00

A great test for this kind of thing is to imagine him having this same interaction with another man (imagine a pretty traditional, slightly homophobic guy), and think about if the other man would be like "whoa that's gay" or not.

CalvinHobb3s · 2021-11-10T21:58:33+00:00

Unsubscribing

britian988 · 2021-11-10T22:47:25+00:00

Sounds like he’s flirting with you but doesn’t have the balls to ask outright

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Title	A guy at work always steers our conservation towards sex
Author	Left_Cover7825
Upvotes	389
Comments	102
Date	November 10, 2021 8:38 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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