As a late bloomer I'm finding out seduction is pretty straight forward and simple.

snaug · 2019-03-02T16:39:22+00:00

... how easy is to seduce someone when you actually like them .

Dude yes. I feel like when you have a genuine interest in someone the progression kinda comes naturally, bc it is hardwired. Particularly, when they also have an interest in you... Sounds easy when put that way, but of course one needs to build the confidence in themselves to actually take on these pursuits, and honestly I think the seduction community can help with this.

Simultaneously, I also think there's a lot of "pua bs" in the seduction community. Namely, I feel like it encourages and attempts to train guys to pursue girls that they are not genuinely interested in. I don't think it's necessarily unethical or anything to try to sleep with girls you aren't so-called genuinely interested in, but I think it probably causes confusion in a lot of guys' minds. In particular, they probably wonder why it is so hard, and maybe feel like they totally suck with girls as a consequence of putting their energy into girls they would simply never have chemistry with. Most people, I think, should stick to pursuing those genuine interests rather than wondering why they can't manage to hook up with just any ol' cute gal.

okabekudo · 2019-03-02T20:57:57+00:00

how easy is to seduce someone when you actually like them

Lol wut? I'm a fucking badass when it comes to girls I don't like. But when there's a girl I like I almost always put them on a pedestal. Which makes me ofc feel unworthy of them.

geeered · 2019-03-02T17:30:28+00:00

Great for you if it's "built into your brain".

It's not built into my brain - quite the opposite, my paradigms are generally anti-seductive if anything.

phfenix · 2019-03-03T01:16:45+00:00

Sounds like you must be very physically attractive if you have 0 game and it just clicks for you instantly. A lot of guys go through a lot of rejection and contempt when they have no natural game.

Hoogidaba · 2019-03-02T21:37:48+00:00

I think the key is that you just have to be cool. Whoever you’re flirting with is just a person too, so just treat them like one. You don’t have to be clever or witty, especially if nothing clever or witty comes to mind. You just have to be yourself. I mean, eventually you have to make a move, but just be cool about it.

eyesopen1111 · 2019-03-03T03:53:25+00:00

"The advice of no advice" is like the "be yourself" school of thought. That boils down to dating as a numbers game. Ya win some, ya lose some.

Without skill, people depend on luck. If you care so little about the topic of game that luck is the way you want to go, then apply the same approach to MMA. After all, you naturally defend yourself when attacked, so why study martial arts? Just go kick ass, Genius! Whoops, all those guys have skill! Well, the same is true in the dating arena.

You sound like a novice who almost got lucky once under favorable conditions.

raptorman181 · 2019-03-02T22:50:30+00:00

Yeah I’ve tried to sleep with girls I wasn’t particularly interested in... let’s just say it didn’t go too well in the bedroom lol

AsurasPath23 · 2019-03-03T04:34:21+00:00

I challenged myself through public speaking and working in clubs to create events or promote things, so doing this literally removed most of the butterflies, I still have some tho

IntoxicatedOrange · 2019-03-02T16:05:43+00:00

Are you really in a position to make this conclusion? I don't think I agree, you may have gotten lucky.

account_for_rel · 2019-03-02T23:52:14+00:00

I disagree so much

nedelll · 2019-03-02T22:32:31+00:00

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exceptionallysweaty · 2019-03-03T03:20:48+00:00

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Not_My_Real_Acct_ · 2019-03-03T20:31:52+00:00

I thought I was very shy and slow, but even if I struggle to get physical and touch I subconsciously look at them in a seductive way and I have been told how cute or attractive that is after the fact.

For me, a lot of it was just having better shit to do than chase girls. Obviously you don't want to be a workaholic, but if you're the guy trying to pick up randos walking by at the mall, ugh.

GrislyGrape · 2019-03-02T19:32:20+00:00

Well it's not rocket science. You don't need to be smart to do it.

pacg · 2019-03-03T04:24:04+00:00

Well sure. Problem is some guys vibrate at a weird frequency, clutch up, and put women off. Therefore they need some coaching and the proper encouragement to even get to where you’ve found yourself. This place is for them.

KieselgurKid · 2019-03-03T03:19:33+00:00

seduction is built-in in your brain,...

That's what I say, it's bred in our brains for hundreds of thousands of years

Title	As a late bloomer I'm finding out seduction is pretty straight forward and simple.
Author	TRRTTRT
Upvotes	317
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Date	March 2, 2019 3:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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