Approach at a bar doesn’t seem working well compared to daygame

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-25T21:25:30+00:00

I remember once Inwent out to a club with a friend. We sat at a couch and tried chatting up two hot, but bitchy looking Asian girls and were immediately blown off. My friend ended up somewhere with a girl he had chatted up while we were waiting to enter the club. I just wandered around and finally sat down on a couch by myself, put my feet up on a chair and chilled. Noticed that the hottest girl in the club hover around and looked at me. I just looked at her and did the "come hither" gesture with my finger. Next thing you know she was in my lap.

Moral of the story. Who cares what some bitches that know nothing about you react to you. Just go to the next hot thing.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-25T22:17:22+00:00

If you get that reaction is because you don’t project value, women there have their bitch shields up as a defense mechanism against any guy who approaches them to hit on them.

So when you are in a bar, it cannot look like you are there to hit on women. As soon as you say hi they know why you are there. So how can you then hit on them if they won’t even let you say hi without turning you down immediately?

By socialising with the guys and the staff first. Go there to meet guys, work the room, say compliments to the guys, hype them up in front of the girls, make it easy for them to look good, act like you own the place.

The goal is to build status inside the club, you want to be recognised by everyone, make people think that you are the owner or something close.

When people recognise you girls will too. They will then be more open to meeting you because they will have seen you talking to everyone or men will introduce them to you.

You also need to look better than average, avoid t-shirts and sports clothes, go for blazers, and better clothes that make you stand out from the crowd. Avoid glasses 🤓.

Don’t ever sit in a corner, looking around to hunt girls, just keep socialising, and then when you build status you can approach girls. You can start by complimenting them briefly, and then walking away to your next target without waiting for them to react to your compliment. You want to peak their curiosity but not stay there annoying them, just plant the seed that you are giving value without expecting anything in return.

Then reapproach them again after a while…

ResponsibilityKey427 · 2022-03-25T21:21:39+00:00

Bars are better for hooking up. You should go with a group of people so you show sociability.

Bars are made for social interactions . Lots of people there to socialize compared to “daygame” (which id never recommend)

Everyone is drinking so inhibitions are lower, hence the harsher rejections.

RPslimjim · 2022-03-26T00:47:21+00:00

Increase your external attraction. Get buff, dress better, trim the beard. Try again.

Gotta be top notch if you’re doing bar/ night game.

vardarac · 2022-03-25T23:39:28+00:00

What I got I response was a disgusting look from one and the other one said just replied NO. Don’t know what I was doing wrong here.

Sometimes that's just the nature of the game, you're gonna get blown out or weird looks. In your case I wouldn't say you did anything wrong per se, but maybe you could try more personalized or contextual openers. Bring more value to the table up front.

AskTraditional836 · 2022-03-25T23:54:54+00:00

you shouldn’t try to engage in every social role. Play to your position

SocialReject101 · 2022-03-25T21:28:19+00:00

You have to put yourself in correct mindset and up your confidence levels.

If it is a bar you frequent and it is quite packed and popular, get acquainted with staff, bartenders- befriend them. It is needed as a social backup in case you get dismissed or rejected by a girl , so you don't feel completely alone in the environment at first. Later it will be more useful. Befriending bar staff will let you enjoy some perks and build your social value. Don't drain them. Bring value of your own, let them feel appreciated, not used. Many visitors want to befriend staff just to boast and use it for their own gain without giving anything in return. Once people see staff being friendly and open to you (not just being customer friendly) people will notice that you are in demand of sorts. Bar staff, especially bartenders deal with thousands of people and are socially savy. Almost everyone knows that. They get hit on constantly people try to be friends with them - but only a handful of people really get there. This is number one.

Number two. Don't open up with "Hi" unless you are ubercharismatic. Bring some more guns. Tell them their dress looks nice or they have good sense of style, multiple ways to approach. Read sidebar of this board. Once rsjected,don't stress it, get to your bar friends, repeat on someone else later. Maybe the ones that rejected you might approach you later.

burncushlikewood · 2022-03-26T01:49:44+00:00

Yea interesting, the old saying is that 99% of guys don't do day game but it's the best time to meet women. If day game is working for you then stick to that, I personally prefer bars/clubs to pick up girls, mystery method and a mix of some other types of game that work well. Some women are just closed off to the idea of meeting men at bars, I've heard some girls that are friends of mine that use the word "creepy" to describe some men at the club, I find the dancefloor to be the best place for me, and it's my bread and butter, girls notice when you're having success in a night out, which may make her more inviting/approachable, that's the plus side to night game, it's a situation where you can be observed and build that social proof in the venue

daivaras24 · 2022-03-26T10:25:37+00:00

Some chick just like the attention or the feeling of power by rejection dudes. Don't worry just have fun at the bar

BatBottleBank · 2022-03-25T21:05:22+00:00

Not attractive enough

Bars are superficial on steroids. All women want that though. So you’re daygame approach girls are the same level of superficial as the nightclub girls, but just politer

2022-03-26T00:29:32+00:00

Try going out solo

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-03-26T01:08:11+00:00

They got their bitch shields up.

putcoolusernamehere · 2022-03-26T02:06:02+00:00

Variance. Your sample size is too low to draw conclusions.

incognito3107 · 2022-03-26T06:31:27+00:00

Sometimes you just get unlucky. That also boosts your confidence and thick skin in the long run. Take a lesson, adapt and good luck next time.

jjboy91 · 2022-03-26T18:33:59+00:00

Where are live, bars sucks cause they ask you to sit at a table. So you can't interact or mingle with people.

I would say, do what works for you

Title	Approach at a bar doesn’t seem working well compared to daygame
Author	Holiday-Breakfast504
Upvotes	40
Comments	65
Date	March 25, 2022 9:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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